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Where Do You Stand? Making More Money Than Your Significant Other

Living in a dual-income household is a plus, and while history has ingrained in us that it's the men who bring home the bacon, gender roles are not what they used to be. Being successful is a great accomplishment, but money has the ability to complicate things, especially relationships. Some men are admittedly intimidated by a successful woman's independence and power, but tell me, where do you stand on the notion of making more than your significant other?


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Symphonee Symphonee 8 years
When I first started dating my boyfriend he made more than me. We had no problems. Now I am the primary breadwinner. He has dealt with it very well. I had actually had more problems with it than he has. I am a worrier and I wanted him to also help around the house more.
Squeaks26 Squeaks26 8 years
I have always made more money than my boyfriends. It's not by choice it just seems men around my age aren't as successful and don't know the concept of saving money. The next guy I date I want to make more money than me. And not even just a little more but enough that I don't have to worry about money with him. I always felt like the provider. Since I had more money I should be the one paying for more things. Call me old fashion but I don't want to be the more successful one. I start to feel like a baby sitter or a Mom.
darkangeldaria darkangeldaria 8 years
I could care less. As long as we're both doing what we love and contributing to our life I don't care who makes more. What I do care about is that I myself always make enough that I can survive without the other half that way I don't feel like I 'need' him just that I want him in my life. Tis goodness.
Meike Meike 8 years
It doesn't matter either way. Currently, I make more while my husband is in school. The role will more than likely reverse when he graduates. As long as both of us are supportive of each other in any scenario, that's all that matters.
le-romantique le-romantique 8 years
my boyfriend and i are both in the entertainment business. He has an associates degree and is an audio engineer at a recording studio, i'm getting my masters and do floor directing/audio for television... i SHOULD be making more money... WHEN HE MAKES MONEY its good but hes there like 48 hours straight and only gets paid for a 4 hour session... pretty ridiculous... I'm expecting to be making more than him come november when I have my masters degree...
lemamike lemamike 8 years
My parents are retired but my mom's last job she made more money and my dad loves her even more for her strength, courage, integrity, principles and amazing leadership skills. It's a guy with that kind of attitude I want to marry!
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
I'm in the minority here. If I earned more than my husband, it would bother me, AND bother him. We're old-fashioned in this way.
genesisrocks genesisrocks 8 years
Haha Jude, I agree with you completely. Men shouldn't mooch or get insecure. It should be about love not money
gemsera gemsera 8 years
I currently make more money than my beau. Its not a huge deal - although he does prefer to take care of me. I have bigger bills too. We manage thats what matters.
aimeeb aimeeb 8 years
I don't think Ill ever make more than him, ha.
lawchick lawchick 8 years
Nice avatar Belle :)
Belle1031 Belle1031 8 years
I think it would bother my boyfriend if I made more money than him but not to the extreme and he wouldn't tell me directly. We've talked and I asked him what would happen if 15yrs from now I'm making more money than him, if he would expect me to be a stay at home mom or not and he is all up for me working if it makes me happy regardless of how much money it generates as long as I stay at home when we have a baby for a bit which I totally plan to do. I think if he were to ever make it a big deal it would be a deal breaker as I will not feed a mans ego by demeaning myself.
queenlizzie queenlizzie 8 years
I make about 5 times what my partner makes. Our house is in my name only. He contributes to the household expenses, and overall we spend the same percentage of our income on household stuff. That's OK by me. Of course, my partner's currently in school, so eventually I expect that income ratio to change.
KadBunny KadBunny 8 years
Strange; my boyfriend and I were just talking about this. We're still finishing school anyways but the way things are looking in the economy he's not feeling confident about his field (journalism) whereas he feels mine will always be in demand (psychology). I disagree (everyone needs writers), but either way--he said "I can just stay home and clean the house" teehee. :p I'm sure if things ever came to that he'd find no shame in it, but obviously he'd want to be the main provider. It wouldn't cause real problems though; just one of his cute little ego trips. But we love each other. All that matters is we're not starving and out in the streets.
GScott86 GScott86 8 years
Don't care, long as she isn't a gold digger and loves me for me, and we make enough together, or even if she doesn't work but at least does something good with her life, I couldn't really care less. I wouldn't be embarrassed if she made more than me either, I know what I want to do with my life, and it's not about the money really. It's about the two of us, not everyone else.
bengalspice bengalspice 8 years
My ex used to be really mean to me about my job and how much I made. He kept talking about how he didn't like having to support my expense tastes when I never asked him for anything, and I pretty much supported myself without his help.
valancyjane valancyjane 8 years
I made more than my husband until he got a promotion a few months back. If he were the type to care that I was making more, I wouldn't be married to him. I don't have time for that kind of ego-tending.
skigurl skigurl 8 years
as long as we have money, i don't care...not sure if he would care either he makes a lot now but in a job that he will not make much more throughout his career...and while i'm making half his salary, i will be making more and more and more until i retire so eventually i could catch up...hope he wouldn't mind because it would just mean more disposable income!
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
bring it on, I'd love to make the money in the family!! honestly I've never dated the type of guys who would care about this sort of thing at ALL. and I wouldn't have a problem sharing as long as we stuck to a budget.
Jude-C Jude-C 8 years
The only two problems I could see with this would be: a) the man becomes a mooch and lives off of his high-earning lady instead of helping contribute, or b) the man is an insecure, primitive tool who feels threatened by not making as much as his lady. In both cases, the man just wouldn't be worth any self-respecting woman's time and affection, so really, there's no problem with earning more whatsoever! :)
lilCROAT03 lilCROAT03 8 years
im a trust fund baby- but i don't act that way! i spend my money bc i have the guilt of it as not being 'mine' - i'm not cheap but i don't live like paris hilton. might be b/c i actually work and have a job and know what it's like to earn money. it bothers my fiance bc his friends always tease him about who my dad is and that he lives WITH ME (euros are really egoistical about that stuff)- but i reassure him with the way i act with money and being responsible. we try to be 50/50 but it's nice having that pillow to fall on when times get rough.
CYL CYL 8 years
I don't think it would matter too much, as long as he loves his job. I mean I would rather be with a guy who is passionate about what he does than someone stuck at a job they hate but make a lot of money.
Gatito Gatito 8 years
I make a significant amount more than my guy and the kicker is he is far ahead of me in the education department. I think it used to bother him more than it does now. Although he would never admit it, I think it's a motivator for him. I try to just find ways to let him take care of me to remind him that I need him.
bluebellknoll bluebellknoll 8 years
For me, it doesn't matter who makes more money. But I have a feeling that it would bother my hubby a little if I started making more.
jueycruiser jueycruiser 8 years
Even though we both work the same amount, I make more money. I like it, it makes me feel independent. we rarely argue about money, and i get to shop and blow through cash without him caring at all.
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