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Is It Worse to be Humiliated or Lose Your Job?

Which Is Worse: Office Humiliation or Getting Fired?

Back in 2007, a 20-something intern at Anglo Irish Bank in Boston made a foolish mistake and it was so ridiculous that Radar is still talking about it. Here's the gist: young intern wants to celebrate Halloween, lies using a family obligation cover, and gets caught when boss finds evidential photos on Facebook. The following emails were exchanged between Kevin the intern and his boss, Paul.


I just wanted to let you know that I will not be able to come into work tomorrow. Something came up at home and I had to go to New York this morning for the next couple of days. I apologize for the delayed notice.

Kind regards,

Kevin's boss followed up by checking Facebook where he found this picture of his intern sporting a full fairy costume and celebrating with a can of Busch Light. What else could Paul do but reply to Kevin, attach the photo, and BCC the entire company on the email?


Thanks for letting us know—hope everything is ok in New York. (cool wand)



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calliope calliope 9 years
The Radar article was interesting. It is sometimes embarrassing to be part of a generation that considers every thing to do important enough to take pictures of/post blogs about.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 9 years
Poor kid? please, I think its appropriate to learn lessons like this, it makes for a better future work ethic.
discocactus discocactus 9 years
I don't see why his boss needed to send it out in an email to the whole company. I think it would have been enough if he had just sent him the email/left a comment. I wouldn't want to work for someone who got their kicks this way. What if I screwed up (not that I would do something stupid like lie to my boss), would this person make fun of me in front of the company?
keiraz keiraz 9 years
Both are horrible situations, but knowing that I party and have fun anyway..I'd rather take the humiliation heheh
MindayH MindayH 9 years
I would take the humiliation. People at my company have done so much worse. I wouldn't even have made the top 10. In this case I would have been remembered though...
em113 em113 9 years
Why was the guy facebook friends with his boss? (stupid decision) And if he wasn't, then why did the boss go out of his way to find the guy on facebook? meaning it was difficult for him to access the page so he had to do a lot of digging. (If this is the case then I have a problem with the boss, he's within his legal rights but that doesn't make what he did right in my book)
kacott09 kacott09 9 years
that boy goes to my college. he's a tool.
juliarose23 juliarose23 9 years
If I got humiliated, would i want to return to my job?
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
I remember this story, poor kid...
emalove emalove 9 years
I don't know...I'm kind of with Lyv. But being fired would be terrible too.
Lyv Lyv 9 years
Fire me pleeeeease. It's not so much about the whole office seeing you in a tranny-fairy costume, but being caught lying must be so terrifying. I never lie if I'm not 100% sure it won't get figured out. ;x
Allyson-N-Jason Allyson-N-Jason 9 years
I think it all depends on what kind and level of humiliation it is. If the humiliation I experience is extremely embarrassing and tragic to where I just can't show my face or let anyone at work see me ever again, then hell I'd probably WANT to be fired or just leave out on my own...but again the incident would have to be -very- bad. Otherwise, I'd deal mild silly humiliation that I can later laugh at. Much better than being fired. In my opinion, what was described the article wasn't that bad. If a man will wear a fairy costume for Halloween, he can't feel too bad about co-workers seeing him this way. He's "open-minded" to be begin with. He chose to have the outfit on in the first place. On the other hand, It's possible that he could not want co-workers to know he's into dressing as fairies for parties. I think if anything, he'd feel stupid for being caught in a blatant lie in front of all of his co-workers and boss via email. Lying looks bad.
mazdagirluk mazdagirluk 9 years
I will be sharing with my intern!
okmaebe okmaebe 9 years
I love the reply e-mail. So clever!
Renees3 Renees3 9 years
I think this is hilarious! I would rather be humiliated then fired, finding a new job sucks, but he was jsut an intern so who knows. and I think that boss is great!
jessie jessie 9 years
i think be humiliated would build part of who you are in a way..meaning..hopefully you'll be a strong enough and mature enough person to come back, deal with the conqences (sp?), and learn from your mistakes.
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 9 years
There is nothing bad about your co-workers knowing you party hard. You're young, and they can all probably relate. However, getting fired is just plain embarrassing.
shanimalcracker shanimalcracker 9 years
I still can't believe how dumb of a mistake that kid made.
moxierain moxierain 9 years
Yeah that's why I don't put any info & pix on myspace, facebook, or on my blog that I wouldn't want to see on the news. Even if you do make it for "friends only" its still on the internet.
cubadog cubadog 9 years
It is not like the this picture is really that humiliating he clearly was out in public and he had it on the internet so he obviously did not care. I would prefer neither.
mini_pixie mini_pixie 9 years
I guess it depends on the costume! (and how much you like the job)
Bisque Bisque 9 years
I'm a bit undecided on this, but honestly I'd take the humiliation like this than get fired. I'd feel more humiliated upon being fired.
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