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Would Your Guy Be Supportive If You Earned More Than Him?

Could Your Guy Handle It If You Earned More?

Two-income households are almost a given these days, and more dough means you get to live more comfortably as a couple. And while most guys I know joke about wishing they had a sugar mama, there are both men and women who prefer a more traditional household with the man as primary breadwinner. Would your guy be supportive if you earned more than him?


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ning ning 9 years
My guy makes quite a bit. But I am making more than him and probably much more later this year =D He's quite happy with it lol
legalbeagle legalbeagle 9 years
Other: I dont have a boyfriend lol
julieulie julieulie 9 years
I currently earn more than he does, but once he's done with residency he'll be making over $300,000 per year. So yeah, as a research oncologist.. I'll never top that.
sweetrae80 sweetrae80 9 years
I think my fiance would love if I made more money than him. Hopefully I will someday :)
terryt18 terryt18 9 years
Girl~ U best be lettin him know whats what girl u cant be paying for all the toilet paper
missemma10001 missemma10001 9 years
I pay 60% of the rent, he pays 40%. I know I make more... but it sucks because he doesn't contribute to any of the toiletries or laundry... and somehow he doesn't realize it. Very annoying.
Asia84 Asia84 9 years
i think it depends on the guy and his ego. i meet guys who make decent money, but once they realize how much i make and how young i am, they get intimidated. i actually had one guy tell me that he doesn't mind it, but it makes him feel like i don't need him. which i don't, other than the fact that i would want him around. also, i think if the woman is dominate in her personality more so than the man, then he's gonna be insecure. i'm a dominate person, so regardless if i made more or not, i'll have to find a man who loves that/can tolerate that about me.
kehinde75 kehinde75 9 years
I make more money than my significant other and it honestly does come up from time to time. He worries about being a sponge or leeching off me. Just knowing that he is aware of that makes me feel totally ok with bearing the bigger financial burden. I've only dated one guy who made more than me and he accused me of having a career that was going nowhere! As if! Money is always a sticky issue and I think it's always best to be totally honest in serious relationships and not accept the taboo about being open about things like: how much money do you make? How much debt do you have? How is your credit? Are you saving for retirement? Even if the answers aren't ideal, it's so much better to know than to be in the dark and make bad assumptions.
onion-waffle onion-waffle 9 years
Heh, Lorihmatthews, good point! I do spend way more on primping and clothes than my boy! Seriously though, while I may make more money than him, he's way better at keeping level-headed and his emotional maturity and how well he treats me when I'm flipping out totally outweighs any time that he can't treat me to dinner or buy me something fancy. I actually used to date a really rich guy who was born into fortune, so everything had been handed to him on a silver platter...and I will never EVER walk that path again. It is so nice to be with someone who understands the value of working, effort, and being responsible.
emalove emalove 9 years
I DO earn more than him and he's fine with it!
omega2 omega2 9 years
my live-in significant other currently makes more than me but that is only due to the amount of overtime he works. If it wasn't for the overtime, I would be making more than him, and he's okay with that. And, during the winter (He's in excavation), sometimes he's laid off for weeks at a time. He is getting ready to quit what he does now to go back to school, so for at least a couple of years I will be the primary breadwinner.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
I don't know. I'll find out someday. :)
almost-famous almost-famous 9 years
Funny, I'm not in a relationship right now, but I believe every woman should have her own dough coming in from somewhere else. I've been through the "its my money", "I pay the rent" and even "where's my present" game some boys (not men) run. So it's best to have something of your own!
CillaB8 CillaB8 9 years
Ironically, my boyfriend just told me last night he would have no problem if I made more money than him.
Shinykatie Shinykatie 9 years
We seem to have taken it in turns to over-take each other on income, but I currently out-earn my boyfriend by quite a significant amount (he's just given up his job to be a full time writer). But since we've always just put all our money into our joint account and then paid ourselves spending money for fun things as we need it, there's never been any issue over who earns more. I genuinely think of it as our money, and neither of us would think twice about who earns more.
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 9 years
I have always made more than my BFs and none of them seemed to care.
gigill gigill 9 years
Oh by here I mean the UK - I find money talk is more popular in North America.
gigill gigill 9 years
My last three bf's - I've made more money than them. I think it frustrates me more than it frustrates them. My latest one just started earning more than me, but salaries and all that aren't a big deal here. The fact that I also have no debt doesn't seem to affect him either way as well.
luvthebosox luvthebosox 9 years
We've gone back and forth on who makes more and it doesn't bother either of us either way. I just took a job that pays quite a bit more than his job, but I think down the line he will make more than me. His business is starting to take off and the sky is the limit on how much he can make, whereas my field is more limited.
melizzle melizzle 9 years
I do make more money than him and there's no issue. In fact, I think he secretly wants to be a stay-at-home-dad someday. :)
freegracefrom freegracefrom 9 years
I make more than my guy right now, he's cool with it. If he made more, I'd be cool with it. As others have said, it's teamwork and ultimately "our" money. I think it's the amount of work that people put into it that matters most. I would get irritated if he's just working parttime and I'm working my ass off with two fulltime jobs and vice versa.
mayara mayara 9 years
I don't make more than my husband, but he's more than okay with the idea. If I did, I'd be third generation to do so. My grandmother made more than my grandfather, and my mom started making more than my dad before I left home, and continues to do so. Even being the one making less, I couldn't be in a long term relationship with someone who was much bothered by the idea of me making more money.
ilanac13 ilanac13 9 years
i feel like a majority of my relationships i've always made more money than my man - but that's because i started working a 'real job' before they did. now with my current boyfriend - i made more money than him when we moved back to nyc - and i think that he was fine with it. it never seemed to bother him. luckily he just got a new job that means he makes more than double of me. it's his turn to pay the bills so i can save!
bfly1133 bfly1133 9 years
As others have mentioned, it helps the entire household if someone makes more money. My husband wants what is best for me and he could care less if I made more than him. Then again, the money that comes in is "our" money. We don't make a distinction as to who brought in more.
SkinnyMarie SkinnyMarie 9 years
He wouldn't mind, if it was true!
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