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You Asked: Should I See a Psychic About My Future?

DearSugar --

Hi. I am going through a difficult time in my life at the moment. I just graduated college a little while back and have no idea what I want to do with my life. I have no career path lined up like most of my friends and to top if off I just went through a terrible break-up. I am so sick of crying everyday and feeling confused and am pretty much willing to try anything to help me get out of this funk I have been in.

I have seriously been considering seeing a psychic. I just wanted to know if it's something I should pursue and if any of the readers have been to one themselves. I am very fearful I'm going to be conned. I am really just curious to hear people's experiences on their psychic meetings. -- Psychic Curious

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Dear Psychic Curious --

It's really very tough to feel directionless after college, though it's not at all an unusual experience, despite the fact that many of your friends have found a path. You haven't failed or faltered, yet, Psychic Curious; these next years are exactly the time for you to experiment, wander, dabble and explore.

Passion and focus do not immediately come to all of us; we must discover those qualities in ourselves through trial and error. Unless you attended a vocational school, you are exactly where you should be. You are at the beginning.

Perhaps our community here can make some recommendations or share their experiences with psychics. I think it's possible any holisitic health practitioners in your community might be able to recommend reputable astrologers or tarot card readers, should you decide to go that route.

That said, Psychic Curious, nothing will substitute for getting to know yourself, exploring different subjects and careers, test-driving a few jobs, asking people for informational interviews, and reading some books that might inspire and guide you. Have you considered talking with a career counselor? They'll often help you evaluate, through various tests, your natural skills, your personality and temperment, and careers that might suit you.

There's also a great book called Roadtrip Nation: A Guide to Discovering Your Path in Life, written in 2003 by two college graduates who spent a summer in an RV, traveling the country, interviewing successful people, and trying to suss out their own career paths. That link will send you to, where you can find out more. Here's a great NPR interview with them, too. Another nice book to check out is called What Should I Do With My Life, written by Po Bronson. Several big universities now assign this book for all incoming freshman.

We'll be thinking about you, Psychic Curious. Check back in and let us know how you are and what you're discovering! Please.


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Fancy04 Fancy04 10 years
I agree with DearSugar.
honeysugar28 honeysugar28 10 years
Personally I would rather go see a therapist than a psychic. I feel better getting advice from a professsional. And by the way I feel the same way you do about the career issue I see so many other girls who are younger and just seem to know all the right paths while I'm just stuck not knowing where to go next. I think eventually in life we get one big break that makes things fall into place.
runnergeek runnergeek 10 years
Funny, i went through a similar phase recently and i am quite a bit older than you. I just moved 2000 miles back to my hometown. my husband and I made the decision to move together, but for a variety of reasons, he hasn't still moved yet. He will be moving shortly, as soon as we close on my house. Anyway, 4 months have already past and i've done nothing but soul search. I did infact go see a psychic. She is someone i've been to before, so i feel comfortable enough to know she is giving me guidance and doesn't claim to 'predict' the future. I guess what im saying is, go see one if it makes you feel better. Just don't accept everything he or she says as fact.
Tiinnaaaa Tiinnaaaa 10 years
I think all that phsycic stuff is a scam.. but hey.. thats just me!
honey31 honey31 10 years
No dont especially if they charge you for it!Our future is not to know.What if the psychic tells you that you are going to die soon than you would be living in fear anf thats not the way to live.I dont trust most of them any way.
iheartfooty iheartfooty 10 years
Erm...I'm a psychic myself (I dont do tarot and stuff) and I'd say no.....more often the computer ones you get online are apt if you want to do it!! I have gotten a LOT of stuff correct, but, a lot of stuff wrong too!
ccsugar ccsugar 10 years
I'm having the same problems too! I graduted in '04, and the job I have right now is not very fulfilling (can you tell, I'm supposed to be working right now but I am on this site!). I still haven't decided what I want to be when I grow up. I think it's sort of a process of elimination. For example, I have a desk job right now, and I HATE it. I miss being up on my feet, walking everywhere, like when I was in school and other jobs I've had. I think I may check out that book above, What Should I Do With My Life, b/c that is what I ask myself everyday!
Cycy Cycy 10 years
Oh my goodness. I went thru the exact same period last spring. i was just done with journalism school, my illusions about getting a job really quick and easy had been mercilessly crushed and I was in an unrequited love situation. I desperately needed to know that things would get better. That's when I started with online astrology. First the innocent, for fun-ones that are not so serious. Then customised, personal astrology. You give details of your date and place of birth, name, and stuff. In return they give you an 85-page psychiatric report based on the personal details you have given. Lastly i talked to one online that called herself an astrologer but she was in reality a psychic medium of sorts. That's when my wake-up call came swiftly. As a christian I couldn't believe what I had been exposing myself to. Anyways, to my point. Of all the things that they predicted, and said would come to pass, maybe one percent was accurate. Life's too short to make all the mistakes on your own, learn from others. Do not waste your time, money, energy and resources on psychics. Instead you can work on your anxieties in a different way. What worked for me was several self-help books, exercise, understanding friends and family and finding love. I wish you all the best.
nicachica nicachica 10 years
i could have written this post 2 years ago (although my boy issue was that i wanted a boyfriend and was single!). i felt hopeless, lost, with no clue what jobs i even wanted to apply for. i had a college degree in hand from a prestigious university and no real prospects. So i understand...not a fun situation. But psychics are not the answer. You are. Here's what i did: NETWORKED my butt off! I swallowed my pride and emailed my resume to different people i knew that i honestly didn't think could help me. They came back with lots of ideas and offers for informational interviews and forwarded my resume to their friends. I wish i could say that i found a job 2 weeks later, but really, it was a learning experience about what i wanted to do and it helped to toughen me up to the hard world of interviewing. It took me about 7 months to find a permanent job but i waitressed and worked at a small non-profit in the meantime and that ended up helping immensely. 2 years later i now know i want to go into events planning and stop doing administrative work due to my job experience. i have a lot more direction in my life and things are going pretty smoothly (although i am looking for a new job). So keep your chin up, work hard at networking and know that it won't be overnight. It will take time but be patient and you'll find your way. Good luck!
Bonne Bonne 10 years
I've worked as a phone psychic before - I wouldn't suggest you go to one. We have you start off with a general question and then "in order for the cards to be played right" have you ask a more distinct question. Using the cards we can "offer general advice" I only did it for about a week and quit. Not a fun job.
designergirl designergirl 10 years
Dearsugars advice is great. I don't have any experience with psychics- always thought they were a bit of a scam. If you feel that you need it, I would say go for it, but I think hat professional help is better, like a therapist or career counselor. I completely understand your problem though, I am going through the same thing right now- everyone seems to know what they want to do and where they're going in life. I'm just trying a lot of new things right npw in hopes that one might fit....
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