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Your Two Cents: Is Money a Taboo Subject?

The other day one of my closest girlfriends politely asked if I wouldn't mind telling her how much I pay in rent. I was amused with the proper way she presented the question because we're the type of friends who tell each other everything straight and have had way more intense chats than what's my monthly rent. But money can be a very taboo subject for some people, and there are definitely some financial details I'd rather keep to myself. How do you feel about money conversations?


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enSue enSue 9 years
My friends and I don't have a problem discussing rent, income, mortgage, bills, etc. However, I do try to avoid religious and political topics with certain friends due to differences of opinion.
snowbunny11 snowbunny11 9 years
You can gain a lot of insight by talking about money, rent, cell phone bills with your friends. Income can be very touchy, I almost never talk about that other than to my family, but if a friend were interested in holding a similar job (obviously not a coworker) or had a good reason to be interested in my income, I definitely wouldn't mind sharing it. I also think people HATE talking about student loans, I never like talking about mine short of mentioning that I have them if the subject comes up! I can't help but be jealous of those lucky ducks that got their college paid for by their parents either!
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
I have no problem talking about money with anyone. It's not a secret how much I make or spend on anything.
insanitypepper insanitypepper 9 years
I'm a gov't employee, so my salary is public record. My friends and I talk money all the time, since none of us have any, and we need to share advice. I hate talking about religion and politics. That's just too personal!
anorthan anorthan 9 years
the problem i have with discussing money is i seem to be the first person everyone thinks of as a quick fix to their financial problems-my husband i help out a lot of people in our lives but after awhile it's started to feel like a "good thing" is leaving a bad taste
wackdoodle wackdoodle 9 years
I was bought up not to discuss money, religion or political but eh my parents are dead Foxie said about her income, my income too is a matter of public record. However, if someone wants to know they need only ask. My friends assume because I live frugally and haven't bothered to upgrade my lifestyle (buy a huge TV, stereo, a luxury car, a bigger multi-room apartment without rent control to match my income that I make considerably less. Why waste money just because its there. It's not a taboo topic with anyone its just not always important.
mayara mayara 9 years
I generally don't talk about money with people mostly because I know they may have issues with it. However, I personally am fine with talking with friends about it, and think that if we did more of that some of us would have fewer problems with it.
sophia_HL sophia_HL 9 years
I find that telling people what you make can cause problems. Even if they seem ok with it, they might feel envious, or maybe I would??
foxie foxie 9 years
Well since I'm in the military, and basically anyone can look up how much I make online... I guess it's not a big issue for me or any of my friends. I think it's silly that it's considered such a no-no topic.
telewyo telewyo 9 years
I don't mind it with my very close friends and family but I recently bought a house and a co-worker (who I know makes much less than me because of her position) straight up asked me what my mortgage is! I felt that was essentially asking me about my income and I totally sidestepped the question.
MandyJoBo MandyJoBo 9 years
I kind of like to know how much people make so that I can relate to them. If money wasn't such a taboo subject, I think people would feel less threatened by people who presumably make more.
McCubcakes McCubcakes 9 years
I think it's important to share money information with friends. If you think you are paying too much in rent, ask your friends what they pay...then you'll know if you are getting ripped off. Same for your job. I think we shouldn't feel like this is taboo with friends. Women make too little money to begin with, we need to know what our going rate should be.
millarci millarci 9 years
I would never tell anyone my income. If I made less than that person, it would be embarrassing. If I made more than that person, it would be rude to say.
katejlogan katejlogan 9 years
I wish I could find a shrink that would help me work though my money issues. I need a shrink to help me deal w/ the head stuff as well as the practical dollars and cents stuff. Talk about a lucrative field (take note, anyone in grad school). I think a lot of my relationship and personal hang-ups have to do with money, in one form or another.
uaintkidin uaintkidin 9 years
I hate money! I wish it didnt matter how much you made. I feel like people judge one another based on money. So, I try to steer clear of that subject. I will ask my friends how they save money instead of spending, too. It's interesting to see how people save their money (or not). Whether it's in one lump-sum account or if they actually split their savings in order to put money into several accounts in order to save money for specific things like a vacation, a tv, etc. Or if they always save a certain amount each pay period. (Not to mention retirement accounts) I'll ask people about certain bills (water, gas, cable) - it's a nice gauge to see if you are way over or under-paying something. Or if your friends have tricks on ways they save on certain things. Sorry - this was kind of long and rambling....
cubadog cubadog 9 years
I think it is extremely tacky to talk about your income outside of your family and even then I do not give a lot of details. It really isn't anyone's business. I don't mind discussing rent just because I have friends that live in NYC and they are floored by how little my rent is in Portland.
Jeny Jeny 9 years
I was brought up that talking about religion, politics, or money in public is not polite! My girlfriends, however, are a different subject. We talk about EVERYTHING. But we don't make it a point to talk about in loudly. We both know how much we pay in rent and our salaries for the most part.. but to talk about it out in the open is DEFINITELY taboo
melizzle melizzle 9 years
Not among good friends. I wouldn't go around announcing that info, but I wouldn't hide it either.
seven7 seven7 9 years
It depends on who I am talking to I guess, I generally don't have a problem with rent and bill topics at all, I did learn though you have to be careful what you say to whom about it, because even if you don't have a problem talking about it, they may. My closest co-worker at my old job wanted to know how much I was going to make at my new job, and I told him...what a mistake...he wanted nothing to do with me after that. In a way it was good, because I don't need friends who are too jealous to be happy for me, but on the other hand, I hadn't done anything wrong, and I've always felt I did. So in short, I don't discuss income with people I don't absolutely trust...and I only discuss income with those I trust who I know make more than I do.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
With friends and family I will always ask if they don't mind if I ask how much they make or how muich they pay for rent...I ahve no problem asking them that. With co-workers it's different. I don't like prying too much into them.
mandy_frost mandy_frost 9 years
I chose "other" on the survey. (Technically, I would feel more comfortable talking about politics but that's because several of my friends and I work closely in and around politics, and I talk about it all the time.) Anyhow, my parents raised me to not talk about money, but I cannot disagree more. I talk to my friends about how much they make. Since we are in similar fields and women make less than men, I think it's key for us to discuss salary so we women can make better decisions when negotiating salary. Additionally, I have some friends who grew up with the idea that money grows on trees. I have no problem saying to them, "Well, I have a student loan bill and car bill and need to save some." They are usually annoyed, but I think it is helpful for them to realize that "only $30" adds up if you spend "only $30" for a meal a few times a week! Finally, I do agree with the previous commenter who said no discussing salary with coworkers. That is a GOLDEN rule for me. There is no way I would do that. There is no need to create jealousy or a bad working environment within your particular office.
erratic-assassin erratic-assassin 9 years
I probably only go as far as how much our mortgage or cell phone bill is, but that's it. I dont tell people how much I get paid or what my bonuses are (except to my fiance, of course). For me, it's more of the fact that I'm defensive. College wasn't for me and I have a great job that pays well and sometimes I feel like people judge me because I don't have a peice of paper that says I-Have-An-Eductaion or what-not. While I understand how important that peice of paper is, I just prefer to not be judged as far as how much I make...which isn't bad. I know...what a psycho I am.
krazykarot krazykarot 9 years
I can't believe you didn't include an option in the poll for not caring about talking money. I don't always tell all my friends all of my financial details, but I really don't mind talking about it. Or in my case, complaining about it. ;) It doesn't make me uncomfortable at all, it's just another part of life.
tiff58 tiff58 9 years
I don't care at all if people know how much I make, or talking about any other money-related subject- unless I think it will make someone else uncomfortable.
Renees3 Renees3 9 years
I don't mind talking about it. What am I trying to hide? Who cares? Most of my friends aren't in my field or even close so it doesn't matter.
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