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Are you Comfortable Bringing Home the Bacon?

As woman, we have been fighting for years to reach an equal playing field with men when it comes to professional stature and salary. But, when women break through the glass ceiling, some men are intimidated by our independence and power making it difficult to either meet men or carry on a healthy relationship.

Are any of you ladies out there making more money than your partner? Do you have an extra 0 on your paycheck that your mate is envious of? And if so, how do you feel about being the breadwinner in the relationship?


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melda melda 10 years
for now i have no income and i live with my parents but when i get my masters' then i will bring home the bacon lol because my bf works with his bsc
demeter demeter 10 years
I'd want my guy to make the big money. It's important for him, but not so important for me. I don't care how much I make.
kittycat kittycat 10 years
ah! this is where it's funny. my man won't let me win the salary competition! (its not that i can anyways, only if he lets me, but who would turn down a good job just to make ur sweetie feel better?) anyways, i prefer the guy to make more money, and in the future if i EVER make more than he does, i would rub it in his face just for laughter's sakes :D but he's one of those really manly man so i think he likes to bring home more bacon :D
rubialala rubialala 10 years
My honey didn't care when I made more and now I don't care that he makes more.
redsugar redsugar 10 years
Maybe the question should be is HE comfortable with you bringing home the bacon. So many men have issues with women bringing home the bacon, especially if it's more bacon.
ALSW ALSW 10 years
I make a little bit more and we always tease each other about who makes more and who doesn't. It's never been a problem and I will probably continue to make more than he does for awhile.
onesong onesong 10 years
i make a good deal more than my boyfriend, and i'm totally okay with it. he didn't start working in his field until after he graduated from college, whereas i've been in mine since i was a freshman and my field is expanding very quickly. i won't lie, sometimes it gets tiresome to have to pay for most extras...but then, i'd like to think that men have been feeling that way for centuries!
bookgirl bookgirl 10 years
I currently make more money than my bf, but I think we're both okay with it. We both hope that we'll each make more soon, especially him, since he's older than me and isn't getting paid at all for his experience.
Stephnv05 Stephnv05 10 years
Well, my boyfriend thinks that we should split everything...i think it's a pretty good idea since we won't have to must to deal with on our own. It helps and works for both of us.
cravinsugar cravinsugar 10 years
Well, my beau and I don't live together, but when we do, I will have been working 2 years longer than him. And we will be in different professions. All I know, combined income will be 6 figures a year, so, neither one of us really cares, we are already planning what all we will do :-)
gossipqueen gossipqueen 10 years
for now i make most of the $...he's ok with it, i'm ok with it...two paychecks is great!
andaman andaman 10 years
I think most men are cool with it (at least where i live they are, but i live in a big city so i understand it is a lot more free here in a sense)
andaman andaman 10 years
I honestly don't know many men who have issues with this. They think it's great and if they start feeling insecure they usually tell their girlfriends straight away. When they go out they split the bills or take turn.
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 10 years
I have made more money than all my boyfriends and it doesn't seem to bother anyone. I don't care much about money and don't talk about it much so it's not really an issue. I'd rather be with someone who is passionate about what they do than someone who is in a profession for the money.
candy-apple candy-apple 10 years
I'm only working part-time to afford my studies so i barely have any money for myself. when we started going out, my boyfriend would always end up paying for me everywhere... he's also in college and hardly better off so it's really starting to get to me. especially since he forked out over two thousand dollars for our winter holidays because i couldn't afford anything. but i'm making lots of money with my summer job right now, so i'm hoping i can contribute to our budget a little bit more next year! in the end though, it's still my man who will earn the big bucks. not because i'm socially backwards but... i'm an english major and he's in engineering. :)
GreenSkittlesGal GreenSkittlesGal 10 years
Hmm... I make six figures (trust me, I work A LOT though) and my boyfriend makes more than I do, and thank goodness! I know it's so sad/pathetic/backwards, but I need my man to make more than me. I like it that he usually pays for our dates and that I don't have to feel guilty when he does that. I'm always very impressed with ladies who don't care though. For example, Keri Russell and her husband who is a contractor/carpenter. (Great movie is Waitress btw! LOVE it!)
angelbaby2 angelbaby2 10 years
i make almost as much as my hubbie-when he found out that I made slightly less than he did last year-he was not happy-however, to his credit, he is very supportative of me and my career. Oddly enough, that is the reason that we just relocated for my job-his advice!
cgmaetc cgmaetc 10 years
I make like, 3-4 times more than my guy, and he's OK with that. I have a business and he's a teacher. I have a high-profile in my line of work, and he calls himself "the Steadman to my Oprah". He's a rare find: a guy who can handle being in the background. I go out of my way to make him feel like a man. I don't belittle him or make him feel emasculated. He's secure enough to handle it. If he wasn't I wouldn't be with him...
pinupsweetheart pinupsweetheart 10 years
I do make more money than my guy. About 80% more - only because he has a small business that opened a little over a year ago. He does like to call me his Sugar Mama - but it does get a little old when I have to pay for everything - then I become strapped.
calibabi calibabi 10 years
i'm the breadwinner at the moment, but that's because my hubby has been getting his master's degree the last two years. this fall, i'm going back to school so it's his turn to support me. but i'll be the first to admit that it feels good saying that our money is really "my money"...i get away with a lot more spending when i argue that i'm the one who makes the money, so i should be able to buy myself a special something every once in a while! :)
LEX0 LEX0 10 years
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