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Cate Blanchett Says Marriage is Insanity

Cate is busy at work on her film The Curious Case of Benjamin Button which also stars Brad Pitt. The film is about a romance between a 30 year old woman and a 50 year old man who ages backwards. Hopefully, Cate won't have to romance Brad the entire time he's an old man. It's probably all the same to her. She and Brad are good friends from their work together in Babel, and she's also happily married. Staying married in Hollywood is no easy task either, but Cate doesn't seem to have any illusions. She knows it's hard to hold down a marriage in any profession. Here's more:

"I think marriage is all about timing," says the actress, who met her husband, Australian playwright Andrew Upton, on the set of a TV show in 1996. "Getting married is insanity; I mean, it's a risk – who knows if you're going to be together forever? But you both say, 'We're going to take this chance, in the same spirit."

Well it sounds like she and her husband have it all worked out. They've already been married for 10 years so she knows that of which she speaks.

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UrbanBohemian UrbanBohemian 10 years
I love it that a woman actually says that. All the women I know who are married are in La La Land and think it's absolutely wonderful. I just wonder if marriage is really a ball 24/7 even for them. It's hard work, but it obviously has its benefits. I guess you just have to be ready for everything that comes with marriage and hope it's all for the right person.
pinknfluffy pinknfluffy 10 years
Much respect to you Valerie! I totally agree with your view on the commitment of marriage. Something that people often don't get is that love is more than a rosy warm feeling that comes and goes and fades with time. Love is a decision and love is an action. When you get married you make the decision to love your spouse for the rest of your lives, and then you spend the rest of your life acting on that love. Love does not exempt you from difficult times, but it binds you together so that you don't have to go through hard times alone. I think a major reason for high divorce rates is disillusionment, which comes from ridiculous expectations moulded by soppy hollywood "love" stories. Talk to your grandparents about love, before divorce was socially acceptable, they were far more adept at making marriages work. This is also why so many arranged marriages can produce life-long happy partnerships (not that I'm a fan of arranged marriages!!). I think in our throw away consumerist society it's just far easier to discard something and get a new one than to put in the effort to fix it.
JK-Boogie JK-Boogie 10 years
teddybear teddybear 10 years
Live today as if you'd die tomorrow. Learn today as if you'd live forever. Valeri, when you said come hell or high water it reminded me of the butterfly effect.
Luna13 Luna13 10 years
cate is great, very down to earth and a genuinely amazing actress, go girl!
siouxsie siouxsie 10 years
she's right. it's insanity. or as wayne put it so eloquently "garth, marriage is punishment for shoplifting in some countries." :-)
EdwinaTheLovely EdwinaTheLovely 10 years
DulceSkye......It's about being true to yourself. That is at the end of the day the most important thing, and someone is going to appreciate and celebrate that you're a romantic, sensitive, caring and stronger than she thinks woman.
DulceSkye DulceSkye 10 years
I'm not married. I doubt I ever will get married because I am exactly what Ethiopian Princess describes, an idealist. I'm very romantic, and sensitive and fragile...not very good "wife" material. I'm happiest when I'm dating, and everything is all flowers and chocolate and romance. I still don't view marriage as a risk, though. I just think that there are those who are better prepared for it than others. I find being a mother MUCH easier than being in a relationship.
EdwinaTheLovely EdwinaTheLovely 10 years're not on a soapbox at all, and I respect your committment to a life that I'm sure would bend to breaking someone else, and has according to the statistics you posted. Anyone can only speak of their own experience, and I'm just very hesitant to decide that because a marriage isn't a success, all was not done to prevent it from becoming a failure. I reiterate that an aunt and uncle ended 40yrs of marriage recently; great grandparents they are, but they spent a better part of all those years being committed to staying in an unhappy union because that's what they were taught to do.
EdwinaTheLovely EdwinaTheLovely 10 years
ethiopian_princess........Great post and I only disagree only with "purpleisafruit" also disagrees with which is it's only an American thing. I think placing the focus on idealistic romanticism isn't mainly a American thing at all even though looking at some of those wedding shows like Bridezilla will make one think it is.
lickety-split lickety-split 10 years
EdidenaTheLovely, yes i am married. on february 1st i will have been married 10 years. we have 3 girls, one of which (jenna, 8) is severely autistic. the divorce rate for people with a child on the autism spectrum is 85%. our only son died at birth, another event that often triggers divorce. NO EXCUSES; this is for life. it's work, hard work and there have been times when i was not happy, times when he wasn't happy. too damn bad! "till death do us part" meant something to us. hopefully one of the things our 2 typically developing children are learning from living with their disabled sister is that no matter how bad things get in life you just keep going. even when you are emotionally and physically exhausted you still give it your all JUST BECAUSE: it's the right thing to do. and that's what marriage is, a choice everyday to do the right thing. not because you want to and not because it makes you happy but because you took a vow and said you'd be there forever come hell or highwater. (stepping off soapbox)
Beautifulbarbie Beautifulbarbie 10 years
Don't care for her.
playsindirt playsindirt 10 years
Adore her. Brilliant actress.
Neural Neural 10 years
I'm an idealist. :)
teddybear teddybear 10 years
I don't believe in marriage.
lylian lylian 10 years
MizRed.....It's sad that you've tossed Angelina out based on words that more than likely have been misrepresented. I really can't believe how so many have taken this and run with it like she hates her kid. EdwinaTheLovely Yes,ITA edwina.
Aggie Aggie 10 years
That outfit is horrible.. the jacket and the bag are okey but the rest is fugly. But her red hair is kind of nice.. makes her look awfully pale but she manages to make it look good. ______________________________________ \Don't chase the beat of your heart/
purpleisafruit purpleisafruit 10 years
I agree with everything you say, ethipian_princess, except with the idea that the Western counterparts of American society aren't subjected to the same romantic ideals as Americans themselves. In Australia, we see more American movies on the big screen and more American sitcoms on the small screen than our "own" stories (and that includes the romantic ones). I don't think it's got anything to do with nationality. There are plenty of non-Americans (including Australians) who walk into marriage with idealistic notions. So many young people these days have such romantic notions of marriage. Of course marriage is a risk. Most of our everyday actions are a risk. It's incredibly naive to think otherwise. I should add at this point (as some kind of disclaimer, I suppose?), that I'm not married. I hope that if I do get married one day, that I'm able to temper my romantic/idealistic notions with the reality of living every single day with another human being, and that if I manage a 10 year union like Cate has, that I can see that as an achievement. Time for me to get off my soapbox!
ethiopian_princess ethiopian_princess 10 years
There are idealists and there are realists. Cate is a realist. Her awareness that it is crazy and scary and a lot of work makes me think her marriage would work over that of two dreamy-eyed people who are madly in love and can't imagine anything else. The reality is that things and people change. Realists are aware of that and adapt to the changes. Idealists are freaked out and question their whole relationship and if what they had was ever real. hollywood couples are mostly idealists. americans are idealists. it may not be bad in some aspects of life, but love isn't one of them. i think the reason why more american marriages end in divorce compared to even some of our western counterparts is that they don't have an overly romantic perspective on marriage. odd since they watch the same romantic comedies, read the same fairy tales, etc. “I can’t stand those articles where people spill their life story. After a while I feel like I know more about them than their best friend does — and that’s weird. It’s better when you don’t know everything.” -Scarlett Johannson
EdwinaTheLovely EdwinaTheLovely 10 years
Valerie & DulceSkye out of curiosity, are either of you married? When I ask this, trust that it isn't to patronize with a "until you've been there" retort. I only ask because it's what we should shoot for, but forever is a helluva lot easier said than actually done, and of course we won't know until we get there, with there meaning one or both of us has died. Personally I take marriage one day because that's all you can do since we don't know what tomorrow will bring. Hopefully the desire to remain committed to the commitment will remain. I just had an aunt and uncle divorce after 40yrs, and both actually seem happier now than I can ever remember.
pixi3 pixi3 10 years
sounds like someone is having marital problems... didn't Kate Hudson give a similar speach around a year ago??!!
mandyjean mandyjean 10 years
I can't wait to get married, i dont think it's taking a chance, we took a chance when we started dating, marriage is supposed to be forever, to me divorce isnt an option, i know the man im going to marry very very well, and he knows me too. that's the way its supposed to be, its not supposed to be like... well we can give this a try and if it doesnt work, well as long as i get to keep the house we built i will be okay... no thats a bunch of crap. i might be reading too much into what she said, and she has been married for a long time, but still that's just not cool to say that marriage is taking a chance, that's just wrong. and what the heck is she wearing???
BlondeSugar BlondeSugar 10 years
I don't think she looks cute at all.
rubialala rubialala 10 years
Valeri and DluceSkye are right here. Marriage should not be thought of as a risk. A risk is running into a burning building or quitting your job without something else lined up. Not making a lifelong decision to commit to someone.
Pokemyhontas Pokemyhontas 10 years
I like Kate's red hair here!!!
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