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Grey's Anatomy Recap: Episode 21, "No Good at Saying Sorry (One More Chance)"

Grey's Anatomy Rundown: Episode 21, "No Good at Saying Sorry (One More Chance)"

It's Take Your Family Issues to Work Day on Grey's Anatomy this week, as Izzie, Meredith, and Lexie all have to deal with parents showing up at Seattle Grace unexpectedly and Callie works through family strife of her own after her father's tumultuous visit. Meanwhile, Owen and Cristina attempt to have a normal working relationship, with frustrating results. To chat about it, just


Izzie has never talked much about her family. We know her mom called her Cricket and spent money on psychic hotlines, but that's about it. So it's a little crazy for Izzie's mom to suddenly show up in Seattle, all dressed in too-young clothing and flirting with Alex. Izzie didn't even want her there; that was Bailey's doing, but even someone with a maternal instinct as strong as Bailey's soon realizes she's made a mistake. Izzie's just started to come to terms with her illness; the last thing she needs is for her mother to 1) act like it's no big deal, because after all, that woman with the mole on her privates on Tyra survived, or 2) weep hysterically because Izzie's going to die just like her grandma. I'm a little surprised Bailey was so willing to lie to Robbie, but it did get the job done: Izzie and her mom are just better off "loving each other from a distance."

If only Robbie Stevens had crossed paths with Thatcher Grey! Thatcher turns up at Seattle Grace, sober and working his steps; he's there to make amends for everything he did to make Meredith and Lexie's lives harder. I'm a little surprised Lexie accepts his apology so quickly, but she's also always been the Grey sister who believed in the bonds of family. Meredith's cold reaction doesn't surprise me at all, but I did like seeing her complicated relationship with the Chief finally come to a head. She's been working for years now under the guidance of the man who disrupted her childhood. And he does treat her differently; he's probably both tougher on her and kinder to her than he is with any other doctor. In the end, he, too, is making amends: He saw what Ellis was doing to Meredith, and he chose not to fight. It's only now that he seems to be realizing that if he wasn't going to be a dad to her, nobody was.

Though it didn't get much screen time, I was sucked in by Owen and Cristina's story. The two of them are intense people on their own, and that doubles when they're together, so the tension right now is through the roof. Owen tries to treat her like a casual acquaintance — "take care now" — and has her do menial tasks while George gets the big jobs on the trauma team. And she's mad: "What are you, just a 'choke 'em and forget 'em' kind of guy?" But it's not that at all. What Owen wants to do is say he loves her, and that hurts.


  • The story of the little girl, her mother, and the abusive father gets tied up neatly, but I couldn't help feeling somewhat moved by it anyway. Meredith oversteps her boundaries, bigtime, but given her mindset during this episode, she's not willing to see another child hurt. "Your 6-year-old daughter is stronger than you" can't be an easy (or even appropriate) message to hear, but in this case, it inspires someone to get out of a bad situation.
  • Callie's reaction to her tree-sitting patient and her buttoned-up sister is interesting: She wishes her family could be screaming at her, but instead she's getting stony silence.
  • Even though dads never like him, Mark agrees to daddy dinner with Lexie and Thatcher! Even Mark Sloan has to grow up sometime.
  • Sweetest/saddest scene: Alex describing the food to Izzie for Meredith and Derek's wedding site, then clutching the little stuffed animal Izzie's mom brought while Izzie's wheeled off to surgery.
  • I wonder if Richard will ever read Ellis's journals.

Just a couple of weeks to go for the season! Do you like how Grey's is going these days?

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Briandiesel Briandiesel 8 years
Owen: Nice work today. Cristina: Nice work today! Seriously? Owen: I'm sorry? Cristina: Run to my truck. You got O'malley clipping bleeders, and you're telling me to run to your truck. Owen: You know what my truck looks like. O'malley doesn't. But, that... that run you took saved the guys life. Cristina: Yeah, well all day, all day you were teaching O'Malley and you ignored me. Owen: O'Malley wants to be a trauma surgeon. You've already declared cardio. I didn't do anything wrong today. I treated you like I would anyone else. Cristina: (pushes him) I am not like anyone else. Take care now? What is that? What are you like, you're not happy now? What... what are you? You know, just a choke 'em and forget 'em kind of guy? Owen: (pulls out a piece of paper and hands it to Cristina) Cristina: Hey there now. Take care now. Nice work Yang. What is this? Owen: It's my shrink. My shrink gave me these sentences. We ah, we came up with them together. They're all 3 word sentences. So I could have something to say to you instead of the 3 words that are... that are killing me. The 3 words that you know I feel but I can't say them, because it would be cruel to say them, because I am no good for you. I don't wanna torture you. I don't wanna look at you longingly when I know I can't be with you. So, yeah I'm smiling, and I'm saying take care now. I'm letting you off the hook. I'm trying, I'm trying so hard to let you off the hook. I'm trying to make it right. What I did to you. Can't you see that? I'm just trying to make it right. Cristina: (gives the paper back) Take care now there you go-
happysammy happysammy 8 years
I wonder why Izzie's daughter was never mentioned. If I can recall past storylines correctly, she had her daughter when she was really young and was left with her mother -- who now we know is Robbie Stevens. Is my recollection correct?
laoff laoff 8 years
Cristina and Owen... wow! I love them and I don't how she didn't take him back after he said all about the three words. It was so beautiful I almost cried (and I never cry watching anything!)
spacebear spacebear 8 years
i wasnt that into this episode - not that it wasnt good, i was just doing some things around the house - but once that last christina/owen scene started i stopped everything....and started CRYING. they are both so great.
SKC-Sparkle SKC-Sparkle 8 years
Grey's has rebounded back from terrible story lines - it is a great show again! I loved this episode and was moved to tears by so many of the story lines - espcially when Meredith stood up for the little girl.
Tennant_Love Tennant_Love 8 years
I really enjoyed this episode. I don't think there an episode of Grey's that has not made me cry to be honest, this one was no different. I am definitely a Chief fan and I am glad that him & Meredith FINALLY sorted it all out, it's been a long time coming. I am falling more & more in love with Izzie & Alex as the season progresses, Alex kissing her before she went to surgery and then being left alone, holding the cuddly toy, well it broke my heart!!! Owen/Cristina - my favourite couple, I love the way the writers/producers are playing this one out. I don't want them to get back together until he has sorted himself out a little bit, simply because if he hurts her at all in anyway again it will kill him just as much as him. "Take care now...." is my new fave Grey's quote <3 Finally Mark/Lexie, I am surprised this couple has worked as well as it has, who knew?!?!
menthadict menthadict 8 years
As everybody else has said..that scene outside...omg. it was so heartbreakingly sweet and i just want cristina to just take him back
bransugar79 bransugar79 8 years
Last night's episode had it's highs and lows for me. I am in love with Owen Hunt but the wounded guy always getsme. i was so annoyed with him through the whole episode until that last scene with the three word sentences to use to avoid saying the three words he really wants to say ::swooon::. i think Kevin Mckidd is doing such a great job with this character that could just be so unlikeable without that vulnerability bubbling under the surface. And I'v eloved Sandra Oh since I first saw her in Double Happiness. She's such agreat actress I'll watchher in anything. The chief and Meredith storyline was good too and even though parts were a little bit of a reach the overall effect was great. I thought that Thatcher should totallyahve gone into more detail with his apology, I mean I'm sorry for anything i did to hurt you is a little weak for a guy that was sucha screw up. I also thought it was crappy of Meredith to just walk away and leave Lexi in the room with him. I thought she was getting the whole family thing but that was odd.
Nitachequita Nitachequita 8 years
I LOVED the Owen and Christina scene, and how all his three word phrases are a substitute for the three words he really wants to say, and how Christina choked out "Take care now" because she wants to say those three little words too. They are terrific together.
Linda-McP Linda-McP 8 years
Great recap, as always, Buzz! Christina's "What are you, just a 'choke 'em and forget 'em' kind of guy?" and Izzie's description of her mom as "limited" were two bittersweet moments of the night for me. And good for Meredith for stepping over the line to address the mom; while that story line does have its holes, it did allow some plot points to be tied together well. Loved seeing Mark show up at dinner. All in all, a satisfying episode, maybe not the best, but a good one at least.
Briandiesel Briandiesel 8 years
Lil, I felt the same way about the little girl... she was able to unload and load a shotgun multiple times?! but whatever haha
lilkimbo lilkimbo 8 years
I thought it was a solid episode, but nothing spectacular. The Owen/Cristina storyline is definitely the most intriguing to me at this time, so I wish they would have gotten more screen time. Callie not being able to pay rent kind of annoyed me. I get that her dad cut her off, but she's a doctor, can't she afford it? It just doesn't really make sense. It also doesn't make sense that that little girl would have been able to shoot her dad so many times. If you've ever shot a gun, you know the kickback is intense, even for an adult. And, even more so if you don't have the correct stance. I think sometimes I just need to get more immersed in the stories instead of over analyzing them.
Briandiesel Briandiesel 8 years
I thought that this was a good episode. I think Sharon Lawrence was great as Izzie's mom and I really thought they had some definite similarities in their features. The whole sickness is just soo sad to me and I like that they are doing it well. The Christina- Owen final scene was heartbreaking! I have been on both sides of that fence with my last relationship and I was a mess watching that. Overall the acting was really good last night.. no cheesy lines for the most part and it seemed like everyone cried.
graylen graylen 8 years
I loved the scene with Owen and Christina outside. It was just so intense and I think Sandra Oh has done a great job this season really portraying her emotions. Glad the Chief and Mer finally worked out their problems and I'm also glad that Derek acted like a grownup throughout the whole thing. I liked Meredith standing up to the mom, even if she did go about it the wrong way.
ElizabethRae ElizabethRae 8 years
I really liked that episode. The Alex/Izzie stuff is sweet, I L-O-V-E how the Owen and Christina thing is playing out. Mer/Der aren't getting a ton of screen time together, but I'm happy their relationship is going well. Love how sweet Mark is to Lexie. I was happy about what the Chief said. He took responsibility and he should have. I wonder what Owen poured on the guy. It sounded like he said a lot of the effects, but never named the substance. I wonder if that will come back to bite him. I thought the mom/daughter thing was good. It's sad that women live with that, and even worse that they model it for their children. I'm glad Mer stepped up and that the mom broke the cycle.
Entertainment Entertainment 8 years
The official Grey's music guide is here. Looks like it's not updated yet, but it typically doesn't take long.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 8 years
I wasn't as in love with this episode as the last one, but still loved it. The Alex/Izzie scenes are still my favorites, and I really hope they don't kill Izzie. She's still my favorite character, even with the ghost sex debacle. I'm glad that Meredith worked out her issues with the Chief too, and I have to say that the scene where they finally talk it out made me cry (although, to be honest, the last 15 minutes did. I blame PMS). Owen and Christina still aren't doing it for me. I just don't get them.
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