If you've managed to avoid talking to your kids about the election, it's an elephant — or donkey, depending — in the room that you really shouldn't avoid much longer. Even if they haven't asked you questions directly, young minds are most definitely tuned in to what's going on in the presidential race, this election cycle in particular.
Sure, you might prefer to steer clear of such a heavy conversation with children who are years away from voting, but Dr. Stephanie O'Leary, a clinical psychologist with an expertise in parenting, can't imagine anything worse than leaving impressionable kids to decipher today's political news for themselves. As a mom of two herself, she considers it her civic duty to help them sort out facts from very strong opinions. Unsure where to begin? She outlined five key strategies to consider.
1. Listen to what they have to say first.
Easy, right? "The tough part will be holding your tongue," O'Leary tells POPSUGAR. "It's crucial to give your child a chance to share his or her ideas and questions without immediately launching into a lecture." By creating a space free of political judgment, you'll send the message that you really value their point of view and care about what they think.
2. Guide, don't push.
If your child cites misinformation or parrots headlines without a solid understanding of the issues, take time to review facts and give your child space to draw his or her own conclusions. "While the urge to have your child see things from your perspective may be strong, raising a thoughtful consumer of information is the goal," O'Leary advises. "This protects your child from buying into ideas just because someone else tells them to." Even if that someone else is you.
3. Make it clear that respect is non-negotiable.
The past two debates certainly had their share of name-calling, gossip-mongering, and mud-slinging, which can actually be a difficult concept for kids — who are taught the Golden Rule on a regular basis — to understand. "Explain that even well-educated adults sometimes behave poorly and that communicating respectfully is the best way to be heard," O'Leary says. Remind them why you shouldn't interrupt someone who's speaking, the value in answering questions you are asked, and the importance in not retaliating negatively.
4. Get them involved.
Sure, they aren't allowed to vote just yet, but that doesn't mean you can't set them up for success once they are of age to hit the polls. "Discuss issues that are important to your family, neighborhood, and culture," says O'Leary, who notes how vital it is to encourage their civic-minded interests at this stage of life. "If possible, take your child with you when you vote at least once. That experience makes a lasting impression and will send the message that participating in the process is something to look forward to."
5. Explain things extremely literally.
"Adults say all sorts of things out of emotion, and most of them are taken with a grain of salt, except if you're a kid," O'Leary says. Children tend to interpret things far more literally and, despite what you might think, they believe most of what their parents say. "Be ready to explain that Aunt Rose is not moving to Canada if this one wins and the country will probably not be destroyed if that one wins."