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Preschool: Now, Later, Ever?

Preschool: Now, Later, Ever?

Like many moms of toddlers, Circle of Moms member Autumn S. is worried both about whether she is giving her 3-year-old enough of an education at home and whether it's too soon for him to start preschool. She's asking lots of questions:

“[Our kids] are going to be in school for many years of their lives, should I start now, or wait until next year's pre-school, or just skip preschool and send him to kindergarten? Second, I know it would be good for him to be around other kids and work on his social skills and have a little bit of structure to his day, but I'm just not real sure what I want to do.”

If you're like Autumn, you love spending time with your little one, but you’re beginning to question your teaching abilities and to wonder whether your child needs more social interaction. Does your child really need preschool to enrich his environment and to succeed in kindergarten? And if so, what’s the right age to start preschool? Moms who have already been through this have shared three important considerations that will help you decide what to do.


1. Take Cues From Your Child

Is your child ready? Many Circle of Moms members say that your child will provide the best cues. As Jenni explains of her 3-year-old son Ben, who will be starting preschool when he turns four, both his readiness and his need for preschool are obvious to her. "He's really excited to start," as a result of hearing so much about his step-sister's school activities, and what's more, he has a speech delay that she thinks will be helped by a school environment. 

Robyn, a mom of five, agrees that your child is the best indicator: “I sent my oldest because I was concerned he needed more socialization with other children his age. My second child was sent for the same reason. I discovered some things about the preschool later I was not pleased with and since it was the only one I could afford at the time, I chose not to send my third and fourth children. I taught them at home and was very pleased with their readiness for school. My fifth child needed to go to [a] developmental preschool due to lack of talking.”


2. Research Schools

Circle of Moms member Robyn recommends visiting the kindergartens and preschools your child might attend to help you come up with a plan. At preschools, find out what the entry requirements are. As she explains, "Some preschools are not very tolerant of children who need lots of help with personal skills," like potty training and zipping their own clothes.

Heather S. adds that if you're considering skipping preschool entirely, visiting particular preschools and kindergartens to see for yourself what kids really need to know in order to thrive in these environments will help you think through whether you can prepare your child for kindergarten on your own. “If you would’ve asked me before my son was in kindergarten if preschool was necessary, I would’ve told you no. But “schools have changed a lot since I was in kindergarten (1985). . . .No longer do kids learn socialization skills and have creative play time [in kindergarten], now they are fast-tracked and are learning math, reading, writing, Spanish, music, art, and gym — all in kindergarten and, depending on your school district, all in a half day.”

She's watched many in her son's peer group struggle with kindergarten and even repeat the year. And while repeating kindergarten is not a bad thing, having "a crying, frustrated child who never wants to go to school," is. Now she's glad that she sent her son to preschool because it gave him “a platform to start kindergarten with.”


3. Examine Your Own Capabilities

Like Robyn, Laura S. asked her local grade school what would be required of her child at the start of kindergarten, and when she realized she could not teach it all herself, she decided that preschool was a good idea. Similarly, Jennifer H., who was able to teach her daughter the ABCs, letters, colors and shapes, still found preschool to be invaluable, because “skills like listening, following directions, and waiting your turn are very important and hard to teach at home.”

On the other hand, if you feel like you have the time and knowledge to prepare your child yourself or with the help of friends, preschool may not be necessary. Alisha G. is a mom who plans to home school her children until kindergarten. She says that helpful resources, including activity books that can be found at Wal-mart, are readily available.

If you opt out of preschool, whether for financial or other reasons, many Circle of Moms members suggest organizing play dates with friends and attending activities at the local park or neighborhood library to provide your child with some more structure and opportunities for social interaction.

“As long as you can keep up with your child's social skills outside of the home, she will be fine. . . . There are things you can do for your child inside the home that are just as good if not better than preschool! Lets face it, preschool is expensive and the economy is not great . . . .but that does not mean you're a bad parent because of it!” says Dawn T.

As Crytal H. advises, the right time to start your child in school is when you’re confident that what you’re doing “is right for you and your family." 

At what age are you planning to start your child in preschool, or ar you skipping it?

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