Heading back to work after baby [1] is never easy. However, the hardest part for women is not adjusting to a new schedule but having to hear comments about how they should be stay-at-home moms [2]. While some questions are well-intentioned, others are just flat-out rude. Make these comments to a working mom, and she's bound to shove her briefcase where the sun don't shine.
"I couldn't let someone else raise my kids."
I couldn't either, which is why I raise them.
"I wish I could get away from my kids for the day."
If you consider conference calls, piles of paperwork, and getting yelled at by a boss "getting away."
"But your husband is so successful."
Yes, and so am I.
"At least you have nighttime to be a good mom."
I also have the morning and afternoon, just like you.
"I think your little ones miss you."
And I miss them, too, but I'm doing what is best for them.
"I'd feel too guilty."
Then it's a good thing you aren't me.
"Maybe if you were home more he wouldn't act out."
Maybe if you weren't so rude, more moms would like you.
"You're really missing out."
On losing my sanity? You're probably right.
"You wouldn't understand. You're not with them all day."
And neither are you. Or do you follow them around at school?
"If you cut back on luxuries, you wouldn’t have to work."
I didn't realize electricity, food, and shelter were luxuries.
"It's so cute when they call the nanny 'Mommy.'"
It's so cute when the other moms call you a b*tch.
"You look exhausted."
Yes. Because I wake up early, work all day, and come home to a house of kids.
"If you're not going to raise your kids, then why did you have them?"
I'm sorry. Since when is working to put food on the table not raising my kids?