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Why I Almost Always Feel Off Balance

Why I Almost Always Feel Off Balance

Ladies, this article is really for you. Although, if there are any gentlemen reading, you are welcome to continue and maybe get a better idea of how the lady in your life might be feeling on a daily basis— and potentially come to appreciate her even more than you probably already do.

Here is what I'm talking about: Balance.

Do you feel like you have it? I don't know about the rest of you, but I often feel like a chicken with my head cut off. Between work, fitness, household, family, friends and life I feel like I can't ever get to the point where everything is in line, at least not for any substantial period of time. If one thing on that list stops running, the others can roll along pretty smoothly, but trying to handle all of them at once can be (and often is) exhausting. Still, I'm not willing to give any of them up.

My Quest to Be Superwoman

I know I'm not the only lady who skipped exercise for the day just to clean the house, bailed on friends to hang with family (or vice-versa), thought very hard about taking a straight mental health or retail therapy day off of work because I just need it. And of course, I'm always wishing (really wishing) that there were just more hours in the day.

Admittedly, I'm probably too hard on myself. But who doesn't want to be that Martha Stewart-ish lady?  (You know who I'm talking about, the lady who seems to always have all of her ducks in a row and isn't fazed by much. You know her. You do.)  But I want to be in great shape, a great runner, reasonably able to keep up with The Cyclist (my husband) on the bike, have a clean house (all the time), do (and complete) house and other projects, be successful at work, spend time with friends and family, be a great step-mom and a great wife.


But the reality right now is that my house is messy. I should have run today but I didn't. I'm currently attempting to re-finish my kitchen cabinets, cook tasty and healthy meals for my family, run on a semi-regular basis, work 40+ hours per week, write a blog (two blogs actually, among other projects), do the house, do the yard, do the laundry. My kitchen table is piled with the stuff from the cabinet I am painting and there are dust bunnies floating around my floors. There are folded clothes on my couch and I ate a bowl of cereal for dinner. As I write this I hear myself saying, "what is wrong with me?" but I have a feeling I am one of many ladies trying to be Superwoman.

In some ways, I think we ladies all want to be that Superwoman. Some of us may have cleaner houses and some of us may be better athletes. Some of us may be super crafty and some of us may be gourmet chefs. But are any of us balanced on a consistent basis?  I know I'm certainly not.

A Little Bit at a Time

So, instead of continuing to reveal my shortcomings in print maybe I should start looking for a healthy way to juggle my life. Since becoming a housewife and hiring a maid are not in the cards for me right now, it looks like I'm forced to find another solution.

I suppose I should start by accepting the fact that I'm not Martha Stewart.  In reality, Martha is a face and a brand that has an army of creative people behind her, including (I assume) a maid, a cook, a trainer and a personal assistant.  I need to get over it. I can try all I want, but doing all of these things in the time-frame I imagine is just not going to happen.

Next, I need to listen to my mom.  She always tells me, "just do what you can; do a little bit at a time." She's totally right. I need to accept the fact that accomplishing even just one thing is better than nothing after a full day of work.


Last, I need to start being so hard on myself. Instead of thinking about all of the things I'm not doing, I need to be happy about all of the things I am doing. In the grand scheme of things, all of these things that I'm so worried about are pretty insignificant. What really makes a difference is that I want and try to do all of these things for my family, not that I'm actually doing them or not.

How do you find balance in your life?  Or are you like me, suffering from a lack of balance?  I'm curious to know how other women feel about balance in their own lives.

The views expressed in this article are those of the author and do not necessarily represent the views of, and should not be attributed to, POPSUGAR.

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