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Why LGBTQ+ Best Friends Started a Family Together

These LGBTQ+ Best Friends Are Raising a Child Together in the Name of Coparenting

"The first couple months were rough," Lawrence said. "When people tell you you're going to be losing a lot of sleep and that you'll never sleep again — all of that was true, and it was a lot. Parenthood is literally a day-to-day adjustment. But now, being a dad is exciting because Hartley is grabbing things, talking a lot, and he's not a potato anymore. He's an active baby. So, it's really, really cool to see him learning stuff and progressing." 
Brandi agrees that watching her son develop has been the most invigorating thing she's experienced yet. "The best part of motherhood so far is seeing him understand everything that I've been teaching him. I spend time with him in the mornings teaching him to grab his seat or having him make eye contact. It's just the little things, honestly."
As for advice for others who want to start a family with their best friends? Be ready for anything! "I would tell prospective coparents to communicate and to be open to being vulnerable in a different way that you never imagined," Brandi said. Lawrence added that both parties should make sure they're serious about the decision because, after all, there's no going back. "You need to want to have children," he said. "[Parenthood] isn't cute. I would tell anybody to really make sure it's what you want, because when you sign up to be a parent, you're doing it for life."
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Warning: major 9 Months With Courteney Cox spoilers ahead!

Best friends Brandi Andrews and Lawrence Carroll first met working at The Abbey, a famous gay bar in West Hollywood, CA. After years of friendship and one honest conversation over a Sunday shift, the pair decided to start a family together. As if agreeing to have a baby with your best friend isn't hard enough, Brandi and Lawrence opted to document their entire experience on the Facebook Watch series 9 Months With Courteney Cox, beginning with the very first episode.

"We were just airing out our grievances as best friends typically do at work," Lawrence told POPSUGAR about how they initially discussed the idea. "She had just broken up with a girlfriend of hers and I was sick and tired of not having a boyfriend. I told her I wanted to start a family, and she felt the same way. Then a coworker who was listening suggested that we just start one together. We just looked and we were just like, 'OK!' and then three years later we ended up with a baby."

Although the pair makes the decision to coparent seem like a dream, the road to becoming mom and dad was far from easy. Shortly after agreeing to bring a child into the world, Brandi was hit by two drunk drivers in a terrible car accident. "It was a long process, and Lawrence was by my side throughout my recovery," explained Brandi. "He took me to surgery, physical therapy, all that jazz. Then I just came to him one day and I was like, 'You know what? I'm just ready. Let's just try it and if it happens cool, and if it doesn't we'll just keep trying.'"

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