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As Wedding Season Winds Down, I just had to ask. Is Being a Bridesmaid An Honor or A Royal Pain?

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crispet1 crispet1 10 years
I agree with you, Mar.
mar mar 10 years
honestly, the worst part of being a bridesmaid is when the bride makes the bridesmaids purchase and wear something they will never wear again. I did a black and white wedding, so I only had my sisters as bridesmaids, and I told them to buy a black longer dress that THEY liked and could get use out of. I think its rude to make the girls buy a dress they will never wear again, but thats just my opinion.
pink_magnetism pink_magnetism 10 years
It was ridiculous how much the bridesmaids had to be the same. Dress shopping was especially fun, since we haddifferent body types and different parts of the body we wanted to hide.
lickety-split lickety-split 10 years
i told my bridesmaids to wear something dark green. i bought their jewlery and shoes and paid for their hotel (and airfare for one who was out of town and had a child, tight on money). then one bridesmaid forgot her jewlery on wedding day. her husband was going to go all the way home to get it and i said "it's okay, this isn't a drill team so no one's taking off points for being different". it's about friends and family velebrating with you the way you feel is important. some people have very specific ideas and i have always tried to go along with that. but i will offer this up; the more "perfect" the bride tries to make the ceremony, the shorter the actual marriage.
pink_magnetism pink_magnetism 10 years
I was absolutely not allowed to cut my hair. All the stuff leading up to it was crazy, but on the actual wedding day it was good and a lot of fun. My cousin had to be bridesmaid for her boyfriend's sister(that she barely knew) and hated the whole experience.
crispet1 crispet1 10 years
It can get a bit out of hand with all that you are expected to buy.
peepshow peepshow 10 years
I love going to weddings, and agree with Shiloh-- I like just being a guest. I spent over $1,000 once, and since then it's left a bad taste in my mouth.
sexyeyes sexyeyes 10 years
Both for sure... It can be fun and nice knowing the fact that this person considered you as her maid of honor which is nice but then you have to deal with the good and the BAD side of the bride.
adrianam86 adrianam86 10 years
It can be both but it really depends on the wedding, if the bride is a bridezilla or if her mother is the mother from hell etc. But i enjoyed being a bridesmaid for my cousin's wedding, the only part that i could have done without was when i had to help her hold up her huge wedding dress in the restroom stall so she could go...but other than that it was a great experience
Shiloh-Jolie-Pitt Shiloh-Jolie-Pitt 10 years
I enjoy better being a guest :-)
vmruby vmruby 10 years
it can be both sometimes depending on the cicumstances. my experiences haven't been too bad but i've seen and heard of some stories that were real nightmares.
karmasabitch karmasabitch 10 years
Can be either or both depending on who is getting married. When my cousin got married she made the entire experience one big pain in the ass, and left everyone broke from her insanely expensive choices for dresses, shoes, etc. If the bride to be is relaxed it can be fun! Either way it's an honor to be a bridesmaid, but there are definitely times when you're wishing you weren't chosen! ;)
Mme-Hart Mme-Hart 10 years
It's both, but the honour feeling last longer than the pain in the butt! I didn't have bridesmaids at my wedding, just a Maid of Honour who's only job was to sign as a witness. We had a very small wedding with only family and close friends so it was okay that we didn't have the big procession. I think they look pretty but it wasn't for me. I have enough bridesmaid's dresses hanging in the closet that I'll never wear again and I didn't want to do that to anyone else. Speaking of which, I have another wedding to be part of next summer in Canada. My husband and I want to start trying for kids and I don't know what to tell my friend if I'm too pregnant to fly over next summer. Argh...I've dropped the baby-hint bomb, but it's a tough situation!
eye173candy eye173candy 10 years
Me* ;)
eye173candy eye173candy 10 years
Yeah- My sister and I were never like the best of friends, its more em and my brother, but I still love my sister. She can be a handful, though- I was quite ticked when I found out I want her maid of honer, just a bridesmaid. But oh well. Cali I need to come up with a cute nickname for you!
caligirl1201 caligirl1201 10 years
I wish I had a sister so I could be her bridesmaid but I've been promised by two of my bff's that I will be there's. Now if I could only get them a guy :)
eye173candy eye173candy 10 years
I was a bridesmaid at my sisters wedding, and I loved every minute of it.
wynter wynter 10 years
bellamargaretha bellamargaretha 10 years
You get to wear a fabulous frock (Vera Wang only please) and stand there looking painful could it be??
lms lms 10 years
I forgot to say...I voted for both an honor and pain depending on the situation. I've done it all..flower girl and bridesmaids a couple of times.
lms lms 10 years
When my brother got married I just assumed that I would get to be a bridesmaid, b/c we were extremely close. However, he married a b**chy, jealous woman. He actually asked me why would I have thought that I would have been one. They eventually asked me to be an which I refused. Oh well...she didn't want any one looking better than her..haha
honey31 honey31 10 years
I love being in weddings.
LaylaCams LaylaCams 10 years
I think both also, it depends on if there's a bridezilla envolved.
malzie89 malzie89 10 years
hmmm i loved being a brides maid for my brothers wedding...i thought it was so sister however, hated it. i think it all depends on the bride
pink_magnetism pink_magnetism 10 years
Both. I think it also depends how well u know the bride.
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