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Don't Overdo When Getting Ready to Say "I Do"

Don't Overdo When Getting Ready to Say "I Do"

While I told you that it's never too early to get in shape for your wedding, I also wanted to add a few words of caution: Keep the weight loss in check!

It seems that as the trend for lavish and expensive weddings grows, brides are putting more and more pressure on themselves to be "perfect" for their wedding days. While this concept of perfection includes a fancy gown and professionally done hair and makeup, it is starting to include a body that is "red carpet" worthy. And for that "look" many women feel they need to lose weight. A recent study published in the journal Appetite found that 70 percent of brides felt the need to lose at least 20 pounds. While most women used their engagements to start a healthy weight loss and fitness plan, 20 percent of the 272 women interviewed succumbed to extreme dieting and dangerous behaviors like taking up smoking and vomiting between meals. Other unhealthy behaviors these women participated in included: skipping meals, going on liquid diets, fasting, or taking laxatives or unprescribed diet pills and supplements.

As a reminder I would like to state again that getting in shape and losing weight is a lifestyle change, and it takes time, patience and hard work. A healthy and reasonable weight loss rate is losing a maximum of two pounds a week. So, if you are getting ready to say "I do" just make sure you don't "over do." It might also help to brush up on how to steer clear of fad diets. When setting your goals for getting wedding ready, just make sure they are reasonable. Enter your marriage strong and healthy so the vow, "In sickness and in health" will truly resonate.

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Smilesp Smilesp 9 years
There's nothing wrong with wanting to look YOUR best, but that doesn't mean you should try to be unnaturally skinny. A few girls I know who lost a lot of weight before their weddings put that weight (and more) back on after the wedding. Yes, they look good in the pictures, but now they look bloated.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
The most important thing is to nourish your body before the big day. Concentrate on eating healthier foods and workouts that relax and de-stress you. You're going to look silly if you lose 25lbs for your wedding and put it right back on. You won't look like yourself and all people will be talking about is your weightloss not your wedding dress or other wedding details. Most of your relatives will worry about you being too thin and it just leads to more aggravation.
snowbunny11 snowbunny11 9 years
Let's face it, most women aren't doing this for their husbands, or their health, but for the photos. Ugh. I. hate. the. wedding. industry!!
Spectra Spectra 9 years
I didn't lose much weight for my wedding...maybe 10 lbs max, but not enough to look sick or too skinny. My dress DID end up being a little too big, but that was because I had it fitted before I bought my corset to wear under it, so when I put that on, I was a little smaller. It's so dangerous to try and crash diet before your wedding. Hello, it's just one day and chances are, no matter what you weigh, you'll look great if you just relax, smile a lot, and have great hair. Great hair is more of a confidence booster than being 5 lbs lighter, IMHO.
brown_eyed_grrl brown_eyed_grrl 9 years
Don't dehydrate!! Your skin will look awful! I'm not a dentist, but I did have my braces removed a month earlier than the dentist originally said. I just wore my retainers religiously at night, and it was fine. Don't know if that's an option, but if it really, really bothers you, you can talk to your dentist about what your options are. I don't think 18 lbs in four months is unreasonable, unless my math is off. I got in shape by cutting out the stuff I already knew I didn't need to eat and I work out at home. The only cost was a set of dumbbells. I've had good results with the workouts from 5-Factor Fitness. I wouldn't worry. You still have time. Hard as it is, try to ignore those family members. That's horrible for them to even mention it, like you don't already know if you've gained weight. Positive reinforcement works so much better than negativity when you're trying to get in don't need that crap holding you back.
angelfromlsu angelfromlsu 9 years
We don't have one here :(. Right now I'm doing Push TV which is personalized training program that is progressive. It's DVD-based. I like it so far even though the trainer is super obsessed with bridges.
LizL LizL 9 years
I did this wedding ready program 2 months before my wedding at the Boston Sports Club (they have this program at all the City Sports Clubs). I worked out 3-4 times a week with a personal trainer, and it was the best thing I could have done. Yes, I got toned for my wedding day, lost about 8 pounds total...but the best part was how much it reduced my stress. It was a little pricey, but totally worth it.
angelfromlsu angelfromlsu 9 years
08/03/2008...It's a very informal French Quarter wedding but I still want to look nice. My family has been dropping hints about weight-gain. I am @ 163 now. I would be super happy to be 145...I guess that's a huge jump. Maybe I can just dehydrate before the pictures. I also have to figure out the braces issue. Scheduled for removal in September.
brown_eyed_grrl brown_eyed_grrl 9 years
angelfromlsu--how far off is your wedding? It sounds like you're already doing what you need to do. I wouldn't PhotoShop, and I LOVE PhotoShop. Thing is, when you alter people, it's obvious. It's obvious even in the pages of Vogue. I think you should just keep doing what you're doing. Cut out the sugar and white flour and keep up your workouts.
angelfromlsu angelfromlsu 9 years
I'm just getting out of college and of course have teh Freshman-Senior 30 lbs. haha.
angelfromlsu angelfromlsu 9 years
..I also have braces!
puddinpie puddinpie 9 years
^Why would you want to get your wedding photos photoshopped? A smiling bride is a beautiful bride. Don't stress about it so much. I'm getting married in a few months and haven't lost any weight. If I could drop 2-3 lbs., I'd be happy already. I don't want to look drastically different from my wedding pictures a couple years down the road, you know?
angelfromlsu angelfromlsu 9 years
I'm scared to look at my pictures and look so very chubby in the face....Could I get this photoshopped? I'm doing cardio 4 times a week and strength training for 3.
Zulkey Zulkey 9 years
I've lost 50 pounds but I started doing so three or four years ago, before my engagement was anywhere near a reality. i'm so glad I didn't wait to do it (of course it took me, what, 15 years to find out what worked). I would have hated trying on gowns promising myself that i'd be thinner than this in 10 months. I may try to lose 5 pounds or so, but really, I don't want to spend the rest of my life looking at my wedding pics thinking "I'll never look like THAT again."
Renees3 Renees3 9 years
my cousin got married last month and Everyone was talking about how skinny she is. It was pretty bad, but she's always been on the too skinny side so it wasn't a surprise. I'm not engaged, but I hope to be before the year is over, so I'm starting my healthy weightloss now, exercising and eat well. 18 lbs down, 20 to go!
nancita nancita 9 years
Wow this is really scary. I can understand the need to want to get in shape, but it's frightening to think that women would resort to such unhealthy practices.
brown_eyed_grrl brown_eyed_grrl 9 years
I guess my point is that if you have issues with your weight, even minor ones that aren't eating disorders, a wedding will really magnify them and make even the sane girls go nuts.
brown_eyed_grrl brown_eyed_grrl 9 years
Not in my case! My dress definitely fits, but a few pounds won't require it to be altered. Also, if we're talking about the psychology of the issue, it's not that a bride is doing it for the groom in most cases. Body image and weight go a lot deeper than that. My fiance and I started dating when I was 20 pounds heavier than I am now, and as a short girl, 20 lbs. is a lot of weight. My desire to lose fat has never had anything to do with him, or thinking that I needed to do it to keep him, etc. It has everything to do with how uncomfortable I felt when I weighed more. How I hated how my clothes fit, hated swimsuits, and felt self-conscious. That doesn't go away when you lose weight sometimes. You still feel fact, it took me months to realize that I needed to buy smaller clothes. I kept trying on my old size and things were falling off of me.
opisnowpro opisnowpro 9 years
if you lose too much later on, your dress won't fit!!! thats so true!
skigurl skigurl 9 years
1. he asked you to marry him, he probably likes you the way you are 2. if you don't eat in the days leading up to your wedding, i can only imagine what the stress, champagne, and potential heat will do to the the day of...hello, passing out? 3. if you lose too much later on, your dress won't fit! 4. starving yourself does nothing for your hair, nails, and want to look your best!
brown_eyed_grrl brown_eyed_grrl 9 years
I get that pressure. I'm getting married next week. Over the course of my engagement, I went from a size 6 or 8 to a size 4 through an even healthier diet and using the weight routines from 5-Factor Fitness. I'm only 5'1", so size 4 isn't that unreasonable, but I find myself thinking about trying to drop another 5 pounds before the wedding. Fit's advice IS good, but when you're the one who is going to be the center of attention (along with the groom, of course) and you already have issues with your weight, logic kind of goes out the window. For eaxmple, I tried the New York Diet, but after one day of no carbs I felt too weak to even think straight, so I gave that one up. It's a struggle, though, to talk myself out of doing some of the crash diets and to keep in mind that I am not overweight and that health is the real goal.
JustSomeChick JustSomeChick 9 years
One of my best friends overdid the weight loss pre-wedding. When my date saw her his comment was, "I hope she's bringing two plates to the buffet, because that girl needs to eat!" To my knowledge she didn't do anything harmful to herself, but when she saw per wedding pictures, even she noticed how sickly skinny she was.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 9 years
Great advice!
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
Yes Fit, great advice!
rosey_y rosey_y 9 years
Great advice Fit. I think a sensible approach to weight loss also increases the chance that you'll make a permanent switch to a healthier lifestyle (and better bod) in post-wedding months and years. I know more than a couple of women who, after tryiing so hard to lose weight with just the wedding in sight, gained more weight back afterwards.
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