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Do You Stay Healthy by Eating a Different Meal Than Your Partner?

It's official. I can no longer eat with the mister. He eats anything he wants, whenever he wants, and doesn't seem to know that portion control is even a concept! And the kicker is, he looks great. Since he's a rock climber, he's incredibly active, but he's also tall and lean by nature and has a metabolic rate that seems to be in overdrive.

After a weekend filled with brunches out, movie theater snacks, and pizza delivery, I had to put my foot down. On Sunday, before settling down into our routine of Mad Men and True Blood, he suggested Chinese takeout. It was then that I replied, "We need to have a talk . . . " While I'm up for the occasional indulgent dinner out or sweet snack, there is no way I can make a habit of it like he does. And since he's sort of a takeout food junkie, we've decided that even though we might be eating our meals together, it's likely we won't be having the same food. I'm feeling loads better about things, and am already looking forward to a dinner filled with fresh veggies and quinoa! Tell me . . .

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Skeptic52 Skeptic52 6 years
I'm vegan and can't stomach the idea of eating animal products. My husband is like a He can literally go without eating a vegetable at a meal. But, I love him just the same! I also cook for my grandfather, who lives with us. But, he's easy to please. So, when I cook (almost every evening) I make us KIND OF separate meals. it's always been that way, so I learned to cook that way. It's usually not that hard to cook 2-3 vegetables and a meat dish. Sometimes mixed rices or sides have animal products in them. I just skip those. There are four places on the stove (plus an oven and a steamer with a couple of trays, and so on and so forth), so it always works out. In restaurants, I realize that I LOVE Austin, where I live. Whenever I've had to leave my city for another Texas city (like Houston, where I grew up), it's really hard to find a meal on the menu. In Austin it's always easy, and you usually don't have to bug them to change anything. So, my husband and I always order different kinds of foods, since so much is available.
tylergrl33 tylergrl33 6 years
I'm a vegetarian but we always sit & enjoy the meal together. We usually have the same sides
danakscully64 danakscully64 6 years
No, my guy eats healthy with me. He gets a larger portion, but we typically eat the same food. He loves being healthy too and he wants to support my health as well.
smarler smarler 6 years
If we eat out, he might splurge more than I do, but at home, we always eat the same thing. He will usually eat more of the starch/carb portion of dinner while I might fill up on the veggies. However, I tend to cook things that we both like and still maintain healthy levels of cholesterol and sodium. Now matter how fast someone's metabolism is now, there will be a day when all the salt, butter, and grease will take its toll on their health.
insanitypepper insanitypepper 6 years
We eat totally different things when we dine out. But if we're cooking at home, then he gets to eat like me, since I have the restricted diet. He might get an extra side dish of instant rice or a frozen dinner roll, if he really wants it.
amber512 amber512 6 years
Different meals - usually not Different portions - DEFNIITELY!
LeiraElle LeiraElle 6 years
I used to. My boyfriend is 5'11'' and 120lbs. And all he ate was pre-packaged, processed foods and pasta. Lots and lots of pasta. And he never gained an ounce. Its horribly unfair. But now he's become super health-conscious (clearly not for vanity's sake), and eats better than I do. We cook and eat great stuff together, but now I'VE become the one who finishes off his portions.
brindey brindey 6 years
100PoundsAndCounting, I went to your blog and think you are AMAZING. That is so cool! Congratulations! I am a vegetarian striving to stay in my skinny jeans and my boyfriend is a meat eater who is super tall and lean. I cook almost every meal, and he eats a ton more than I do.
Spartygirl03 Spartygirl03 6 years
I cook a lot now, so we eat similar dinners but my portions are usually smaller and if we're having something like the black bean burgers I made last week, I'll get him a nice roll from the bakery but I'll use a sandwich thin for me. He eats fairly healthfully, so it isn't too difficult but he does like eating meat more than I do, which is the new issue I have to figure out when cooking.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 6 years
Since day one. The explanation is that I'm the picky eater, and his taste is more mainstream with a bent towards spicy foods. I like healthy, plain, bland foods (I was that way since I was a child), and I'm stubborn about it. Likewise, my husband is stubborn about his preference. Thus, we always end up eating different foods at meal time.
lawchick lawchick 6 years
We usually eat the same thing, but he eats twice as much. And I'll make bread or a salad to go with the entree for him. So he'll have two helpings of the entree with bread or salad, and I'll just have one helping of the entree. It works for us.
jadenirvana jadenirvana 6 years
Fit, we are in the same boat! I call it my "Mrs. Spratt Complex!" I am small and curvy and my husband is tall and SKINNY. We have two milks in our fridge. I drink skim and he has whole with protein in it. I buy him Tombstone pizza and me Amy's Organic. And so on and so forth! Why can't gazelle metabolisms be sexually communicable? It would really cut down on my grocery bills!
Spectra Spectra 6 years
My husband is literally twice my size, so there's no way that we can eat the same foods all the time. He hates veggies for the most part, and I love them, so I usually fix separate food for him because he thinks veggies taste "too healthy".
Lo-Lo291303 Lo-Lo291303 6 years
My fiance will eat whatever I cook - so he eats a lot of tofu, greens, grilled chicken and whole grains, but then he'll have a second dinner after that! Usually it's red meat. He's quite thin naturally, so he can get away with copious amounts of hot dogs, hamburgers, chips, etc.
misslilad misslilad 6 years
i too packed on the pounds when i started dating my bf. we seemed to eat pizza all the time, and he eats horribly much of the time with lots of fast food. i finally said no more and have been doing my own thing and have lost all of the weight i gained. now i just need to improve his diet :)
100lbsandcountin 100lbsandcountin 6 years
Oh man, I love my hunnie but when I started dating him I gained 10lbs so fast! All the dates we had, wine and dine complete with dessert. Even though we share our meals most of the time I can't eat with him like that. He is also addicted to Fast Food and yea, ugh... we need to talk! lol As a former fatty being around that type of stuff can be hard!!! I've made a deal that if he absolutely must eat McDonald's, to do so behind my back!
TiVo TiVo 6 years
I cook healthy things for us most nights of the week, but occasionally I will make him a pan of lasagna and eat soup and salad or something. My hubby is a little on the thin side as it is, so even though he offers to eat what I eat, I worry about his metabolism eating him up!
franciepants franciepants 6 years
When I do the cooking, it's more like he it's 3/4 of the pot and I eat 1/4. If we order delivery, I try to throw some greens and veggies in there, or I just eat what's in the apartment if he orders stuff like family size ravioli.
le-romantique le-romantique 6 years
We generally eat the same thing, just I eat a human portion and he eats a lion portion, which is great because he's like 5'4" and 120lbs, Which is what almost all women wish they were (and could do).
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