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Keep Personal Goals Personal

You May Just Want to Keep It to Yourself

For some of us, telling the world that we are finally going to get healthy is a good thing because it holds us accountable and forces us to succeed.

For others, having to live up to the pressure from other people along with your own personal pressure can use too much of the energy that you should be focusing on achieving your goal at hand (not making others happy) and ultimately sabotage your goals. So if you find yourself identifying with the latter, then you may just want to keep your goals to yourself in the beginning so the pressure is not coming from all directions. Nothing is worse than when you're already feeling guilty about skipping the gym and your coworker goes, "Off the wagon, eh?" Trust me, I know.

Does this resonate with you or are you happy letting the world know you're planning on losing 15 pounds in the next three months?


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ElectroPopTart ElectroPopTart 9 years
I used to tell EVERYONE and their dog that I was on a diet or exercising regularly. I found the pressure from friends and family draining, so I decided to be healthy and NOT diet. I just eat healthy and exercise and I keep it ALL to myself! Muahahahhaa.
Spectra Spectra 9 years
When I first started losing weight, I didn't tell ANYONE because I didn't want people to keep on my tail about what I should or shouldn't be eating. Once I had lost about 30 lbs, people started asking me what I was doing to lose weight, so then I told them and they got inspired by me. I'm glad I didn't tell anyone though...the pressure would have been horrible!
cereal_please cereal_please 9 years
I prefer not to tell people, because then they would just tell me that I look fine or don't need to lose any weight (which is true, but I still have healthy goals) and then I'd be less inspired and more likely to reach for something unhealthy to eat because they tell me i look fine.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
I learned the hard way to keep my fitness goals to myself. Some people truly resent it when I share my plans. Like some of you, I receive remarks such as "You don't need to go to the gym, you're skinny!" Those remarks are stupid. I'm skinny BECAUSE I go to the gym, NOT the other way around. :oy: Whatever. The good thing is that people like that are not in my inner circle, so it doesn't matter what I share or don't share with them.
AMP AMP 9 years
I'm learning not to tell people about this stuff... plus a whole lot more. I have a friend who is really judging AND always measuring what she does against what I do- what I eat, how much I work out, etc. She always feels the need to be out doing me. I only look at whats good for me. I regret telling her that I joined a fitness challenge at my gym b/c now she is going extra crazy trying to work out every single day, even when it rains. She gave herself strep by doing it, but hey, that's her problem. Ok, sorry, but of a tangent there, but yes, I agree, limit who you tell b/c being judged or made to feel bad is so sabotaging.
DreaAST DreaAST 9 years
only tell the husband!
klandrach klandrach 9 years
I am choosey about who I tell my goals. I only let my close and very supportive friends know because they help keep me accountable. I figure the whole world doesn't probably need to know that I want to lose 10lbs. Plus, my friends won't judge me if I decide I need a treat or something after a tough day.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
I only tell a few pepes :)
melizzle melizzle 9 years
I only really tell the husband about it. Otherwise, it can get sticky at work... For example, yesterday I was heating up some lentils for lunch and one of my coworkers (who is on Weight Watchers to lose about 50 lbs) asked, "Anything good today?" We began this discussion about eating habits and she repeatedly told me, "But you're skinny, you don't need any of that!" Why do people just assume that since I'm thinner than they are that I don't have to work to be that way? I've worked extremely hard to stay in shape and it requires consistent, healthy eating and exercise to do so. I don't consider my self a fanatic about my health, but it is important that I eat well and stay active as often as I can.
kia kia 9 years
I keep most of my fitness goals to myself unless I recruit a workout partner or someone to do an exercise event with. Then I have someone to work with.
megnmac megnmac 9 years
I have had the same experience as Laurini - I have a close coworker who is also trying to be healthier, and we brainstorm on how to fit workouts into our tight schedules, and how to eat healthier... and having just a couple ppl that know I'm trying to be healthy keeps me dedicated to it. My mom, husband and friend are great, and I've lost the weight I gained last year because of this eat better new years resolution. But there is a more negative woman around work who makes cracks about it, like how she's decided to be fat and happy, as though I'm not happy being healthy, and watches and makes comments whenever I have a tiny indulgence. Ultimately, I think it is too much pressure when someone announces a specific diet and goal to everyone, b/c then everyone is asking how it is going nonstop and knows the rules of the diet and if you're cheating. The guys at work are constantly yo-yoing on Atkins and I think that would just be hard with everyone knowing. I am really really happy with just dedicating myself to healthy eating this year, before I eat I actually think about it and decide whether this is something that will eliminate a snack or require less tomorrow. And balance portion sizes... and work out more. I think just remembering I'm being 'healthy' has been the solution for me, b/c that includes moderation and checking in with myself, and it makes me self identify as a healthy person, rather than a person who wants to eat everything and is holding back!
bushra bushra 9 years
and i guess if you're a good judge of character you'll share your plans with someone who you know will be supportive, and not someone you know who likes to criticise.
bushra bushra 9 years
i wish i hadn't shared that i was going to eat less and exercise more, that leaves people with this expectation that you're going to suddenly lose weight. and you also have those that simply love to drop negative comments about areas they know trouble you. i'm definitely trying to keep it to myself more, because at the end of the day i'm doing this for me, not others.
laurini laurini 9 years
When I first made my decision to get back in shape and stop eating all that junk that had snuck back into my diet, I told a few people I worked with - I have one especially supportive coworker who has the same goal in mind, so we really help each other out which is great when there are food parties - together we don't feel as awkward refusing sugary cake, etc. On the other hand, I mentioned my goals around another coworker who is very negative and critical, and now every time she sees me eating a bite of a cookie (a bite! I can indulge once in awhile, right??) she has some nasty comment to make. I hate being made to feel guilty about a little treat once in awhile.
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
So true...
lorr878 lorr878 9 years
yeah i consider that pretty personal and only a few know when i am
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