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Sienna Miller Thinks She's Out of Shape

Speak Up: Slender People Who Complain About Their Bodies

A good friend of mine is constantly saying that she needs to lose weight, although I think she looks great. She goes to the gym several times a week and it shows — she's toned and seems to be in the best shape of her life. Some of our friends get upset when she makes these kinds of comments. Since they've struggled with weight their entire lives, it bothers them when girls who are thinner than they are complain about their weight.

This week, actress Sienna Miller admitted in an interview that she's not into the gym and can't really stick to a diet. She also shared that she feels like she's getting "soft."

“I think I’ve reached an age now where it’s time for me to start working out a bit. I can’t get away with it any more. I used to be able to get away with it. I was quite firm and quite tiny and as I hit 25, things started to change. Now I’m noticing more changes. You know, a top and bare legs at the back is not a pretty sight! I’m lazy and if I wear clothes, it’s hidden well.”

I don't know about you, but when I saw those pictures of Sienna in a bikini earlier this week, I didn't see a girl who needed to hide her bare legs or who is out of shape — but I'm not terribly bothered that she said this, either. Everything is relative to our own experiences, and her comments don't reek of having poor self-esteem. I'm sure that the body that she has now doesn't feel the same to her as the one she had when she was 24.

What about you — how do you feel when people who are thin point out that they feel just the opposite?

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blackdresses88 blackdresses88 7 years
As you said, "Everything is relative to our own experiences." Someone who's used to being naturally thin might become critical of themselves once their metabolism slows down. Everyone is skinnier than someone else, so it's unfair to say someone can't complain about how they look just because they might be skinnier than you are.
tatisugar tatisugar 7 years
i really don't think it's fair that just because someone is skinny they don't have a right to complain about their bodies, too. Just like fat people or average people skinny people can dislike their bodies. I am average, i have skinny friends, fat ones and average ones one thing rings true of everyone, we are women and most women don't see how good they are at one thing but usually tend to focus on the parts of themselves that aren't good. I am guilty of it myself. I wish we could all take the bad things in stride and see the bigger picture. "ok so i have flabby arms, but i have awesome legs and great skin" everyone has something and we need to focus on that. Not to say if you're 500 pounds with a great personality you shouldnt do smething about it. But just stop at that point where we become obsessed about our flaws, ya know?
Yogaforlife Yogaforlife 7 years
Everyone struggles with insecurities and has body parts that they wish were different. Even thin girls are insecure. I think it's okay for the occassional comment to be said. It's not always fishing for compliments, sometimes they just are expressing insecurities and frustration. It's no different than somebody obese making a comment. I'm a thin person however I'm not as thin as I used to be. I was never concerned with weight but rather, I didn't want to be the skinny girl with flabby muscles. I had an OCD with working out so I was super thin and muscled (and it's easy to look muscled when you are that thin, your muscles naturally show). However, as I'm getting older, I'm struggling with the fact that I'm not as thin as I was when I was 22. I don't have six-pack abs and muscles showing in my legs/butt. I don't think I'll ever weigh 95-100 lbs again. It's definitely quite the change and I really struggle to accept it. I'm trying to work on getting a semblance of my old shape back because that was when I felt most confident. I hate when someone tells me I have nothing to worry about because I'm still thin. Just because you feel somebody looks great doesn't mean they feel that way about themselves or are content with where they are at.
Zulkey Zulkey 7 years
as I get older I really am less interested in comparing myself to other people physically so that helps. Also, I used to be about 50 lbs heavier and I realized that even when you are thinner than you used to be, you still have your off days. I think aside from people with actual dysmorphia, everyone is within their rights not to feel their best and talk about it--it's just a matter of who you're talking to and not necessarily expecting a ton of sympathy from some people.
darc5204 darc5204 7 years
It annoys me when anyone, at any weight, whines about it or that "nothing works". However, Sienna's comments don't sound like complaining. She's just observing that her body isn't what it used to be, and maybe she should do something about it (a positive response to the perceived problem!) There's nothing wrong with discussing insecurities and goals with your friends if it's not a whiny, "I can't" mentality.
sloane220 sloane220 7 years
im not a large person but i am trying to lose around 5 lbs right now and i don't have an issue discussing it. i just discuss being fit in general, if it comes up in conversation.
GummiBears GummiBears 7 years
Bad habit of mine. I'm at my ideal weight so it is fairly easy to tip the scale on the overweight category. Hence I have to be careful of my weight. But then again I am muscular so most people do not believe me when I tell them my weight. *shrugs*
runningesq runningesq 7 years
Wow, Anon @ 14, you must be an RD with that kind of brilliant advice: If you wanna lose weight you should eat vegetables(no potato). Only!! Yeah it's hard. But it's that simple. Please kindly keep that kind of stupid advice to yourself. I'm in good shape but there are parts of my body I don't like. When I gain weight it goes right to my stomach/ love handles (who loves these things? :P) and after the IM I've put on some weight -- mostly there. When I'm trying to lose 5-10 pounds I keep quiet about it -- IMO there's nothing more annoying than a smallish girl talking about dieting. I KNOW I'm in good shape but I would like to be 5-8 pounds lighter -- and when you're barely 5'1 that's a full pants/ dress size ! I don't complain/ talk about it because many of my coworkers are a lot bigger than me, and I think the whole "I need to lose x pounds" discussion around them is rude.
cotedazur cotedazur 7 years
Our self image is about so much more than outward appearances. From the outside, you may look at another woman and label her "slender" or decide that she has a perfect body, but the way she views herself could be completely different. In my opinion, to say that thin people shouldn't complain about their weight is like saying someone who makes 6 figures shouldn't be allowed to complain about their job, or that someone with an attentive spouse can't say anything negative about their relationship. We have no idea what is going on inside someone else's head or what struggle they may be going through with their weight and body image.
Spectra Spectra 7 years
Everyone has "fat days" or parts of their bodies that they don't like and could complain about. Sometimes I catch myself saying something like "Ugh, I feel fat today" and my coworkers will say something like "Eh, you probably just ate something weird and you're bloated. Drink lots of water and you'll probably feel skinny again". Which is probably what I'd say to skinny people who say "I'm so fat!" If they aren't just bloated or PMSing and start going on about it, I stop listening.
Allytta Allytta 7 years
i'm overweight and my best friend is 5'10'', I myself am only 5'4''. She's gorgeous slim girl with curves - she weights about 138lbs and she always complains how nothing seems to work. She has some fat around her belly area, but nothing even remotely as big as mine. But I listen, even though I'm annoyed. I'm more frustrated that this conversation never ends for the last 9 years. She does cardio everyday for 30-40min, she eats 2 times more than me, she works her core with gym balls and pilates. My BF is 5'10'' and weights 122lbs - Olympic swimmer. So this team just hurts my self-esteem - thin people all around, but you know what? I'm trying to get on their level now, it makes me more motivated to get rid of my spare tire. And constant talk about weight reminds me of my own problems. Otherwise I lose focus. I'm well over 150lbs myself
PinkNC PinkNC 7 years
I don't mind someone mentioning that they dislike something about their body. Heck, we all have something that we don't like. But I think people that complain TOO often probably have severe insecurity issues. If you're too skinny then eat something healthy that will help you gain weight. If you're obese then find a work out regiment and diet that suits you OR consider having weight loss surgery. If you feel you need toning up then hit the gym or buy some exercise equipment. But don't constantly complain to people that you know are irritated by your words now because you refuse to take any steps towards just want to complain because it makes you feel a little better.
clearskies clearskies 7 years
Sometimes I find it nice to hear celebrities show their minor body insecurities. It doesn't make me think any less of them. However, I love my friends to be confident about their body, even if they aren't "perfect". Comments about working out are different, sometimes we have to whine a bit when we are trying to get our butts back to the gym.
Chicagomarie Chicagomarie 7 years
I do this occasionally. I'm not fat (us size 4), and most people probably think I look fine. But sometimes I have those "fat days." However I really try not to publicly complain my body, and I discourage others from doing it. For one, if I feel "fat" it's really something else I'm feeling. I believe we are NOT our bodies, our bodies are only one part of who we are, we don't have "good" or "bad" bodies based on number. And I try to pass that along to my friends, who are many different sizes but all are beautiful. blah blah I know....
Pistil Pistil 7 years
What bothers me is when anyone (slender or not so slender) complains about their weight, but is unwilling to make an effort to do anything about it: "I’m lazy" :oy:
ticamorena ticamorena 7 years
There are definitely circumstances where people are doing it just in order to fish for compliments and in some cases, to honestly put down others, in which case my response is often "I feel sorry for you that you feel that way" but what REALLY irks me is when people complain about something to do with their bodies based solely on vanity, and without regard to their health.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 7 years
It's so obvious to me that the person is just insecure and fishing for compliments. It honestly conjures up more "oh god, you are so pathetic" than "this makes me so mad." I never respond to it either. If someone I'm hanging out with starts the "I'm so fat" whining, they're not getting any reassurance from this girl.
zeze zeze 7 years
It depends on the person. Some people say something once in a while and it really is something that bothers them about their body and who else will they share that with besides their friends?! On the other hand, there are girls who constantly whine and moan about it just to get reassured that they are pretty, lucky, and everyone wishes they could have their body. Those girls irritate me.
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