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Speak Up: Is a Fit and Healthy Significant Other a Must?

A fit and healthy lifestyle is part of who I am, and I think it's a bonus that my hubby is into being active, too. It allows us to spend more time together, when we go to yoga classes, ski, or take afternoon hikes. For some people, they wouldn't think of dating someone who wasn't on the same fit and healthy path. For others, it doesn't bother them that their significant other doesn't join them at the gym. What about you? Is it important that your significant other or spouse exercise and eat healthy? If you met them and health wasn't that important to them, would you try to encourage him to eat more veggies and work out? Or do you only worry about your own well-being and not try to push your healthy views on others?


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mllechantal3 mllechantal3 8 years
i always date guys that are tall and skinny 6'4" 170 lbs. until now they have all been smokers, eat poorly, and never work out. my current boyfriend doesn't smoke and thankfully eats healthy. he's a good influence in that aspect, but doesn't have to exercise at all. and he could eat a big mac every day and not gain weight. i wish he would go to the gym with me but he hates it.
kristints kristints 8 years
I would never date someone who didn't care about themselves enough to stay healthy. As far as I'm concerned, a person who poisons themselves with unhealthy food is quite unattractive.
It's not important to me, but here's some food for thought. My boyfriend of five years and I are yoyo weight people. We get really fit and lean and then when we reach the peek we reward ourselves with pizza and slip back into flab. We tend to do the cycle together as we get really motivated to go to the gym and support each other in working out and then all of a sudden we're baking brownies and ordering in. From my experience significant others are the best motivators to get fit and also the worst enablers when you're falling off the wagon. But I'd rather get back on the wagon with him any day than be with some buff guy who keeps me going in the gym, but no where else.
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
Yes because I dislike working out alone. :)
crayolasky crayolasky 8 years
I couldn't marry a meat & potatoes guy... since I'm a vegetarian. Exercise, not as much, but I'd prefer him to be active and somewhat fit. Definitely not a couch potato!
fashionplate525 fashionplate525 8 years
I would like to have a SO who was on a similar wavelength when it comes to health and fitness. I go to the gym a few times a week and eat a healthy diet, but am not consumed by excercise and what I eat. It would be ideal to have a partner who was active and supportive when it comes to living a healthy lifestyle!
Veronix Veronix 8 years
It's not a must, but it is a huge plus! In the beginning, my SO was as into working out as I am but nowadays he's a lot more laid back about it. He thinks I'm strange when I get up early at saturday mornings to go running "just for fun", he just doesn't get that anymore. We used to go running together...
Kimpossible Kimpossible 8 years
Definitely a must. I say that now, but when I was younger it wasn't. Thankfully hubby is just as much into fitness as I am, and he's getting into the nutrition part with me now too.
SKC-Sparkle SKC-Sparkle 8 years
Hmmm...this is a tough one because I HATE working out. I really have to be in the mood to go for a run, but I find once I get into the groove, I can work out every day. While I hate the treadmill, if I am really stressed or really angry, it helps me work off the tension. I am more of a pilates and yoga girl. Not many guys do either, so... I guess my answer is I would like my guy to be workout-oriented, but not one of those guys that spends more time at the gym than with me.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
As for me, yes. Health and fitness is a turn-on.
elle86 elle86 8 years
After having gone through a significant weight loss and now getting back into a healthy gear again, I realize once and for all how much I am in lifestyle change and not on a fad diet... Good health is so important to me because of the diseases that occur in my family. I would not put myself into a position to get with someone whose health ideals were far from mine. Wanting a healthy life for me and those I love isn't unreasonable, and I would want my partner to feel the same way, which would imply he would eat healthfully. Am I saying I need someone with six pack abs? Of course not. If on a weekend he'd rather drink a six pack, that's his deal. However, going through all the changes I have, it would be so hard to be with someone who wasn't on the same page. I need encouragement and support, and someone who lives as I do, or close to it, is the ultimate encouragement.
SillyGirl SillyGirl 8 years
Yes I married someone who was as actiibe as me. I dont think I would be happy without having someone to be active with - we go cycling, skiing, hiking, etc.!!
DiamondBeluga DiamondBeluga 8 years
I don't have a significant other, and I don't think I'd deny being with them because of their lack of concern for health, but it would definitely be a plus to have that motivation. Especially with eating healthy--but I definitely prefer to just work out alone at the gym. Hikes with my future guy, for sure, but I like to use my gym time to think about my life and goals. "Me time", I guess you could say.
TammyO TammyO 8 years
When I met my then boyfriend I was pretty much chain smoking and never ran a day in my life. He ran, and fast, and never smoked. But he put up with me and never harped on about me quitting or that I should start running like him. Pretty soon I quit smoking, we now have two kids and are married and I'm running. So I guess his habits slowly rubbed off on me. I wanted to get heathly for me and as a better example for my kids, not to impress him. But now he's pretty impressed anyway that I slowly but surely, and without pushing from him, became a "runner".
myystque myystque 8 years
It's not a must for me or else I wouldn't be with my current boyfriend, who exercises irregularly and eats a lot of junk food. However, I must admit that if he had healthier eating habits, it'd be easier for me since I have weak willpower (I have a hard time resisting those bags of chips...)
hibiscus96818 hibiscus96818 8 years
For me, it is important to be with someone who eats healthy. I am diabetic and currently trying to avoid daily insulin shots so, I don't want to be with someone who keeps a lot of sugar and junk around the house. Exercise is something I do to relieve stress and I would never expect my significant other to take a Zumba class with me.
margokhal margokhal 8 years
I'd say that just as long as the guy is healthy, can eat right, and can support me and keep up with me in my journey to get healthy, it's okay. He doesn't have to go to the gym all the time or anything. However, I'm in the process of trying to lose a ton of weight, get healthy and fit and everything, and I've always been attracted to fit/healthy guys [not muscular or gym-obsessed, but they take care of themselves]. However, because I don't LOOK like the girl who's fit/at the gym/exercising a lot, I can't attract them. I'd be a hypocrite to say "YES it's a must", because it goes both ways. Slightly OT Sidenote: People have always set me up with guys who have TERRIBLE eating habits [my eating habits aren't bad], don't do ANYTHING to take care of themselves, and are expecting a girl that's willing to cook everything deep-fried and fatty - which i am NOT. That *definitely* isn't what I need, yet everyone around me seems to think that because I'm not fit now, I'm only worthy of a guy who ALSO isn't fit. >(
pequeña pequeña 8 years
It's interesting to read all these comments. As for me, I want my boyfriend to be healthy, that's for sure. It is an important part of a relationship. My boyfriend is more active than I am though. He's a professional skateboarder and he skates every single day. I do work out a lot and I love yoga and swimming, but obvioulsy you can't compare. I eat healthier than him though and I wish he would eat healthier, but I understand that after a long day of non-stop exercise you feel like a big plate of spaghetti.
Francoisehardly Francoisehardly 8 years
Yes, it's important that he take of his health since I would want a life with this person. I don't care for the idea of dating a gym rat and he doesn't have to be a super athlete, plus I don't like the idea of someone who spends lots of time in the gym and not enough working out their brain too and I do not like big muscles. I would just like for a SO I might have to mostly eat right and do some exercise so we could both have a decent quality of life.
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
Oops...not to offend people who workout in a gym. But if you do, I'm sure you know who the 'rats' are... he's doing more idle sweating and socializing than working out and he can't scratch his own back to save his life cause he's got Popeye forearms(because he can't flirt doing squats). And his feet almost ALWAYS stink!!! Yeah, that guy. :D
MlleMLT MlleMLT 8 years
I think it's a must. I have always been althletic and now am involved with super hard-core workouts again (crossfit + 1/2 marathons) and need someone who understands my hands that are ripped from doing a ton of pullups and my shins are scabby from hitting myself on 185 lb deadlifts, and doesn't think I have taken it too far or something. My bf was playing bball when we met and now he hoops for fun and runs and bikes outside a lot. Sometimes hits the weights as well but he is not interested in getting big. That is perfect for me. I love that he is fit but isn't a gym-rat and he does it for fun and to stay in shape, not for vanity. The one thing we differ on is I mostly eat healthy and follow the Zone while he eats whatever he wants. I think he is moving into a healthier eating direction as we get older though.
esweet esweet 8 years
I try hard to eat healthy and I work out a lot, and having my husband on board makes it that much easier. I do have to drag him out of bed early in the morning for the gym (he'd rather go at night) but he always tells me he feels so much better afterwards having his workout done for the day in the morning! He's a really healthy eater too, so I'm lucky.
HaterTot HaterTot 8 years
I don't care at all, because I am a big proponent of separate lives. If he is active, he can't go to the gym with me or anything like that. Gym/workout time is me time. I think "no sports together" is an excellent rule of thumb too. It's too much competition when we're already going to be professionally and intellectually competitive and as a former tennis pro having dated snowboarding, skiing, and other tennis instructors - there is nothing I hate more than playing sports with a boyfriend, except possibly teaching/being taught by them. Ugh.
Marlovestar Marlovestar 8 years
Yes it's very important. Especially for the health benefits. I don't want to be with someone who does not care for their body.
kia kia 8 years
My significant other needs to be healthy. When I met my husband he was a thin computer dork that didn't eat well or workout. Not on purpose or anything, but he is more athletic now and more food conscience. He is actually doing his first team sport in 09... soccer. We both have plans set for spring league.
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