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Speak Up: Is the Gym a Good Place to Find Love?

I've always been opposed to seeing the gym as a pick-up spot, since the gym is not a bar.

However, after reading a recent article on eDiets, I can see the other point of view. If exercise is a major part of your life and you want to find someone else with the same priorities, what's a better place than the gym to find that person. I mean obviously he works out, so it's a start.

I guess the main issue is for all of us not looking for love at the gym. Is there a balance? Is the gym a good place to find love? You know I want to know what you guys think, so speak up and let me know what you guys think about it all in the comments section below.


mlen mlen 10 years
i once dated i guy i met at my work gym. he worked in a different building (so no worries about it messing up my work sitch- we were in totally different departments). but he used to come into the gym the same time as me and ended up on the treadmill next to me a few times and we started talking. we dated casually for a while. i still run into him occasionally out at a bar and we stop and chat- it didn't turn into a huge romance but it didn't turn out badly either!
JDLNeil JDLNeil 10 years
One reason I've been hesitant to entertain romance at the gym is because when (oh, sorry, IF) things don't work out then that's a potential reason to curtail gym use. I don't want anything keeping me from the gym. The gym is my happy place.
suzier suzier 10 years
I prefer the gym to a bar. The gym is a place you go regularly, so you get to meet people in a more natural way, by bumping into them regularly as you go about living your life. Also, you're more likely to run across people who share something in common with you by meeting people in your daily activities. The fact that that isn't why you're there or the purpose of the gym is what makes it better, imo. Also, I don't really like bars, so I sure hope there are other places!!
bizzybee bizzybee 10 years
I once dated a really nice guy that I met at the gym. I wasn't "cruising" but we ran into each other and hellos became a little more chit chat and then that lead to going out. He was a great person - I agree with canadiansugarfan to keep your options open but also heed your intuition.
canadiansugarfan canadiansugarfan 10 years
I am now happily married to the guy who approached me at the gym 5 years ago :) Regardless of where you are, if you don't give the guy/girl a chance, you'll never know if it's going to be the one. I was weary at first to go out with anyone at the gym, but he was persistent, and after 3 times of asking me out, I finally gave him a chance. And now we're celebrating our 1 year wedding anniversary! There are a lot of decent guys there that are just looking to keep fit and stay healthy as are the women, not out to scout for women for one-nighters. Besides, those guys tend to be a bit more obvious. I have friends that are married that have met at clubs and bars, so there shouldn't be such a restriction on "where" it's acceptable to meet someone (well, strip joints are never a good idea) ;) Keep your options open, but always listen to your intuition! xoxo
nicachica nicachica 10 years
never met a cute guy at my gym but maybe that's cuz they're meatheads?
MlleMLT MlleMLT 10 years
No way! I met my first "love" at the gym. He is a trainer and we would see each other out for months and we finally started dating on and off for years. During the "off" timess (and during the "on" times too lol, which is why I finally ended things) I had to watch him flirt with cute women in spandex - NOT FUN!. Now I am happily with another guy, and usually go to another gym, but when I see him, the trainer still tries to test me and flirt even though he never had any intention of being true to me. WHat an A*shole! I feel sorry for the girls he tries to mack on at the gym now...hope they don't make the same mistake.
Pinkgirl88 Pinkgirl88 10 years
My bf used and i met because he was my trainer and we've been together 3 yrs; however i met a psycho at th gym once and hd to cahnge my number over it.
sportsaholic21 sportsaholic21 10 years
I have to agree with some of the above commenters...I don't think there is anything wrong with meeting someone at the gym, as long as that is not your sole motivation in going to the gym. I met my current boyfriend at the gym, but it was a random chance encounter. I usually am all business when I go to the gym but he waited to approach me when I was stretching and getting ready to go so I gave him a chance! I also am not someone who would look to find a date at a bar, I think that is the worst place to meet guys!
sunshinevaness sunshinevaness 10 years
Personally I wouldn't go looking for love at the gym. I would just end up loosing my focus on my workout!
squirrellypoo squirrellypoo 10 years
ugh, no. I go to the gym to sweat, not to be leered at and hit on!
beingtazim beingtazim 10 years
georgie2 georgie2 10 years
I don't go to the gym to look for love, but definitely if the opportunity comes up and I'm interested, than all good! We already have one thing in common! AMP makes a very good comment about the sports bar though, hehe.
MLipchick MLipchick 10 years
I think the gym is a great place to find love if a) that is not the sole reason you are there b) the gym isn't entirely full of meathead guys (which at my gym is not a problem, which is why i love it!) c) you feel comfortable going up to a guy even though you might not look the way you would if you were say to go out at night ahahah i'm talking about the redface and sweating. Just last week I went up to a super cute guy at the gym and told him i thought he was really cute and apologized for being somewhat redfaced and sweaty and he said that it was no problem because we are after all at the gym! he also made sure to mention he was single, but i haven't seen him since so i don't think much will come of it, which sucks!
Alissa1122 Alissa1122 10 years
Since I am almost always sweaty and gross at the gym, I'll have to say no. More power to those that do find love there, though.
misstsapinay misstsapinay 10 years
I think it's okay to meet someone at the gym. As long as they're not bothering you during a workout :) Fitness is a big part of mine and my bf's relationship. I think me being such a health nut is what made him fall in love with me, lol.
Spectra Spectra 10 years
I never liked meeting people at bars...too many drunk idiots looking for one night stands. I didn't really meet guys at the gym, either...I was always just there to work out, not to socialize. Most of the guys I dated were guys I met at the library or in class. I met my husband through a mutual friend and we emailed each other before actually meeting in person...and that worked out :)
moonischasingme1 moonischasingme1 10 years
I got an all women gym, soooo for me personally? NO. I am not single either, so this could be why. I think you can meet people anywhere. Do I think people should go to the gym for the sole purpose of possibly meeting someone? No, I think if you happen to catch someone's eye, strike up a convo without trying, then what is the harm? People need to meet some place, right?
AMP AMP 10 years
Ew, no, not for me. First of all, I don't want a first impression of me to be a sweaty, red-faced, nasty smelling one. Second, I can't say that there is really any guys at the gym that I'm drawn to. Most of them are over-muscled meatheads who look like theyre showing off most of the time. I'd rather find a guy at a sports bar watching a game and drinking some beer. I can tell them if he works out or not and this way I also know he likes sports and beer! I feel like Cameron Diaz in Something about Mary. Give me a guy who can eat a hot dog and drink a real beer! wooohoooo :)
telewyo telewyo 10 years
I agree that a bar is the last place I would look for love. I also wouldn't purposely go looking for love at the gym but it seems like a low pressure way to meet people with your interests. If one of the guys I chat with regularly in my spinning class happened to ask if I wanted to go for a run sometime, I would totally be receptive!
Molly Molly 10 years
My brother kind of met his current girlfriend at the gym. He used to see her there every day, and then one day when he ran into her out at a bar he said hi.
mlmoreno47 mlmoreno47 10 years
I think that the one place to NOT find love is a bar, but that's me, I don't like going to bars. Anyway, I think finding love at the gym is fine as long as that's not why you're there. I know you've seen them, full hair and make-up walking on the treadmill at a speed of 1.5 with their heads bobbing around looking for a guy. So annoying. It like the gals who go to college to earn their MRS degree lol! I think once people live their lives and stop looking so hard, it will happen when it happens. It worked for me.
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