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Stressed out? Try some Loving-Kindness

Is somebody getting your goat? Having trouble with a co-worker and it's stressing you out? Take a little time to try a Metta meditation with them in mind.

Metta, a Buddhist meditation, translates roughly into English as "loving-kindness", or "altruistic, selfless love".

The chant goes:
May I be filled with loving kindness
May I be well
May I be peaceful and at ease
May I be happy

These are always great thoughts, but to learn how to focus them toward your annoying co-worker,

Repeat the phrase 4 - 5 times in your mind, with your eyes closed:

  • First, thinking of someone you love - this one is easy.
  • Second, saying it for yourself - you can use some loving kindness too.
  • Third, focusing on some random person - maybe someone you saw in the elevator.
  • Fourth, saying it with your troublesome co-worker in mind - may seem tough, but you can do it.

Sounds a little on the wacky side I know, but definitely no less wacky than freaking out on your co-worker over something petty (you may know it as the last straw). Metta lightens the dark feelings and calms you down. It makes that "goat" seem tolerable, maybe even more like a person and definitely less full of garbage.

Fit's tip: There are no harmful side effects to using metta multiple times a day, so use it whenever you need it.

Join The Conversation
Shiloh-Jolie-Pitt Shiloh-Jolie-Pitt 10 years
If I'm feeling stressed out I just go into introspection mode to re-evaluate all the blessings in my life and refocus on the positive. ___________________________________________ ~~ Experience is one thing you can't get for nothing ~~
wynter wynter 10 years
I get a hug from one of my children. If they're causing the stress (usually - lol), I play with the cats or our puppy. :)
BeachBarbie BeachBarbie 10 years
FitSugar, you are so right...great advice. bluejeanie, I do that too. lol I have two websites with baby animals that I look at every month. I'll be sure to check out the one you mentioned. It might be one, that I already look at. Their in my favorite places. Thanks, for mentioning yours, I'm going to check it out. :)
jennifer76 jennifer76 10 years
LOL @ no harmful side effects. Happy thoughts always work wonders! This is a great way to focus on happy thoughts. :D
bluejeanie bluejeanie 10 years
when i'm stressed out i calm down by looking at baby animals on cuteoverload.com baby animals are the best for perking up your mood!
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