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Would You Dump Your Boyfriend If He Made Offensive Remarks About Your Weight?

Would You Dump Your Partner For Making Comments About Your Weight?

Jennifer Love Hewitt admits that she almost dumped her boyfriend, comedian Jamie Kennedy, when they first got together because he referred to her as "my little pear ass" after seeing her in a bikini. Having been slammed by the media over her weight in the past, it makes sense that she is sensitive to these kind of remarks. She's also not feeling the pear love: "Have you seen a pear? It starts thin, it gets fat and it never gets thin again. It's not cute. It's not a cute fruit."

I'm thinking he probably meant it as a term of endearment so I'm a little surprised she would have broken up over it. The pair worked out the issue and have since "embraced the pear," she says.

What would you do in a similar situation?

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Allytta Allytta 7 years
some truth is always healthy. my guy doesn't offend me he just gently reminds me a could be healthier and slimmer. he always asks me if i have work out today :) my usual answer is no, so he keeps on asking... he's an olympic athlete himself, so sport and fitness is very important to him. and i'm a 24 BMI having out of shape girl :)) but if it goes into offensive territory then respect and love is gone and bullying begins - time to break up
tuliprush tuliprush 7 years
No - If what he told me was true, I would appreciate the honesty. I feel like we are too sensitive as a society. If I have put on weight and its noticeable enough to warrant a comment from him, then the reality check is much appreciated!! I have about 15 pounds that I want to lose, and all of it is in my hips/butt. If my boyfriend called me pear butt, I'd laugh and say "Yeah, whatever, baldy" and laugh.
becky0125 becky0125 7 years
typical guy making comments he doesn't realize girls find offensive. When I would be with my ex at the dining hall he'd sometimes say things to me like "loadin' up the plate today huh?" It made me so mad the first time, but then I heard him say the exact same thing to his guy friends. It's not a shot to your weight, it's just guys thinking out loud and saying stupid things because that's what guys do.
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 7 years
I think "pear bum" is kiinda cute but I wouldn't like it applied to my bum! My partner has made comments about my weight, the part that ticks me off is that I am not overweight. I chatted to my doc about it and he said I has nothing to worry about!
pamela87 pamela87 7 years
I think what he said is pretty tacky! No one wants to hear that, especially with someone you're intimate with and supposed to trust. :(
staple-salad staple-salad 7 years
I can see how he'd mean "pear butt" as a compliment. Some guys are into big butts, and if you play up a big butt, it's not a big deal and it can be very sexy when embraced. My boyfriend makes comments on my weight all the time. He likes my fat, even though I'm trying to lose it.
kastarte2 kastarte2 7 years
Yeah "pear butt" isn't a compliment. I can see why she would be upset.
any any 7 years
i think she should be grateful, i mean she has a nice figure. a figure a lot of women would like to have! not everyone with a "pear shape" is FAT! :S
itsallabouttheg itsallabouttheg 7 years
it sounds like he was trying to give a cutsie compliment. besides, aren't millions of women pear-shaped (smaller on top, fuller hips/thighs)!? for someone who wrote "to all girls with butts, boobs, hips, and a waist, put on a bikini — put it on and stay strong."," she certainly doesn't drink her own kool-aid.
snapperdoodle snapperdoodle 7 years
Sometimes men say things that they don't realize are insulting to women. Really! A lot of men don't know that using the term "pear" in regards to your butt might insult you.
Spectra Spectra 7 years
It would depend on the nature of the comments, I guess. If my husband EVER told me I was fat or called me fat, I would be pissed. But if he just made some smart-ass comment about some part of my body that kind of made me mad, I would tell him that I was sensitive about that part of my body and didn't need to hear his commentary about it. I sometimes catch myself joking around about my husband's belly, but I realize it's not exactly a nice thing to say, so I shut up.
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