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Are You Stressed Out Because Your Significant Other Hasn't Proposed Yet?

Are You Stressed Out Because Your Significant Other Hasn't Proposed Yet?

Being in a relationship with someone you love is a wonderful thing. The love you feel is so powerful, and the unconditional support you share helps you to be better people. When you're in a relationship for a long time, and you feel strongly about that person, you're bound to think "When will we get engaged?"

Others are bound to think that too, especially your close friends and family. You can feel a lot of pressure when people are constantly asking, "So...When are you two going to get engaged?" It doesn't really help the situation and can make you extremely anxious.

Are you totally in love with your significant other, and are anxious because he hasn't popped the question yet? Here are some tips to help you relax.

  • Tell your friends and family to back off - Politely tell them that you feel strongly about where your relationship is going, and if anything happens, they'll be the first to know.
  • Talk to your significant other - If you really are doubting how he's feeling about you, and whether he wants to spend the rest of his life with you, chatting about it will set your mind at ease.
  • Exercise - Releasing all that energy will help release stress and tension, not to mention, it'll keep you in shape so when you do get engaged, you'll feel good about trying on wedding gowns.
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    • Go away for the weekend with some girlfriends - There's nothing like a little female bonding time. Plus, a new place will give you a new perspective, and we all know that distance makes the hard grow fonder.
    • Get a massage - Treat yourself to some hands-on relief. A massage will relax your muscles and your mind, and get the issue of an engagement out of your head.
    • Talk to a Therapist - They are professional listeners, and they don't know you or your history, so they won't make any judgments. Sometimes it's just nice to get your feelings out, and for someone to hear what you're going through.

    Fit's Tips: These are just some ideas to help you de-stress. Whatever you do, don't lose hope. A secret proposal could be in your not-to-distant future, so if you know in your heart that someday you'll get engaged, enjoy the time you have together, and be excited for what's to come. Plus, dealing with all this stress now will be great practice for when you're married, and people start pressuring you with "So...When are you going to have kids?"


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nycgirl nycgirl 10 years
I know a lot of guys who haven't proposed because they are saving money for the rings. It's quite expensive, you know!!! If you are one of those who wants to get engaged and doesn't care for a fancy ring, try casually mentioning that some time and hopefully it will speed up the process! As for me, our engagement was 'pressured' because I was moving in with him-- a HUGE no-no with my parents. They still aren't happy but at least are more reassured that he's not just using and abusing me :)
JKe895 JKe895 10 years
Don't give up hope Vsugar! I was with my boyfriend (now fiance) for over a year and a half before he proposed to me. It was quite random. I thought that he was going to ask my parents as well but it turned out that he didn't until after he asked me. It will happen sooner or later, just don't get all wrapped up about it or it might cause uneccessary strains as well and that's not wanted. Now that we're engaged I felt an immediate "when will you have kids?" and "I want greandbabies" and "what colors are you planning for your wedding?"... OH DON'T let me get started on that either! It's great, don't get me wrong, but you don't want to rush it.
Vsugar Vsugar 10 years
I think it's extremely stressful NOT being engaged to the person you know you want to marry. I know I think about it all the time. I am SOOOOOO in the mood to plan our wedding!! And we talk about getting married all the time, and he's ALWAYS saying things like "forever" and "someday our kids...", and all kinds of things like that, but, I mean, come ON SERIOUSLY, like, WHERE is the proposal??!!?!?!?? I don't care about a ring, I just want to to be married. It makes me wonder if he wants it like I do, or if he understands that the things he says make me feel like he's about to propose, but then he doesn't. Our two year date is coming up very soon, and I am hoping SOMETHING will happen, but as I know he hasn't asked my parents yet (and I know he will), I guess I shouldn't hope too much. =( Vsugar
Butrfly4404 Butrfly4404 10 years
ning - I worry about that, too! Haha, another stress of not being engaged: worrying about the wedding once you are!!
ning ning 10 years
Being engaged is stressful too. There's a endless list of things to plan for the wedding.
Fitness Fitness 10 years
kscinotta - I see your point, but for a lot of people, getting engaged is really important to them.
kscincotta kscincotta 10 years
I have to admit that I've never understood why being in a relationship and not being engaged was a stressful thing. If you're happy in your relationship and you know you're both committed to it and show it in other ways, then why do you need a diamond on your finger? The only time it makes sense to me is if you're older (like over 35) and definitely want to have kids, but not out of wedlock. That's when there starts to be a time limit involved. But otherwise, there's no forseeable endpoint in your relationship, so why are you in a rush to get engaged?
KatyStardust KatyStardust 10 years
I'm only stressed out because my boyfriend's plan to propose was thwarted - almost a year ago. I mean, how long does it take to make a backup plan? I shouldn't complain. But I must admidt, occasionally I wonder if he changed his mind.
Butrfly4404 Butrfly4404 10 years
We've been living as a family for 4 years. Four Friggin Years. I would like to get married soon (as soon as I lose the rest of my weight, actually). But I also want to take my kids to Disney World. Both cost a lot of money. My kids will get older. My love won't change because I have a diamond. (Although, my benefits will be cheaper and I won't have to worry about fighting his ex-wife for his life insurance should something horrible happen, but HEY! can't win them all, right?) I DO want to be married, but I can wait until I have the money to have the kind of wedding I want. It does get really old trying to explain to people our whole situation...I usually refer to him at The Man or my husband because I feel like when I say "My boyfriend" people automatically picture some guy that I'm waiting to call me while I draw his name in hearts, you know? Haha, this is long. But I AM going to go home and tell him that Fit told me to get a massage because we're not married yet! ;)
llendril llendril 10 years
i think that waiting is great. when you finally make the decision to get married, you will be that much more certain that you are making the right choice. i feel that a lot of my friends who are getting engaged at such young ages view the process as just a series of steps. next comes engagement. next comes marriage. next come kids and houses and mini vans, etc. etc. but i'm not really convinced that it's all been thought through well enough to ensure a happy and mature future as a couple. i suppose only time will tell. and i wish everyone the best!
Beaner Beaner 10 years
Everyone was asking us before we got engaged. But HIS mom was the worst. Everytime she called him, she'd ask to speak to me. Then she would say "What's going on? Are you guys getting engaged or what?" And I'd say "Uh, maybe you should ask him that." And she'd say "I already did, but he told me to mind my own business." It's so nice to be engaged, but now people are annoying us with "When's the wedding gonna be!!" Ahhh...
Daylyn Daylyn 10 years
Cams, I agree! I have so many friends who are engaged, and my boyfriend and I have been together longer then all of them. And I get friends and family and coworkers who ask ALL the time when are we getting engaged. But they don't understand I'm really happy how things are, and when we do get engaged, great, since I'll be just as happy then too :)
cams cams 10 years
Literally all of my friends are engaged except for 4 girls! Its slightly annoying since my boyfiriend and I have been together long than any of them, but at the same time I am not ready to get married. Other people asking is soooo annoying though.
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