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After a Dinner Party, Do You Offer to Help Clean Up?


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Allytta Allytta 8 years
in my culture it's bad luck to let someone wash your dishes... for free. you have to pay them to lift the bad luck :)
betty-kraker betty-kraker 8 years
i end up helping
AmberHoney AmberHoney 8 years
Yes! It's common practice amongst our friends/families. It must be done in our home cause it's too small not to and no room to enjoy dessert. We try and make it fun.
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 8 years
i usually just start helping if the hostess starts to clean up. If its really formal or someone i dont know at all I'll offer a few times and then sit my a$$ down if they say no.
SweetFirefly SweetFirefly 8 years
It depends on who is hosting the dinner party. I think it's rude to offer if it's a formal dinner party. That would be insulting to the hostess for her guests to clean up the dishes/kitchen. It's okay to offer if it's informal.
divinedebris divinedebris 8 years
If the host or hostess gets up and starts cleaning up, I'll get up and help regardless. That's just good manners.
aimeeb aimeeb 8 years
Spectra Spectra 8 years
I always just get up and help if I'm at my parents' house or my inlaws' house, but if I'm at a friend's place, I ask before I jump in because they might have specific places for things or dishes that have to be washed in a special way.
laurelm laurelm 8 years
I am usually the host and I have some friends that just push me aside and clean up (i love them, lol) I think it is because I cook so much and have all the parties, my friends are more open and bold about helping as a thank you. When I am at someone else's I certainly offer to help- it is the polite thing to do.
pharm_chick pharm_chick 8 years
i always offer, and jump in many times as well.
chiefdishwasher chiefdishwasher 8 years
With my name....why do you think they invite me?
nancita nancita 8 years
I have such a reputation for washing dishes that I now get yelled at whenever I approach the sink. Really, rather than getting yelled at for helping, I'd rather more people help ME when I have dinner parties. But alas, no one does.
Zulkey Zulkey 8 years
skigurl sometimes I don't want someone to help me though--I don't want the conversation to be interrupted or I have a special way I want to do things or I need to do something in the kitchen--I think offering is right. I take help when I need it but I get annoyed when someone acts like they know best.
gothamgal gothamgal 8 years
I offer about three times and then shut my pie hole. I love to help clean up, though, but I can understand if people don't want others in their kitchen, e.g., putting things away in the wrong place or constantly asking, "where does this go?"
skigurl skigurl 8 years
by offering, you're hoping they'll say no i normally just get up and help if the host has already risen
partysugar partysugar 8 years
I'm with KWM, I love sitting at the table after dinner and don't mind leaving the plates there to be cleaned later.
mamasitamalita mamasitamalita 8 years
I always offer to assist. when my boyfriend and I cook dinner together, one of us cooks and the other cleans -- that was HIS rule he implemented when we started dating and I'd cook to impress him :)
MartiniLush MartiniLush 8 years
I agree with the other commenters - it is just common courtesy to offer to help! If it is a good friend, I just jump right in and start helping out.
Food Food 8 years
Yes, I always offer! Sometimes I get turned down.
ilanac13 ilanac13 8 years
yes, i'll typically offer assuming that it's someone that i'm friendly with (vs. my husband's friends that i don't like). i think that it's nice to offer even though the host will typically shoo me away.
bluebellknoll bluebellknoll 8 years
I always offer and if I see the host/hostess clearing the table I will help out.
Happsmjc Happsmjc 8 years
Always at least OFFER even if they say no! I also never accept! I like to leave them and enjoy the party/guests. (But I know I HATE leaving another person's house when they have a mess to clean up!)
amybdk amybdk 8 years
I consistently offer to help clean up. That being said, my mom and her mom were visiting this past weekend and it started driving me batty that they were at my elbows trying to help each time I stepped a foot into the kitchen! Don't get me wrong, I appreciated their thoughtfulness; but they were guests! I can handle loading a few dishes in the dishwasher... I guess they aren't used to being pampered!
le-romantique le-romantique 8 years
I think it depends on who it is. I mean, of course its nice to offer, but some people find it rude... maybe its because I'm french... I always help clean up when I'm at a family member's house or my boyfriends parents house... other than that I usually clean my plate and put it in the sink and thats it.
starangel82 starangel82 8 years
*in and help. Argh.
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