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Hostess Etiquette: Offer Your Edible Gifts

Recently geeksugar told me a story I found rather traumatizing. Apparently a friend of hers had taken the day off of work early to make a labor intensive dessert - cream puffs - to bring to a party she was attending that night. The party was a potluck in which everyone was asked to bring a dish. Unfortunately someone else brought ice cream and her dessert was shown up. The host failed to offer the cream puffs as an alternative to the ice cream and the poor girl who made them never even got to taste one! Her attempts to motivate the host into serving them went unnoticed and being a respectful guest, she wouldn't even think of asking for the cream puffs at the end of the night. We can all learn an important lesson from this example of a bad host. If guests bring a homemade dish into your house that they have made specifically for the occasion (not just for you) be sure to thank your guest by serving it to your crowd. Another moral of the story is to assign each guest a category when planning a potluck to avoid multiple dessert dishes. Lastly, when showing up at an event armed with fresh goods from your kitchen be sure to let the host/hostess know if they are for the party or for him/her to enjoy at his or her own convenience.

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celebrity_soup celebrity_soup 10 years
poor girl! thats a good story though jennifer
kd0024 kd0024 10 years
What kind of friend would not put out the creme puffs? I would suggest to place cards in front of the dishes to describe and mention who made it. After all that's the point of these types of gatherings to brag out what you created!?!
munki munki 10 years
What kind of potluck has anything less than 4 or 5 different desserts? Bad host obviously isn't a member of my family. Also cream puffs are incredibly easy to make and not "labour intensive" in the least.
pink_orchid pink_orchid 10 years
haha! jennifer 76... i am always in charge of raw uncooked veggie plates or fruit plates after i did undercooked chicken kebabs once at a pot luck. and i know what you mean some people would take it badly and a white lie can make it easier.
Ashlyn-Rose Ashlyn-Rose 10 years
I been to so many pot luck dinners where everyone shows up with desserts! It's really never a bad thing though. Having 5 or 6 desserts to sample is amazing!
mandiesoh mandiesoh 10 years
LOL :rotfl: jennifer! i would have felt soooo awful in her shoes!
Pokemyhontas Pokemyhontas 10 years
Good story jennifer76! *LOL*
jennifer76 jennifer76 10 years
But...I have to admit it does remind me of a time when a bunch of friends and I were all cooking Thanksgiving dinner together. And one of the girls brought this horribly, awful, soggy, pretty much inedible stuffing over. It was so bad, that we even dug out a box of Stovetop and made that and lied to her and told her somebody had got their signals crossed and brought it not knowing that she was bringing stuffing. She wasn't happy that we put both stuffings out on the table. We threw it away right after dinner. :O Then, when she noticed we weren't putting her stuffing on the leftover plates we were sending home with people, she got upset again! So, we had to lie and tell her the dog jumped up on the table and got into it before we had a chance to clear the table. So....after *that* experience, I'd be really nervous to prod a hostess who seemed reluctant to serve something I made. I'd be self-conscious about it!! :O P.S. I know we shouldn't have lied to her, but she's very sensitive and easily offended and the stuffing was AWFUL.
jennifer76 jennifer76 10 years
Ack! How sad!! Maybe the hostess forgot the cream puffs and was to focused on hosting to notice the hints coming at her...? But, awwww...that's so sad for the poor girl.
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