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Party Foul: Not Greeting Your Guests

At female-centric events like baby showers or bachelorette parties, it's easy for cliques to form and cattiness to flourish. Recently, my sister attended a bridal shower where the majority of guests went to the same high school. However some girls, despite knowing my sister, were cold and unfriendly. To make matters worse, the hostess did not say one word to her! While I understand that everyone present may not get along, it's totally unacceptable for the hostess to ignore her guests. It's up to the hostess to ensure that gossip and grudges don't ruin the party. This means that she must put aside any hard feelings and greet everyone equally.

Have you ever been to a party where the hostess made you feel unwelcome? Please share your stories below!


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susugar susugar 8 years
that's why I don't get those who make invitations based on the number of guests they want to achieve and in something they probably want to prove to someone, merely working the "show off". Weddings and baby showers, for example, are such important events in someone's life that, in my opinion, only the ones we love and who care about us and actually who plays an important role in our life should make a part of. In my opinion this is a point that actually tells how we will take care of our guests. If my guests were chosen based on the affection and love, obviously they will have the attention they deserve and the recognition for being an important part of my life. Now, people who invite to show off, obviously will ignore guests since they are there just to check out how expensive the party was, the very expensive designer dress/suit Hosts were wearing, and on.
DCStar DCStar 8 years
I agree this is very important. After all, the hostess has invited these people and it is polite to speak to each one and make them feel comfortable. I recently hosted my sister's wedding shower and I stood by the steps to our event room and personally welcomed each guest, introduced them to other guests nearby and made sure they each found their seats and were comfortable. I also pointed out the bar and at what time the day's activities would occur. This helped everyone to be happy and at ease. It turned out perfectly with no cattiness!
Spectra Spectra 8 years
Yeah, even if you don't know everyone at the party, if you're hosting it, you should try to make everyone feel welcome. Once, my husband's coworker had a birthday party and invited his family and other friends from work. I was invited as well and we ended up not really knowing hardly anyone at the party. And the friend of my husband who was hosting it didn't bother to greet me either. Guess it's kind of something most men don't really "get".
Zulkey Zulkey 8 years
ugh, that sucks, especially at a shower which can easily turn into the kind of affair where you'd rather you'd just stayed home and sent a present. Makes me happy that the showers I've been to recently were fun (and had plenty of liquor)
Food Food 8 years
This recently happened to me, too. Hostesses, are you taking note? It's awkward to not being introduced. Although individual introductions sometimes happen, you can't always count on them -- group introductions are helpful for this reason.
Alisha_Stiletto Alisha_Stiletto 8 years
I think anyone with a little bit of hometraining who is having a party should greet every single one of their guests. Its the mark of having manners. I dont care if the hostess didnt personally invite them (in this case the mother did) - Im sure she'd have no problem depositing the check or accepting the gifts she received. I think people are rude. And as for "grown up women at grown up events usually are pretty good at not being "catty""..ooh, thats so not true. For some women, its just part of who they are - not a matter of their age. I see it all the time. Its a mark of insecurity. Pfft.
shmoo15 shmoo15 8 years
How old are these people? I've been to plenty of bridal and baby showers and never really cared that much if people I didn't know didn't go out of their way to chat with me. Also, usually people are pretty friendly at these things. Grown up woman at grown up events usually are pretty good at not being "catty."
opisnowpro opisnowpro 8 years
in my case when Im the hostess I say hi to everyone but sometimes is difficult to have a conversation with everyone cause you are bussy with the party itself (drinks, food, glasses, open door, etc)
tlsgirl tlsgirl 8 years
Even if the hostess isn't the friend of the guest, I feel like it's just polite to at least say hello to everyone. I mean, how long does it take to say hi and make a person feel welcome?
TidalWave TidalWave 8 years
The article is a bit different than what I was thinking for the headline. I probably wouldn't be upset by this because the hostess isn't inviting you because she wants you there; it's because the mom-to-be does. So as long as the mom-to-be talks to you and everything, I don't see how it matters really if the hostess does or not.
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