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Party Foul: One-Sided Introduction

Last Friday night I found myself at an annual ornament-exchange holiday party. The event is in its ninth year, but this was my first time attending. Before we began to open ornaments, white elephant-style, the hostess felt the need to introduce "the newcomers" (myself and another girl). What she failed to do was introduce anyone else!

I was acquainted with a handful of guests but would have liked to have known everyone's name. The hostess's attempt to make us feel like a part of the group backfired: I felt awkward, uncomfortable, and like an outsider.

When hosting a party, remember that introductions are a formal presentation of one person to another in which each is told the other's name.

Have you ever been in a similar situation? Please share your introduction horror stories with us below!


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Misalady Misalady 8 years
SillyGirl, that's an awesome trick. We've kind of informally done that, but now I'll have to make it a standing arrangement!
ilanac13 ilanac13 8 years
the situation that i am always finding myself in is when people forget that you dont know anyone and not only do they not introduce you to the guests, they dont even act as though it's anything outside of the norm for them to get into a regular conversation off the bat. i have that happen a LOT and honestly, i don't want to be the rude one to butt in and introduce myself, but i also don't want to stand there and not talk since i haven't been brought into the circle.
msdyanelk msdyanelk 8 years
This wouldn't bother me too much. I chalk it up to the people skills and unprofessionalism of some so-called adults just never ceasing to amaze me, once again. Just a lame a$$ hostess...NEXT! Nobody ever remembers my name anyhoo so I do usually end up re-introducing and annunciating at the same time...LOL!
wunami wunami 8 years
Actually, I don't think it's too bad. If I'm one of a few "unknown" or new people, I'd be fine if introduced this way. I sure as hell am not going to remember most of their names this way anyway. It kind of helps make it easier to chat with people later in that they kind of know you now.
SeptemberLights SeptemberLights 8 years
This reminds me of the Seinfeld episode where he cant remember his dates name! Jerry cant remember her name but knows it rhymes with a certain body part...Hilarious! I have to watch that one again :)
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
"I'm an adult, I can introduce myself." LOL. My thoughts exactly. Truthfully, this situation doesn't bother me either. I am not a powerless person. If there was a one-sided introduction, I would simply lean over to the other person, smile, and ask,"And what's your name?" Problem solved. No discomfort whatsoever.
shmoo15 shmoo15 8 years
I'm an adult, I can introduce myself. I also hate being force introduced to people. They usually mess up your name, or don't know your date's name. It's pretty much always awkward.
Swen Swen 8 years
Sillygirl, that's such a good trick!
girlgreen girlgreen 8 years
great idea, sillygirl!
JaeB JaeB 8 years
I'm with SillyGirl on this one, doesn't really bother me, especially if there are a lot of people, because I won't be able to remember all their names anyway! If there are more than four people I'm being introduced to, and I or one or two other people are being introduced, THEY will probably remember my name, but I won't remember theirs! To me that's more awkward and embarrassing. I'm much more likely to remember once I'm talking to them later and ask them their name personally. Besides, not having been totally introduced before is a great excuse to mingle with everyone. It's nice to be outgoing and do some of that work yourself.
bangsugar bangsugar 8 years
I agree Party, I would feel awkward and uncomfortable also. In a situation like this, it is best to just drink champagne (not spill it) and laugh at the plastic dog ornaments...
SillyGirl SillyGirl 8 years
That situtation doesnt really bother me. I just think of it as an icebreaker, and walk up and reintroduce myself to people again. My worst fear is forgetting names (i do it all the time) My hubby and I now have cues in case we forget names. If i am introducing him to someone I always introduce the other person by name first: "Bob, this is my husband, John." But if I forget the person's name I always say to the person, "I am sorry, have you ever met my husband?" Thats my husband's cue to stick out his hand and say "hi, I am john" forcing the other person to use his/her name without knowing that i forgot it. works like a charm.
skigurl skigurl 8 years
if this happens to me, i end up just saying, sorry, what was your name? as i shake their hand. chasingjamie - i know what you mean. the other day my bf took me to a party with his friends, many of whom i haven't met (but about half of whom i have met and am comfortable with). he kinda introduced me to a couple people but left the girls in the corner sitting where they were and didn't walk me over, so when i ended up sitting next to some of them later, it was just weird, because they obviously knew who i was, but i was like, uh hi....
AbbyHintz AbbyHintz 8 years
Yup. This happens all the time to me, usually at work. For example, the meeting organizer will introduce me to a room full of people, but then not introduce the people to me. I'm left wondering who I am talking to -- and, like you said, feeling insignificant and like an intruder.
chasingjamie chasingjamie 8 years
I don't think this has happened to me. One thing that happens a lot is that I'll be out and about with my boyfriend and we run into someone he knows, but that I don't know. They stand there and chat and neither acknowledge my existence. I hate that. lol.
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