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Poll: Do You Text at the Dinner Table?

Do You Text at the Dinner Table?

Modern society has widely embraced technology in every aspect of life, from music and shopping to reading and cooking. But have we gone too far? A recent New York Times article weighs in on the issue of texting, emailing, and tweeting while eating — something that etiquette expert Cindy Post Senning calls "texting anarchy." Marriage and family therapists also concur, citing texting while eating as an increasing complaint among couples in counseling. I'm no stranger to sending a text or two at the table, especially if my companion is in the restroom or on the phone as well. Still, I have to agree that this form of communication should probably stay away from the dinner table, unless it is necessary and relevant. What are your thoughts? Are you guilty of texting at the table?


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leeluvfashion leeluvfashion 8 years
No because A) it is a rude gesture and B) texting does not interest me.
Spectra Spectra 8 years
No, I don't text, period. I never really got the point of it and my cell phone plan doesn't include them in the price. I do think it's rude, though. If you're sitting at the table with someone and are talking to them, they should be equally as focused as you are on the conversation.
kurniakasih kurniakasih 8 years
No I don't. It's rude (I've been taught doing similar things to that is rude) and my hub thinks so too. Our son when he grows up will not get away with doing this. I may be biased but I don't text (I don't send text messages, sure I've read some of them when others send to me). But instead of texting back and forth, I either pick up the phone and call: have a conversation with the person who needs to talk to me (or vice versa) or just wait until I meet with the person to talk to, face-to-face.
SilverFang9899 SilverFang9899 8 years
For me, it depends entirely on where I'm dining and whom I'm dining with. If I'm at a family holiday dinner, I leave my Berry turned off, though it is in my holster. If I were to eat at a five-star restaurant with table cloths and cloth napkins, I would mute my Berry and not touch it till after I was through eating. If, on the other hand, I were just at McDonald's, Taco Bell or some other fast food joint and were alone, or the person I was with was not offended by it, I would check messages then.
iheartstyle iheartstyle 8 years
Yes but only if someone texts me first, with the exception of yesterday when i was out with my friend for dinner and i texted my boyfriend to tell him because i knew how much he liked the place where i ws eating. In most situations i wouldn't text at the table though
dootsie dootsie 8 years
Aside from being completely rude... IT'S GROSS. Do you EVER wash your hands before using your phone? Uh, no. And you drop it down in your purse, which is just a germ playground. And you set it in some pretty dubious places. Seriously, people. No. Never.
komler komler 8 years
The only time I have my cell phone out when I'm having dinner with people, is if there are someone missing who might have trouble finding the place. Tonight, I was having a BBQ with some class-mates. I had invited everyone - but didn't know how many was coming. Since it was the first time I was hosting anything big at my place, I made sure that the phone was available, so if anybody called, I could answer them speedily. However, the guests who had already arrived were aware of the situation, and knew that the place isn't the easiest to find. Besides, they could tell from the conversations that I was not idly chit-chatting to avoid talking with them, but rather giving directions. I'm really against using the cell phone unnecessarily in any kind of social environment. If I am invited somewhere, I turn my cell on silent and don't check on it until I get home. (It does result in some missed calls, but to my mind the benefits of the cell phone is that you can see who called, and call them back, or read the text at a later time.) And I really don't enjoy listening in on people's conversations on public transportation...
kia kia 8 years
If I do it (which is rare) I'll ask whoever I am eating a meal with for permission first.
ilanac13 ilanac13 8 years
i think that it depends on who i'm with. for the most part i don't but sometimes i will.
mek123 mek123 8 years
I think it's rude to text or be on the phone at the dinner table...and if anyone I'm with is texting, I ask them to stop (especially my son)
amybdk amybdk 8 years
When you're on your own, who cares? However, if you are out - even with a really good friend - what it says to me when someone obsesses over their phone is that their other "conversation" is more important than our time together. It's rude and it's a bummer!
sabs sabs 8 years
i think it depends on the restaurant/situation. Nice restaurant = never text/use phone without at least excusing yourself to the lobby/outside. Only exception is if you're waiting for someone and they call/text (they're late, they're lost, etc. it's good to know these things). Outside of a nice restaurant i think it depends on the situation. Do you (and hopefully the person you're with) have plans afterwards with someone? If so then i think it's okay to text to solidify plans. but at that point, you're sort of having the conversation for the other person too. However, if you're just out with someone and you're texting and it's unrelated, then it's totally rude. enjoy the time with the person you're with. but at home, that's a totally different story. for me it's just the guy and i, and unless it's a fancy meal we've made for ourselves, i don't see the big deal. we're usually reading magazines/browsing internets anyway and i don't see why texting would be different from that.
cherryblossom cherryblossom 8 years
I think its rude to text whenever you are in a group situation with friends unless its an absolute emergency or something. Even if youre just having a night of drinks and games or music it sends off that vibe that the people youre with arent important enough to give your full attention to, and that youd rather be somewhere else, especially when someone is texting back and forth the whole time, BUT apparently my friends dont understand that.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 8 years
So freakin' rude. This is one of my all-time pet peeves. I am a firm believer that if you're spending time with someone (dinner table or not), leave the phone alone. If you must answer, keep it short.
Peggasus Peggasus 8 years
Gah. My boys (22 and 17) are glued to their phones, even sleeping with them by their pillows. I do NOT allow them to have them at the table during dinnertime though, or to answer them when we go out to eat. I feel less confident about telling my friends the same thing (they being adults and me not being their mother and all), I do admit I find it really disrespectful and annoying when they feel the need to take a call when they should be in the moment WHERE WE ARE. I also have friends (and family) who are pissed at me because mostly my phone is never on, as I don't feel the need to be that connected all the time. I'm not that important, really. And honestly, neither are they. Yeah, it's a sore point with me (obviously). If I had young kids at school though, I would keep it on for emergencies and stuff. That does NOT, however, mean chatting for 30 minutes while you're on the treadmill next to me at the gym. Whoa. Going now...
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
I agree -- I think it's rude. I don't text at the table. However, with that said, I don't complain when others do it. I'm passive in that regard. However, generally, my good friends would ask me if it's okay if they text back someone. I guess they notice I never text during our meal, and so they feel obligated to ask for my consent for them to do it. I always give my permission (In my book, I think it's okay if they ask beforehand).
amandaaa amandaaa 8 years
i may pull it out if my date/friend leaves the table, or is also texting, but otherwise, it's a bit rude. i went to dinner with two friends and one of them was was texting and i reprimanded her for texting at the table. she got upset and told me later that she didn't like that i yelled at her...well, i didn't yell, and texting while dining gives me the impression that you don't care for the conversation or the situation. i must be SO boring that you're texting other people...they can wait...enjoy what's happening in real life.
mamasitamalita mamasitamalita 8 years
my bf does this and I'm trying to train him not to. I was raised in a TVs-off, no-phones-answered during dinner household. If someone called, we could answer and say "we're eating dinner, can I call you back?'' dinner time was very important and I think its nice, and important mentally/emotionally, to just disconnect sometimes.
wren1 wren1 8 years
If I were at dinner with someone and they were texting I'd be pissed. Very rude.
partysugar partysugar 8 years
I'm not sure if she is texting, but my mom uses her phone all time at the dinner table. It drives me insane.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
No its rude, and if I see anyone doing it at my house, its going out the door,or at a restaurant I will say something.
chiefdishwasher chiefdishwasher 8 years
Well if my old ma would have caught you doing something like that years ago she would have been "washing your mouth out with soap" for talking to someone else while you were at the dinner table.
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