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Tips For the Perfect Engagement Party

If you were recently engaged: congratulations! While the weeks after he proposed can be overwhelming, they are also very exciting. First things first: you'll want to properly announce the engagement. One way to do so is by hosting an engagement party. To find out my tips for planning the perfect engagement party,


  • Host the party soon after you are engaged. The engagement party should always take place before the save the date cards are sent.
  • Select your guests wisely. Everyone who attends will expect to be invited to the wedding. However, there are circumstances — if your big day is a small destination event — where you may want to host a party for those who won't be attending the wedding.
  • Be creative! The party should reflect you and your fiancé's style. It can be anything from a private dinner at your favorite restaurant to a backyard barbecue to a salsa dance class followed by a buffet.
  • Traditionally, the engagement party is hosted by the bride's parents, but it's 2009, and really anyone, from the bride's best friend to the groom's brother, can throw your engagement party.
  • Whoever ends up hosting the party, thank them afterward with a nice note, tickets to a show or sporting event, or a cool coffee table book.
  • You don't want to upstage the wedding, so choose a theme and style that is different from the one you envision for the big day.
  • After a round of toasts, don't forget to thank your friends and family for joining you.
  • Promote mingling: an engagement party is a time for the two families to come together and get to know each other.
  • Gifts are not customary at an engagement, but some people may choose to bring them, so set up your registry.

What was your engagement party like? Please share your stories below!


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TikiYabanci TikiYabanci 8 years
In Turkey, where I lived for a few years (and was engaged to a Turkish guy), engagement parties are just as important as the wedding day; traditionally the bride's family pays for the engagement and the groom's for the wedding. "Engagement dresses" are the most hideous thing I've ever seen though: think 80's prom disaster with thrice the tulle. People are still getting married though, despite the recession:
emalove emalove 8 years
I probably wouldn't have planned my own engagement party, but I know my friends tossed around the idea of throwing me one. I would have loved it! In fact, I love any excuse to get together and celebrate with my family and close friends!
aimeeb aimeeb 8 years
Great suggestions although other than a dinner out w friends I'd never do this.
Modus-Vivendi Modus-Vivendi 8 years
I think if you do have a big engagement party and a small wedding, you need to spread the word! I was invited to a bachelorette party but not to the wedding, and I was miffed until I found out the wedding was literally just family and like two friends.
Deidre Deidre 8 years
Tip -- if someone else offers to throw you one, accept! You will have enough to do with planning the wedding and your new life less thing to run will help hugely with a bride's peace of mind.
skigurl skigurl 8 years
great tips!
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