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What Would You Do?

We've all been in crazy situations, and I want to know how you handle entertaining fiascoes and bad restaurant behavior. I'll present a situation and you tell me what you would do. Here's this week's scenario:

To get to know your best friend's new boyfriend, you decide to host a dinner party with them and some other couples. You serve the food buffet-style to keep the atmosphere relaxed and promote conversation. When the new guy gets in the buffet line, he takes his plate, walks over to the sink, and starts rinsing it with water. Your friends behind him in line stop and stare. What would you do?

To see what I would do in this situation — true story, it happened to a friend! —


I would walk right up to the new guest and ask him what he's doing. It turns out he was warming his plate — which is a little odd for a dinner party — so I would offer to warm his and any other plate in the oven.

How about you? What would you do? Have you ever tried to warm your plate at someone else's house?

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dpbluiz13 dpbluiz13 9 years
It sounds like he was covering up for washing the plate. I think I would be offended, but would offer to warm all the plates in the oven. I take pride in my dinner parties and try to make every guest feel at home and at ease, but would feel embarrassed if someone did this in my home. I would probably not extend a second invitation and hope that he wasn't a long term boyfriend for my friend.
CollegeGirl CollegeGirl 9 years
It's rude and I would be slightly offended, but I don't think I'd confront somebody over it. If it looked like he was seriously washing the plate, I would offer to get him a new one. Confronting him would just embarrass my friend who I am sure is already mortified.
NadiaPotter NadiaPotter 9 years
it's their weirdness not mine :rotfl: it is so true... you're so right adco ;)
adco adco 9 years
My husband and his mother both rinse glasses and plates off before they use them. I thought it was weird and was slightly offended at first. I have snapped at him something like "I believe the dishwasher is in working order." Now I realize it's their weirdness not mine and I let it go, but to do this in the home of a stranger is just wrong.
Pepper Pepper 9 years
Sorry but I don't see what the big deal is?
Dana18 Dana18 9 years
Some people are supper anal and are what my aunt calls "Nice Nasty". I would not care if someone did that, they have the problem not me. For all I care they can wash the dinner dishes too when everyone is through.
lisabarn lisabarn 9 years
I might ask if everything was ok (and then be properly mortified if my dishes were dirty) But if he just likes a warm plate or is a germaphobe I certainly wouldn't say anything or judge him especially since you are trying to get to know him. If the new boyfriend is around for a while I would probably just ask him about it after I have gotten to know him better. But I certainly wouldn't want to do anything that embarrasses my friend at the beginning of a new relationship!
tkoblondee tkoblondee 9 years
lol, chiefdishwasher! Seriously if that's the worst of his "bad" habits... I wouldn't even think twice about this!
So-Fab So-Fab 9 years
I wouldn't mind. I would probably just ignore it. If it was dirty my bad and why my an awkward situation worse by opening my big mouth. If it wasn't and he is just finicky I understand I've wanted to do the same thing many times at peoples houses (never had the guts to though, don't want to end up in somebodies blog).
chiefdishwasher chiefdishwasher 9 years
Of course I would take personal offense.
crackaddict crackaddict 9 years
i would just shout U OK THAR?
karisaamy karisaamy 9 years
That's just plain odd, I have never actaully wanted to warm my plate.
sonnabobble sonnabobble 9 years
totally agree with silly3
Phasekitty Phasekitty 9 years
I can't understand why he'd warm a plate in the sink, so maybe he was covering up for the fact that he was rinsing it off :? Anyhow, I'd just go with it- my bf is totally OCD and always rinses dishes before using them even if they've just been washed. He also has to rinse soda cans before drinking out of them. Just one of his quirks- I hope no one really takes offense, he always explains that it's all part of being OCD and a germaphobe.
CoconutPie CoconutPie 9 years
I'd just laugh. No big deal.
Just-Oh Just-Oh 9 years
Yo tambien, terryt18.
elephantheart elephantheart 9 years
I don't think I would say anything, because he's a guest in your home, and if he feels the need to do it, then why make the situation more awkward by focusing on it?
Liss1 Liss1 9 years
I don't see the problem. It's not something that i would do but if that's the way he likes it then let him do it.
julieulie julieulie 9 years
I don't understand what the big deal really is... I mean, maybe he's a germophobe and doesn't like the idea that everyone else's hands may have grazed the side of his plate while picking up theirs. Not worth getting all in a bunch.
Segat1 Segat1 9 years
I'd ignore it. And then bitch about it afterwards with my mates.
lexib0t lexib0t 9 years
My fiance has to rinse glasses before drinking out of them. He doesn't think that the people didn't do the dishes right, it's just a fear of dust or bugs being in the glass. There have been times that I've literally just washed a glass, he took the glass out and rinsed it. I can see how people think it's weird/rude, I did at first but now I'm used to it being a quirk of his personality.
randomname12345 randomname12345 9 years
The first thing that came to my mind was that he wanted to warm his plate. I think it shows that he cares about food and appreciates the food presented. He probably just wanted to eat the nice, hot homecooked food on a warm plate. Plus, the hostess should've kept the plates warm before serving, anyway.
NadiaPotter NadiaPotter 9 years
strange, still what I would do is, absolutely nothing, just stare. Maybe, I ask why he's doing it, as with everything else I see and think is strange. Yes, as you can see, I don't have manners. :)
tlsgirl tlsgirl 9 years
That's so weird. I would probably just let it go to ward off any additional awkwardness, but really, it's a bit strange.
kiwitwist kiwitwist 9 years
I thought he was implying it was dirty too! LOL!!! Strange but at least he was comfortable doing that.
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