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What Would You Do?

We've all been in crazy situations, and I want to know how you handle entertaining fiascoes and bad restaurant behavior. I'll present a situation and you tell me what you would do. Here's today's scenario:

You've spent a lot of time planning a fantastic birthday party at your favorite bar. Although the party starts at 9, you made a bunch of small snacks — spiced nuts, truffled popcorn, caramelized peanuts, etc. — for your guests to enjoy with cocktails.

The snacks are prettily set up on a table near an open window that overlooks the street. The party is going fabulously when you look up to see three unidentified guests throwing your homemade goodies out the window! They are trying to hit people outside! What would you do?

To find out what I did — this very thing happened at my birthday party on Saturday night! —


First, I rapidly determined if the food-throwers were random people at the bar or friends of friends. Since they happened to be the cousins of a friend, they were technically a part of my party. I made the food for everyone, but for everyone to eat, not launch at other guests. I walked over to the offenders and said, "Excuse me, that food is not for throwing. Please stop." Then I turned on my heel and left as quickly as possible.

How would you handle the situation? What do you think of my reaction? Did I overreact?


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looseseal looseseal 8 years
Waste not want not. I would have been all "there are starving children who'd love to have that food you're wasting" - as much as I hated it when my mom pulled that one on me when I was five. Aren't there food shortage crises all over the world right now? That would have been stupid even if it was just a box of chex mix and not specially prepared snacks.
shmoo15 shmoo15 8 years
I would have probably thrown some profanities up in the mix. How rude! It's not like you just brought a bag of Chex Mix, you spent time actually making the snacks. What morons.
CoralAmber CoralAmber 8 years
I would have walked over and given them the eye, and probably gone "what do you think you're doing?" Of course I could have been super sweet and gone "Oh, I'm so glad you are enjoying the snacks I made for my guest to eat... you think the people down there like them?" Anything to make them feel like a 5 year old getting scolded :D
mtiger mtiger 8 years
I think you under-reacted as well! I would have been so mad. Sounds like there were middle-schoolers at your party!
Spectra Spectra 8 years
I probably wouldn't have said anything, but I would have taken the food away so the idiots throwing the food wouldn't have any ammo. But I think you handled the situation pretty well.
Soniabonya Soniabonya 8 years
Aww! I'm so sorry to hear that! What stupid freaking lil -censored words- I think you underreacted, but handled it maturely and responsibly. i would have called them out with not so colorful words, grabbed the food away from them and told the cousin person that their added univited guests had to freaking leave. i do not tolerate immaturity and have no fear of being a bitch to people i don't know and deserve the scolding. perhaps i'd be what people would call and overreaction, but that's just me ^^;
bengalspice bengalspice 8 years
I would have done the same.
4blankwalls 4blankwalls 8 years
I think I would have used a bunch of more colorful words than you did, and I totally would have moved the food away from those guests. I probably would have mentioned to the person who brought them that their plus one was being an a**.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 8 years
You definitely did NOT overreact. In fact, you were calmer than I think I would have been, 'cause I would've been way pissed off. Throwing food is just immature.
cageyme cageyme 8 years
In my opinion, you under-reacted. Good for you! Those guys have no idea how close they came to a nuclear scolding. In these situations I always think of the B-52's song Party Gone Out of Bounds: Who's to blame when situations get out of hand? Who's to blame when parties are poorly planned? Be tactful when making the rounds. (Precious' getting bombed!)
chiefdishwasher chiefdishwasher 8 years
Why those dirty rotten scoundrels....I'd av hit with the big left hook and left them with a shiner!
hippiecowgirl hippiecowgirl 8 years
I probably would have addressed with issue with the cousin of the foodthrowers, assuming I knew that person fairly well. I think your response was totally just. WTG for not letting the problem just go on!
lisabarn lisabarn 8 years
Partysugar, so sorry to hear this happened to you - in NO way did you overreact, it was very obvious from all of your postings that you put a lot of care and time into this event and to have your efforts be treated so callously must have really bummed you out. You had every right to react how you did. Their behavior was childish and inappropriate, this wasn't some blowout beer-bash at a frat (sorry for the generalization) house!
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
I would have done the same thing, only after gone to the friend whos cousins they were and told him or her that what happened wasnt cool.
sushibananas sushibananas 8 years
I wouldn't have said a thing. I would have walked up to them, taken the food trays/bowls and walked away. Enough of a hint that they are being total jerks! But I have to ask - why did you bring your own food to a bar? Do they not serve snack there? I can understand bringing in a b'day cake, but I'm a bit puzzled about the food. Do tell!
lawchick lawchick 8 years
wow, no you definitely did not overreact! that is so... immature and stupid!
Jude-C Jude-C 8 years
You reacted a lot more calmly than I would have :)
mom2ross mom2ross 8 years
Um, even it was my best friend, I'd still call them out for throwing food at people. That's rude no matter what the food is or where it came from. So I guess I would stifle a comment along the lines of, "The junior high cafeteria is down the street, perhaps you'd be more comfortable there?" and just reprimand them loudly and move on. Did the offenders stop throwing after you spoke to them? I certainly hope they did.
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