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10 First Date Questions

First dates are typically meant for getting to know one another, but when our nerves get the best of us, it's easy to walk away from the night without really learning much about him at all. To prevent that from happening, I've come up with 10 first date questions that are sure to enlighten you on some of the important character traits you'll need to know later down the road — sometimes knowing how he takes his coffee is as important as whether or not he wants kids! Check out my questions below and please add your own in the comments below.

  • Are you a dog or cat person?
  • What's your favorite food?
  • What's your least favorite food?
  • Are you a night owl or a morning person?
  • Winter or Summer?

To see five more questions,


  • What are you allergic to?
  • Are you a sports fan?
  • Do you like to travel?
  • Do you like to go out and let loose?
  • Are you close with your family?


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Expertdating Expertdating 7 years
* Talk about passionate or emotional subjects, indirectly suggesting to the other person how to feel. If you have a flare for writing or public speaking, it helps. "Have you ever loved a woman until milk leaked from her as though she had just given birth to love itself, and now must feed it or burst? Have you ever loved a woman so completely that the sound of your voice in her ear could cause her body to shudder and explode with such intense pleasure that only weeping could bring her full release?" (-from the movie Don Juan Demarco) Another example would be to ask your subject to "act out" or demonstrate the looks and feelings that you want them to actually feel. Example: "Show me what it looks like when a girl is interested in you...what would she (you) say...what would she (you) do..."
AlexE70 AlexE70 8 years
Do you ever get so angry that you feel the need to lash out and throw things? Or hit something? Do you lie sometimes and do your best to cover your tracks with the time-tested "trust me" line? Do you have any STD's I should be aware of? Are you on any prescribed medications that don't mix well with alcohol? Do you believe in UFO's? Do you believe in Bigfoot? Are you a Republican? Do you think you're fat, regardless of how thin you actually are? Are you lactose intollerant? Are you a couch potato? Just a few off the top of my head. ;-)
gr_09 gr_09 8 years
mesayme,you are hilarious!
babyd babyd 8 years
My first question is : Are you Married, Gay or Have kids? Oh yeah! Sometimes I get a big laugh, sometimes a shocked face. But my thing is honesty, I don't want any surprises later or even "Well you never asked me so I never told you." So far, it's been pretty nice and the current boo is still in love and amazed that I ever pronounced those words.
lickety-split lickety-split 8 years
yeah, i agree with cotedazur, if i had been asked all of those questions on a first date i would have been freaked out. when i was single i liked to keep the first few date REALLY light, you know see if you thought they were funny, got a sense that they were intelligent and kind. i think in today's economy i wouldn't mind a man that still lived at home. but he would need to be pulling his own weight (doing laundry, yard work, etc) not having mommy tuck him in at night.
Jessiebanana Jessiebanana 8 years
Not many chicks...or pretty dudes for that matter, knocking down my doors these days, so first date questions aren't on the top of my head :(.
macchiatolove macchiatolove 8 years
I think I have loads of questions but maybe not on a first date. Things like, what do you really want to do in the next five years, or what is on your list of things to do within your lifetime? do you drink coffee? what is your starbucks/coffee shop order? starsign? what are your fantasies (very important, what if we're not fantasy-compatible?) A lot of mesayme's questions are not ones I would ask straight out, but that I would find out over time. To be honest, being as single as I am (which is VERY single) I find dating hard to imagine. I'm so busy, I never, ever meet guys, I can't even visualise what I'd ask to be honest!
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
...from the mouths of boys... ahh... don't cha just love 'em. :ROTFL:
CYL CYL 8 years
I actually don't have pre-set questions I ask a guy. Everyone is different and I just kind of go by the vibe I feel off of a guy. You don't have to ask them many questions for them to reveal or show you they are scum...and even if you ask...they still lie sometimes and most of the time you don't know them well enough to tell if they are lying. So I just rely on my gut and just see where the convo takes us. I think for our first date, my bf and I talked about everything under the sun from hockey, to Will Ferell movies, to how much we both hate Valentines Day. Lol our first date with three hours long...and all we did was talk in a coffee shop :P
MicrochipJoel MicrochipJoel 8 years
So many questions... I agree with kbussanich and moonwater [+]. Best results for me have been a succession of these simple questions: 1) What are your interests (fun? hobbies? art? etc?) 2) How do you feel about ____ issue... (current events.. ie Obama elect, Iraq Occupation, etc) 3) What are your goals and aspirations? 4) Family history 5) Ski or Snowboard? Surf or Sail? and the list goes on...
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
"emotionally constipated guys of doom from the ones who wear their hearts on their sleeve. :ROTFL: bellacu: :ponder: well, it's been awhile... but it usually starts off Congratulations!!! You made it to the first date! (but we'd meet anywhere but my home and the number he called me with is a prepaid cellphone...) And then, 1. Are you a sunrise or sundown guy? 2. Tea or coffee? 3. Cream? Sugar? or Lemon if tea? 4. Did you have a favorite teacher in school? tell me about her. 5. What's your favorite color? In the fall? spring? 6. Mountains or beaches? 7. Favorite restaurant? (works for me, if he picks a meat slaughterhouse and I'm mostly vegetarian...see, comes in handy to know) 8. You have 5 minutes...what item do you grab from your kitchen? if he says anything other than chips...question that :) from your desk? and so on... 9. Do you have siblings? (watch the eyes for an eyeroll...bad relationships with siblings could mean trouble with raising kids without some counseling or classes) And 10. I need to stop by the store for some condoms... can you wait? If he says yes and gets too damn happy... Make him wait for the next date with someone else! :D He should mention that he doesn't have sex on the first date. Unless you do, then go for it! :D
moonwater moonwater 8 years
I have one question that I ask: "Are you a happy person?" The look on a guy's face when he hears that question usually tells me a lot. And the answer itself is a shortcut to his character. It helps me separate the emotionally constipated guys of doom from the ones who wear their hearts on their sleeve.
crackaddict crackaddict 8 years
messayme- your statistics couldnt be anymore correct
bellacu bellacu 8 years
So what IS the first date list Mesayme? :)
aimeeb aimeeb 8 years
OMG!! Hahahahahaha.
ThePerfectScore ThePerfectScore 8 years
Mesayme haha ... too funnny Love that list
mondaymoos mondaymoos 8 years
I don't think it's meant to be a rapid succesion of questions, cotedazur. More like conversations that grow from these questions and you can move on to the next one if it slows down. :rotfl: Mesayme
cotedazur cotedazur 8 years
Sorry, but I would never ask any of these questions on a first date... and if I went out with a guy who asked me all these, he'd never get a second date with me. I think an interrogation like this would lead to the most boring conversation ever.
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
So, 'She lives with ME!' didn't work for you? :ROTFL:
mondaymoos mondaymoos 8 years
I would LOVE to tell Mesayme how incorrect she is... but "Is your address different from your mother's?" is going to have to start being question number 1 for me. The last three dates I've been on have been "men" who still live at home. Give me a break.
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
As a entirely, single woman of nearly 4 years I can tell you from observations both far and are 90%scum and 10% afraid of their mothers or alimony/child support payments. Single, engaged and married. It would be a monumental challenge to get me to date or take seriously any man ever again. (I know, your man isn't like this... of course... o-k.) :D
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
nope... it's from memory verbatim... they barely make it past #8. :ROTFL:
booglass booglass 8 years
Messayme - is this presented in a form they fill out! ;-)
RosaDilia RosaDilia 8 years
Mesayme!!!! You are hilarious!!!! :ROTFL:
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