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10 Reasons Why Men Don't Want Sex: Part One

10 Reasons Why Men Don't Want Sex: Part One

In the beginning of a new relationship, it's hard to keep your hands off each other. Sharing all that fiery passion is what makes it so exciting, but as you get to know each other and become more comfortable, the frequency of sex usually cools down, and sometimes, your sex life can hit a complete drought. So if your man is the one who's "not in the mood," here are the top five reasons why, according to WebMD:

  1. Medications: If your man is taking prescriptions for depression or anxiety, they may be to blame for his nonexistent sex drive.
  2. Lack of sleep: If your man hasn't gotten his fair share of zzz's, then sleep will be the only thing on his mind come bedtime.
  3. Hormonal levels: Testosterone is what drives your man to want to get it on, so if he's lacking in that department, don't count on him wanting to tear your clothes off. Your man can easily figure out if this is the problem by seeing his doctor and getting his hormonal levels checked.

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  1. Identity issues: Some men have a personal crisis and start to ask important questions like, "What am I doing with my life?" This can happen if they're unhappy with their job or have recently gotten laid off. They could also have issues with their identity if their strong beliefs are questioned or if a close friend or loved one passes away. These kind of issues will understandably put sex on the back burner.
  2. Turn-off to aspects of the sex: If your man has a hard time pleasing you or you take a long time to orgasm, he may have confidence issues or feel like sex is too much work. If he doesn't find sex fulfilling, or if he's not turned on by his partner, instead of talking about it, he may think it's easier to just not have sex at all.

Pretty interesting huh! Stay tuned for Part Two, with five more reasons men don't want to have sex.

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OMG!!!! Janine22 preach, sister. I totally agree with you. That last one is such BS.
BlairBear BlairBear 9 years
The third one is completely true for me and my husband. He has zero sex drive because he has low testosterone levels because of a complication from surgery. He was doing testosterone injections for awhile but he said he only felt like it worked for the first month. I told him that he should probably keep doing it but he got discouraged and gave up after only a few months. He's very sensitive about talking about it with me because my sex drive is through the roof and his is in the basement. We usually have sex about once every other week, if I'm lucky. It is very hard because it makes me feel self-conscience. He does all that he can to assure me that I am pretty enough or whatever but it's still hard.
Janine22 Janine22 9 years
The last one is such bullshit. It basically makes it sound like the problem is all the women's fault, which is ridiculous. Most women do take a long time to orgasm, and if the man can't be bothered to please her, then he SHOULD go fuck his hand. That's just lazy and sexually selfish, which, unfortunately a lot of men are. Thanks for letting me get that out!
animatedpunk animatedpunk 9 years
wow, my ex definitely didn't have this problem. I can't even imagine it.
Janners Janners 9 years
Mine is a huge fan of blow jobs. He says it's because he gets to just sit back when he's tired, so I'll often force myself on top (well, I mean he doesn't mind THAT much...) because hey, he still gets to just sit/lay there.
bengalspice bengalspice 9 years
Are you going to list the reasons why women might be avoiding sex? I would love to share the whole series of links with my boyfriend to start a conversation about things going on in our lives [his turning 30 and my dealing with the stresses of my first real job].
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
These are so true.
Mimilie Mimilie 9 years
Same here! For a quite some time I've had a higher sex drive than my man. The reason why he couldn't keep up with me was actually because he didn't exercise enough. Now that he's much more fit, he has enough enrgy to tame me... for now.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
I think it's ridiculous to think that men always want to have sex. I know a lot of women who have a higher sex drive than their men.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
my mna definatly does NOT have this problem haha.
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