10 Things You're Doing Right in Bed, According to Guys

Want to know how to really please your man? YourTango received feedback from 10 men who shared what really gets them off in the bedroom.


What should you do more of? Guys spill the amazing things you're doing during sex. It's no secret that men don't like to talk about their feelings — but we did get a few of them to dish on the moves, sounds, and surprises that they like to experience when it comes to doing the deed. And unlike last time, when guys revealed all the mistakes you were making, this time they're telling you all the things you're doing right. SO right.

If you've been wondering about the little things, like whether or not you're being too assertive, or too loud, these 10 men want to clear up any doubts you might be having about your performance during sex. As Joe, 27, put it: "Believe it or not, men have even more insecurities in bed than women, so we like the audible reassurance that you like what we are doing."

Read on to see what these 10 men had to say about the things that you're doing right (and should do more of) when you're getting it on — from giving a good visual, to lending a helping hand.

And guys, we want to hear more of your thoughts — do you agree with what these fellas have to say? Maybe you even have a little something to add. Leave a comment below and let us know what turns you on most in the bedroom.

1. Stroking his ego
"It's not just our dick that we want stroked — it's our egos too. I love it when girls play me up to make me sound like I'm Mr. Incredible. It's a nice feeling . . . sometimes even more satisfying than the sex itself." — Jason, 25

2. Giving Him A Good View
"Guys are visual, we like looking at you while we're doing it, and we like not having to ask you to get into the positions that show off your body best — like reverse cowgirl." — Dan, 33

3. Surprising Him
"One time, this girl I had been dating for a month or so pulled me into a stairwell at the club we were at, and had sex with me right there. I'm not saying you should always do things that could get you arrested, but we love to be surprised with things that stray from the normal bedroom routine." — Christian, 28

4. Showing Him How To Get You Off
"I want the girl I'm doing it with to get off as much as I want to. The last girl I slept with actually took my hand and started getting herself off with it, which was so hot to watch, and taught me what she likes at the same time." — Patrick, 34

5. Talking Dirty
"We're not looking for a play by play, but phrases like 'harder' or pretty much any curse word that comes out of your mouth in regards to how good what I'm doing to you feels is a huge turn-on." — Mike, 21

6. Making Some Noise
"Noises and talking are great. Believe it or not, men have even more insecurities in bed than women, so we like the audible reassurance that you like what we are doing." — Joe, 27

7. Turning On The Lights
"The last girl I dated always wanted to do it with the lights on, even if we were doing it in the middle of the night. The fact that she always wanted me to see every inch of her while we were going at it, no matter what the circumstances, was really hot." — Joe, 25

8. Taking Control
"An older woman I had been dating actually pinned me down, told me not to move, got on top of me and gave it to me for a solid 10 minutes. Taking the reins like that every once in a while totally does it for me." — Jeff, 24

9. Making Eye Contact
"When a girl looks directly at me right as I'm putting it in her, it's a huge turn-on. Something about watching her expression change as it goes in is really appealing to me.'" — James, 29

10. Showing Up
"All you have to do is show up. Yes, sad but true, most men are just trying to get a woman in their bed, so once that is accomplished, she has done her job. Don't get me wrong, I have had a few 'dead fish' or arrhythmic women in my time, but other than that, the rest is easy. Have some enthusiasm about what you are doing, and the rest is a bonus." — Darren

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