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5 Tips For More Satisfying Masturbation

OK ladies, you might want to bookmark this one and save it for when you're in the privacy of your own home!

With that said, I know not all of you are in relationships, and even if you are, there may come a time when you need to, um, satisfy your urges. Like I've said before, I don't think there's anything wrong with masturbation, but I realized that I've never really talked about it in much detail. I've given you tips for enhancing your sex life with a partner, so here are some tips for reaching the big "O" on your own. Learning how to orgasm alone is not only pleasurable and a great way to relieve stress, but it can also help you figure out how to have an orgasm when you're intimate with someone else. If reading these tips makes you blush, it may make you feel better to know I was blushing too while writing them!

To hear my tips,


  1. Set the mood the way you like it. Dim the lights, turn on some calming music, light some scented candles, and make sure you're not in any rush.
  2. Have a variety of sex toys on hand. They come in many shapes, sizes, speeds, and materials, so not only is it fun to try them all out to see which kind you like best, it's also nice to have an array in your nightstand drawer, you know, since variety is the spice of life!
  3. Play around with temperature. Keep a glass of ice water on your nightstand and periodically dip your fingers in it, or cool off your sex toy in the fridge. Heat is also an arousing sensation, so use some warming lubricant, or place your hand on a heating pad for a couple minutes.
  4. Water isn't so great for intercourse, but it can be outstanding when you're alone. In the shower, you can use an extendable shower head that has a variety of speeds, or if you have access to a hot tub, point the jets in your direction!
  5. Find your G-spot. If you're not sure where it is, Mapquest it here's a diagram. Some women experience orgasms like they've never had before by stimulating this area inside them.


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thilina thilina 8 years
barneyk barneyk 8 years
Hmm I will totally think about the spice up suggestion, never thought of an array in my drawer. Otherwise I agree with sparklestar 100% :-)
davetherave davetherave 8 years
This topic always had us guys curious, always "wondering" how women could do so. I DO have to laugh, as one catalog has SEVERAL 'sex toys' for gals and only one for a guy. So, I guess there is a market! I also don't need candles, mood music, etc. I do agree that imagination can help. To quote a fav tune - "Sometimes a fantasy is all you need". LOL
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
"Mapquest it" LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LMAO LMAO LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :D :D :D :D :D :D: D Good post. :)
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years is good in the UK for sex toys. =) I have a regular account with them...! I'm always like I NEED A NEW VIBRATOR. I found one I forgot I had yesterday. :D I don't need to light candles to get down with myself though. That's a bit much. =) I'm really just OK with me buying me some chocolate and sticking the radiator on...
A-Journey-To-Wellth A-Journey-To-Wellth 8 years
looove my removable showerhead
jazzytummy jazzytummy 8 years
I don't know, CaterpillarGirl....sometimes I am not in the mood and need music and mood lighting to get myself to put out.
tglynn tglynn 8 years
lindssaurussss lindssaurussss 8 years
I agree with CaterpillarGirl i dont need to romance my vagina with candlelit dinners and soft music. lol. its all about a good movie and a great imagination.
urban-chic-101 urban-chic-101 8 years
I was just reading about coregasm... how you can get an orgasm while working out. What an interesting thought. I definitely think it is possible while doing the right maneuvers.
Lily-Inferno Lily-Inferno 8 years
Mapquest? LMAO thats good!
NotMeAnymore NotMeAnymore 8 years
Cool! Bellasugar knows Early2Bed! I'm not getting a cut, btw - I have no affiliation with the store and in fact I no longer live in the Windy City, but Searah still gets my business. I've met her in person and she rocks! If I bat for the same team, I'd definitely want her in MY lineup :howyoudoin:
lauraxtc lauraxtc 8 years
I make sure to take a bath first and enjoy the water hitting my ..... Then I go into my room and play with my toys. Its absolutely fun. Now that I have learned to pleasure myself, I dont think I will ever stop doing it. lol.
Beauty Beauty 8 years
I second Early2Bed — Searah, the owner, is super smart and fun. She really knows her stuff!
NotMeAnymore NotMeAnymore 8 years
I did, as well, Caterpillar Girl. I wish we agreed this easily on everything :howyoudoin: Gotta agree re: shower heads....NIIIIIIICE toy. Also, I recommend finding a toy supplier that does periodic reviews or has a blog. Early2Bed (dot com) in Chicago's Edgewater neighborhood is a prime example; I highly recommend them. They have customer reviews, they periodically dump toys that don't meet high standards, and they even have a YouTube channel that offers tips.
sundaygreen sundaygreen 8 years
LMAO I thought that same thing CaterpillarGirl!
Beaner Beaner 8 years
I'm glad you're talking about this, Dear.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
If i plan on rubbing one out, I am not going to light candles and put on music, I dont need to romance myself.....
melizzle melizzle 8 years
:rotfl: @ mapquesting your G-spot...
Symphonee Symphonee 8 years
I am in love with my hand held shower head. It always does the trick.
smileyface smileyface 8 years
I just put an extendable shower head in my shower and its a great addition to the sex toys I already have in my nightstand.
RustyAngel73 RustyAngel73 8 years
the jet thing works wonders... good tips
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