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Group Therapy: Can I Give My Boyfriend the Same Gift I Gave My Ex?

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Hey guys! I have a quick question. This past two years I've been falling madly in love with the man of my dreams, and he's been there through thick and thin. We are recently taking a big step and moving in together up state, and I wanted to show him how much he means to me. I have this book the "little book of I love you," it's a book that says almost every possible way how you love someone, like for example, it shows a pic of the sky, and it says "your love takes me higher." It's a cute lil book. And I think he'd seriously fall in love with it. Thing is, when I was around 15 or so (I'm 20 now), I had a boyfriend of 3 years. I gave him that book, but it feels so right to give it to my love now. Do you think I should? And do you think I should tell him about the book that I gave to my ex before? I don't want him to think that I'm recycling old gifts; it's just that this book is seriously how I feel about him. Any advice would be wonderful!

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Elliluv Elliluv 6 years
I agree with all those above me have said. Plus, you already view this book as one you gave to another guy. I don't think its very good to give someone something that makes you think of someone else in a romantic way. If that makes sense.
jazzytummy jazzytummy 6 years
Don't do it. You might as well give him a Hello Kitty T-shirt. Work on just telling him to his face how you feel and plan a special date to celebrate your time together. This may be a hockey game, BTW.
IdeaOfOrder IdeaOfOrder 6 years
It sounds like a stupid book, no offense. Okay, I'm just in a mean mood and I meant to offend you, but really it sounds kind of sweet and corny - not something you get someone after 2 years of being together.. more of an impromptu, thinking of you today kind of gift. 2 years merits more than that, imo. I think you'd be fine with getting him the book so long as it's not an anniversary, bday or that type of gift. If it's just random and something you'd like to share with him, I think it's totally fine. It'd be like me not sharing my favorite poem with my husband because I'd shared them in the bed of another lover.
GregS GregS 6 years
Unless he's an english major...give him a power drill or something. Seriously, though, not too beat the dead horse, not a great idea.
kirikiri kirikiri 6 years
dont' do it! not worth having to explain if he finds out, or even if not the book will remind you of your ex. Just not worth the problem. Especially over something like a book -- there have got to be others out there! Or write your own, like weffie said!
snarkypants snarkypants 6 years
no. like others have said, you should do something different. plus, it might have been cute when you were 15, now? not so much.
weffie weffie 6 years
Why don't you just write him your own little book? Or even a note? I think something personalized would be much more special than a generic recycled gift, then you can tell him exactly what you love about him instead of just showing him pictures of the sky. But maybe I'm not the best judge--the last gift I gave to tell my bf "I love you" was anal lube :P
daisy23 daisy23 6 years
So if you really think he would love it why not wait till you guys are married or been with each other much longer.Right now you have only been out of that relationship for a few years. That book wont disappear. Things like that when you are in a relationship can make things rocky. Once you are solidified with him then you can explain how young you were and gave the gift to someone it didn't hold as much meaning to but that now you would like to give it to the right person.
kurniakasih kurniakasih 6 years
I'd try not to recycle romantic gift, because the consequence of getting found out can be pretty dire. Explaining things like this is tricky as heck and can lead to many misunderstandings (IF it got found out--hopefully not, but what if). Try this hypothetical situation, how would you feel if you found out your bf propose with the same engagement ring he used to propose to his ex-fiancee? That may be an extreme example, but kind of the same gist, it's a perfectly gorgeous ring in excellent condition, he thought you'd fall in love with it, he really didn't mean any harm to your love and he does love you with all his heart. Even if you're ok with him recycling gift, don't just assume he will feel ok too, anyhoo, it's still totally your choice. Good luck.
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