Skip Nav
26 Brilliant Books You Should Read This Spring
The 29 Steamiest Movie Sex Scenes of All Time
Spotify's 35 Most Popular Prom Songs Through the Decades Will Make You Feel So Nostalgic

Advice For Online Dating

Why You Suck at Online Dating

We're happy to present this excerpt from one of our favorite sites, The Good Men Project. Is online dating proving to be a challenge, and not the fun kind? Luckily, Kelle Sparta offers her tips to help you show the world the best parts of yourself — instead of the worst.

If you've been trying to find a relationship online and you're not getting the results you want, then read on, dear fellow.  Perhaps you're making social faux pas without even knowing it.

Related: Help! My Boyfriend Wants to Wait Until Marriage For Sex!

All of this advice has been collected through my own personal experience of being a woman looking for a relationship online, and by talking with other women like me. Of course, some women may disagree with me. I'd love to hear from readers what others in the comments whether they have made the same observations that I have.


Your Profile
Let's start with the fact that your profile looks more like a laundry list than an essay. You've listed facts and given me nothing emotional or even personal to hang my hat on. I want to know who you are, not just what you do for work and that you enjoy going out to dinner and long walks on the beach. (And please avoid this cliché! If you haven't been for a long walk on the beach in the last month, you don't love it.) Give me something real. Give me an idea of how you would make me feel if we were on a date together. Paint a picture of who you are with your friends and family. Let me get to know you. And write twice as much as you think you need to. We want more information, not less.

Your Picture
I want to see a picture of you — up close — without your sunglasses on. I want to see your eyes — they are the most important thing about you because they tell me if you are kind and strong. I want to see a full-body picture of you. And please, pretty please, with sugar on top — smile! Now let's talk about what you're wearing in these pictures. I don't want to see an "I'm With Stupid" or "Female Body Inspector" shirt. It shows a lack of respect and I don't want that lack of respect applied to me. I don't want to see you with a bevy of hot girls around you (who wants to compete with that?)  I don't want a picture of you and your ex — even if she is still your friend. If it's your sister, you'd better say as much in the caption or else you look like a player. If there is a beer in your hand in every photo, I assume you're a drunk.  If you're in a costume in every photo, I assume you're a child. And if you're alone in every photo, I assume you have no friends. Your photos are a pictorial of your life. Choose wisely, young Jedi.

For 12 more tips, read the full story: Why You Suck at Online Dating

More from The Good Men Project:

Around The Web
Join The Conversation
Why I Won't Go on a Diet | Essay
How to Be a Happy Couple
Sex and the Married Man
36 Question Love Test
Dating Tips From Matchmakers
Benefits of Getting Married Young
Monogamy in Modern Relationships
Marriage Lessons After 12 Years
My Boyfriend Wants to Wait Until Marriage For Sex
Green Tea and Coconut Oil Scrub

POPSUGAR, the #1 independent media and technology company for women. Where more than 75 million women go for original, inspirational content that feeds their passions and interests.

From Our Partners
Latest Love
All the Latest From Ryan Reynolds