My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost a year now and like he keeps trying to have sex with me. I really want to do it but I'm scared since it will be my first time. What's it like? I know about orgasms but is there anything else that I should know before I do it? I guess I am just really nervous. What should I do? Tepid Tiana
Dear Tepid Tiana
Do you know enough about what happens during sex? i.e. how it works, how a woman can get pregnant and do you know about STD'S? Don't worry about being nervous, I am sure your boyfriend is equally nervous and don't worry about making a fool of yourself if you do something wrong. Just be sure that your boyfriend/partner cares deeply about you. Physically, sex is quite simple, but the more you know, the more comfortable you'll feel. Just be sure you are doing this because you want to, and not because he wants you to. You must have tons of questions if you are thinking about having sex for the first time. Take your time with this decision. Having a conversation with him about your first time is the right way to go so you can make sure you guys are on the same page. Oh and one last thing - don't put pressure on yourself to have an orgasm. Most likely you won't have one the first time and I'd hate for you to be disappointed.