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Anatomy of a "Fakeup"

Anatomy of a "Fakeup"

Even if you've never heard the word "fakeup," you've surely witnessed them or maybe even participated in one. Though the fakeup comes in many forms, it's most easily defined as a fake breakup or a breakup that doesn't take.

Some couples are repeat fakeup offenders — you know the people I'm talking about. They break up frequently and in very dramatic fashion, but you always know they're going to get back together. (Note: In these cases, it's best not to badmouth the recent ex, since he or she probably won't be an ex for long!)

For further insight into faking up,


Following my own failed relationships, I tend to cut off all ties and move on. But some people — and I can't really blame them — have a penchant for sleeping with their exes. It's tempting for sure, but hooking up with your ex can often precipitate a fakeup and lead to a misguided reconciliation. Often, after several fakeups, the repeat offenders call it quits altogether.

Then, there are couples who fake up but genuinely seem to make it work the second time around. This type of fakeup is different from the first and not as much of a fake out.

How about you? Have you ever been guilty of a fakeup? Do you know any frequent faker-uppers?


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RustyAngel73 RustyAngel73 9 years
I know many fakeuppers.
ninjastarlett ninjastarlett 9 years
Unrelated -- I love that dress and the tops of those shoes in this picture! Does anyone know where either one of them come from??
Rebecca14916991 Rebecca14916991 9 years
I just have to stop talking to people who do this, or at least stop talking to them about their personal lives. If I don't know anything about it, then I don't have to bite their heads off later for putting me through that crap 5 times a month. I only have so much patience. This kind of thing wears it thin REAL fast.
miriah15 miriah15 9 years
I HATE people who do this!
LoveSarah LoveSarah 9 years
I'm really guilty of this. My boyfriend and I have terrible communication skills. I tend to nag him, and he holds everything in. When I try to say what is wrong, he gets upset because he feels he never gets to say what he feels is wrong, but that's because he hates confrontations so he doesn't tell me what is upsetting him. So it turns into this big fight and no one listens and then we break up. BUT we are working on it and getting much better, we have such a great time together and we really love each other, we are just both a little too stubborn.
Muirnea Muirnea 9 years
I admit I have been in a fakeup situation, I prob. annoyed a lot of people and caused more problems than there were at fun.
robinlh912 robinlh912 9 years
I know of a couple that went out for sometime, broke up abruptly, many people thought they were going to get engaged soon, yet still spent a large amount of time together, were found kissing and she even planned his graduation party. They are back together now and the whole while everyone wondered why they weren't in the first place!
Sugarblonde Sugarblonde 9 years
I admit I am currently in a fakeup-like situation. We've broken up 3 times in the past 3 years... typically over a big issue. I know better than to bad mouth him to others because it's not like we broke up because we stopped caring. We may end up together again at some point in our lives, when the timing is right. :P
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 9 years
I bet the communication is swell in these relationships.:D
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 9 years
Stuff like this just drives me bonkers. I couldn't be friends with anyone who was like this. Too much drama. Fakeups aside, I'm a fan of that girl's dress in the stock photo.
crystalvillage06 crystalvillage06 9 years
One of my best friends and her boyfriend break up about once a week. It's crazy and it makes me think both of them are a little crazy. I understand it more when your very young but now that we're in our mid-twenties I don't see why you would want that drama.
juicylove juicylove 9 years
fakeups aha thats new. but its definity annoying when people do this constantly. maybe once or twice after a few bad fights (if its a long term reationship) or something is understandable but i hate when people expect sympathy when it happens every month.
princess_eab princess_eab 9 years
Well, my first boyfriend and I kept breaking up and getting back together, but we never really liked each other very much anyway - we just were very attracted to each other. My most recent relationship ended partially because there was no sex, so I don't see there being a problem with 'ex sex'. Makes it easy.
Jammi Jammi 9 years
A friend of mine and her boyfriend are frequent fakeuppers, but what makes it worse is that after they've 'broken up' they start dating other people but keep dating the other without letting either party know and then when they realise they get back together then allow their 'significant other' to tear into the person they were dating to make the other person feel better. Example; my friend [we'll call her S] and her boy broke up. She started talking to five different guys and he started 'dating' this girl who was younger than us while he convinced her to take him back. She did then he had to go to court and since S couldn't go with him he brought the other girl, S found out, flipped and then instead of breaking up with him made him break up with the girl and he pretty much told her she was nothing to him and how he was using her and blahblahblah and she kept calling the girl a bitch and all sorts of names though she hadn't even known about S. And after they did all that they ended up 'breaking up' again. That's toxic behaviour imo and not just to themselves but to those around them.
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 9 years
my sis and her now ex (finally) did the fakeup thing for about 4 -5 yrs. damn that was irritating! and it wasnt like a few times a year. it was a few times a week. ew, thats not a way to live.
AngelaChristin AngelaChristin 9 years
One of my guy friends has a crazy psychotic girlfriend. They have had fakeups for the past 2 years, at least once a week (although usually it's once a day...). They tell each other they hate each other, call each other horrible names, say they never want to see/talk to each other again, and then 20 mins later it's "ohh baby I'm sorry I love you." It's so annoying, and he's destroyed like 7 cell phones (good ones too like Blackberrys) and I have no idea why anyone would continue to put themselves through this.
bluestar bluestar 9 years
Yes, unfortunately I have done the fakeup thing, with my last ex. What I learned is that a relationship full of fakeups does NOT work out!
zombielove zombielove 9 years
it's irritating when you constantly have to hear what a jerk the other person is, how they suck at life..and all this other stuff...and then the next day they're back together. hella annoying.
lilCROAT03 lilCROAT03 9 years
this is weird. i just went for a walk with my dog and i saw an married couple, in their early 40s, screaming at eachother. it was in german so i didn't understand but it was really ugly to look at! it kind of makes me reevaluate fighting with my guy. it's ugly to fight, especially with yelling...and more so in public. but to contradict myself- fakeups are sometimes necessary because it can scare one or the other into realizing that if a certain behavior doesn't cease that it can really be over one day!
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