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Ask an Atheist: Can I Say I Love You First?

Conventional Wisdom is a different kind of advice column. Your questions will be answered by people from all walks of life rather than by advice experts. This week, a person who identifies as an atheist tries to help out a woman who is eager to say I love you. If you have a question you'd like answered on Conventional Wisdom, you can submit it here.

Today's Question:

I have been dating my boyfriend for two months and know that I have fallen in love with him. I think he feels the same way, but neither of us have said it. Can I tell him, or should I wait until he says it? I think it might feel more romantic and definitely less scary if I wait, but I just want to tell him!

Silent in Love

To see the atheist's answer,


Dear Silent in Love,

Falling in love can be scary, but I hope you enjoy this exciting moment! You know the chemistry between the two of you better than me, so if you feel the moment is right, just tell him you love him! There's no rule saying that the man has to say "I love you" first. Whether it's while you're cuddling on the couch watching a movie, or over dessert while you're out to dinner, you will know when the time is right. It doesn't have to be too serious or cheesy you can just tell him that you can't keep it inside any longer.


Then again, if for good reason or not you'd rather wait until he says it, you'll just have to be a little patient. Remember he might be just as chicken as you are, especially since it hasn't been that long. Also, I know a friend who didn't want to say it first, so she said something like: "I like you so much, there's another word for it." Her guy got the hint and confessed that he loved her. That might work for you. Good luck!

Source: Flcikr User Jeremy Burgin

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