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Ask E. Jean for DearSugar: Should I Let My Sister Move in With a Republican?

E. Jean is still enjoying her vacation, but not to worry, she'll be back in two weeks! In the meantime, I hope you enjoy this oldie but goodie!
Dear E. Jean,
This is about an awful man, thankfully not mine. My beloved sister is stylish, cute, well-educated, and recently managed to lose 60 pounds. Naturally once she got a rockin’ bod, she became a dude magnet. And he’s horrible! Eeee Jean! We are a family of food lovers, and his favorite restaurant is Chili's! He has an elite education, but he’s grossly overweight, knows a lot of lame trivia, and is a very conservative Republican with hideous taste. Her friends don’t like him, her family does not like him, but she is moving to a red state with him. No not red — crimson. Ew. No one has the guts to tell her he sucks, but nobody wants her trapped in a marriage with Mr. Ickington. What should I/my family do? — Nosy But Lovin Lil’ Sis

To see E. Jean's answer

Nosy, My Dear Niwit,

Oh, please. I don’t care if it is Dick Cheney she’s hot for. Let her be. Every woman, at least once in her life, should savor the delights of a Republican man. Anyway you can’t control her. Falling in love is like voting. Once your sister goes inside the booth and closes that curtain, she’s on her own.

P.S. And actually I’ve relished some excellent guacamole at Chili’s.

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ckeller825 ckeller825 8 years
sarahbellum, I don't know where to even START with your profile picture. I'm laughing so much right now.
Shadowdamage Shadowdamage 8 years
Every criticism this sister has makes her sound shallow as hell, and most of her judgement of this man seems entirely subjective - (i.e. "lame trivia" and "hideous taste"....subjective.) Also, who cares if he is a Republican? Ever heard of Arnie and Maria Shriver? If he's overweight, what concern is that of hers as long as her sister is happy? Good grief, he's a chubby conservative, not a leper. :P As far as food goes, hey - I love me some Michelin starred restaurants too, and I feel at home in those environments...but it doesn't stop me from fond memories of hot wings, nachos and a good cold beer. It has no bearing on the man's worth, for sure. Sister, let your sibling choose her own men, and time will determine whether or not they are right for each other - not you.
ilanac13 ilanac13 8 years
i think that one thing that we have to remember is that we can't change who our loved ones feel like they should be with and if they are happy then let them be. the things that attract us to someone aren't the same things that attract others - so you can't put that on her. i hope that she's still happy though and doesn't relinquish her friendship with you for a guy. it would be horrible if you let someone come between the two of you.
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
snowysakurasky: "this is a repeat post! ? too bad i was looking forward to seeing a new e. jean!" k8: "This one has been posted before...a long time ago....whats with the recycling of DearSugar posts" Agreed...this is totally a repeat post. And the poster is still stupid if they were wondering yet again... ':/
redegg redegg 8 years
Absolutely not. She should leave that poor republican alone! :rotfl:
heidi-girl heidi-girl 8 years
i may be wrong, but how does being a republican have anything to do with your sisters relationship? if your basing most of your opinion on that and the fact that he likes chili's and his 'grossly overweight' you need to see that there is more to people than their looks.. seems like your sister grasped that concept, you should too.
True-Song True-Song 8 years
This is so funny. The question, the comments, everything. Weird about recycling posts, though. Is this because of the Sugar Inc. layoffs?
omilawd omilawd 8 years
Chili's? Toooooootal dealbreaker.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
It sounds like you dont like him because he is a fatty with bad taste, nothing to do with being a republican.
skigurl skigurl 8 years
courtneyh is now my hero
skigurl skigurl 8 years
i think this is hilarious i wouldn't want my sister to move out with a republican either
k8-rckstr k8-rckstr 8 years
This one has been posted before...a long time ago....whats with the recycling of DearSugar posts
The-Grizz The-Grizz 8 years
A republican who likes chilis?! NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
Marni7 Marni7 8 years
Nothing about what you used to describe him paints him to be a bad guy really. I am very liberal myself but unless you are worried for ur sister's life because she is with someone that is abusing her or cheating on her your fears are baseless! You are not the one dating him dear, get over it.
bluesteyes bluesteyes 8 years
bigestivediscuit bigestivediscuit 8 years
:rotfl: HAHAHAHAHA I LOVE THIS ONE!!! courtneyh's "hunting accident" comment above is the best. Oh dear ... wiping the tears away from laughter ...
sundaygreen sundaygreen 8 years
I hate the girl my brother is going out with, but I would never ever say something to him. It's just not any of my business.
reeeeka reeeeka 8 years
"You mentioned your sister lost weight, and that this guy is overweight. Do you think your sister lost that weight solely so she could attract more attractive guys? Maybe she has more substance than that, and lost the weight so she would be healthier and happier with herself, not so she could attract some hot guy. Maybe she is empathetic towards his weight issues and can help him." Couldn't agree more! People are so self obsorbed!! Obviously your sister is with him because she loves him not because she's a vain, self centered person like you.
reeeeka reeeeka 8 years
Does this person honestly think she'd garner sympathy for her "situation"? Let your sister live her own life. I'd probably be all for you and your family if you had a LEGITIMATE reason to hate this guy. He's an trivia buff who's overweight & republican who enjoys eating at Chilli's....*GASP*. Get over it. He seems like a pretty normal guy. She's moving to a red state?...really! You're worried about her moving to a red state? Why does it matter!? As long as she's happy! Why is it so important for you to make her as miserable as you?? You seem like a self richeous, spoiled, hoity toity SNOB!! Get over yourself!!! I definitely wouldn't want you as my sister. Keep your opinions of her boyfriend to yourself until you have a legitimate reason to hate him...I.E he abuses her or kills people.
Vaadsfweytes Vaadsfweytes 8 years
Give me east coast, well-educated, conservative republican guys any day! This post is ridiculous. I do certainly think there's a lot to overcome dating someone who has a different view in politics. But, your sister is the one who is dating him. Just because he's a bit geeky, boring, and has a different political view, you can't tell your sister how to live her life. Get over it.
Kimpossible Kimpossible 8 years
*dilemma ugh too tired to type
Kimpossible Kimpossible 8 years
E Jean thank you for post #42 because I too thought this was a made up dilema... I simply don't understand people sometimes.
snowysakurasky snowysakurasky 8 years
this is a repeat post! ? too bad i was looking forward to seeing a new e. jean!
sarahcateh sarahcateh 8 years
this has to be a joke
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
This has gotta be a fake letter. There's no way someone can be this immature... let me tell you something. I am from the nation's two deepest red states and moved to a blue state and it has nothing to do with anything. My sister and brother in law are super conservative fundamentalists and they are good people who I love, even though my politics are completely different. Get over yourself - as long as he treats her well, what's the big deal?
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