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Ask E. Jean for DearSugar: What Did He Do?


I have a sticky — sticky — situation. I love my fiancé. He’s a down-to-earth, funny, intelligent guy, a Baptist from Kentucky; I’m a no-nonsense, fun-loving Catholic girl from Boston (he’s agreed we will raise our children Catholic). We’re both geeks, love the Red Sox, like staying up late, and sleeping with the windows open. We are extremely compatible. Our wedding is in June.

But! We have a bone of contention: I’m voting for Hillary. He’s voting for Rudy. After several heated discussions, we agreed to disagree about it. Everything has been lovely till last weekend.

I was out with my friend (ironically, we were attending a campaign meeting for Hillary in preparation for going to New Hampshire next month) and my fiancé plastered our car with Rudy Giuliani stickers. I mean he put them everywhere — all over the trunk, both backseat windows, and one on each of the front doors.

I’m so angry! I can’t be seen in a car with Giuliani ads! I’m not saying Giuliani’s a bad man, I just can’t see him as president. Hillary Clinton will be smarter, more thoughtful president. What do I do? The damn stickers are impossible to get off! Help! Even Brillo didn’t work! — Hillary’s Hand Maiden

To see E. Jean's answer


  1. Buy full-sheet sticker papers (25 sheets, $20 at or
  2. Do not cut them into bumper sticker-size slogans.
  3. Instead, design each full sheet to carry the 7 Reasons to Vote for Hillary in HUGE FONT.
  4. Print 20 giant stickers.
  5. Carefully place one Hillary sticker below each Giuliani sticker on your car.
  6. Drive to The Boston Globe.
  7. Call the Political Desk and ask a reporter to come down to the front door.
  8. Hand the reporter a cup of hot coffee, show her the car, and tell her your story.
  9. Get big press for your candidate and let your fiancé know that neither you nor Hillary will take any guff from the fellows.

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Join The Conversation
getstinko getstinko 9 years
Go Mike Huckabee!!! Guiliani is terrible!!! Terrible. the fact that you are Hillary's Hand Maiden makes the Guiliani sticker thing so bad - but bumperstickers in general are terrible to remove. You should get your boyfriend to remove the stickers and tell him to do so because he loves you and that he loves that you have firm opinions - bumper stickers are just over the top and it's like destruction of property. I think you are both supporting liars, and wafflers.
Jeng112 Jeng112 9 years
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 9 years
I think Americans should discuss the issues important to our country. I would love to learn more about issues that are important to our nation. But you aren't talking about issues. You are name-calling. And not only is that totally counterproductive to learning ANYTHING, it's also plain old rude and annoying. And for the record, this isn't It's a freaking gossip and fashion blog (and kids and pets and ...). Many of us have reading material outside of this site, and come here for a fun diversion, and because there is (usually) a nice sense of community where people manage to state their opinions without being derogatory towards others. Not sure what other blogs you read, but I've found that's generally unique to this site. As for the issue at hand, it sounds to me like it was a practical joke gone bad. I agree with whoever else said that it totally depends on how he responded when he confronted you. If he felt bad and offered to help you get them off then I say you can forgive him. If he was a jerk about it then it's a bigger issue because it was mean-spirited and not funny.
tundrababe tundrababe 9 years
E. Jean's advice is pretty awesome. :-)
pink_magnetism pink_magnetism 9 years
:ROTFL: at the advice
You know, maybe Americans should discuss politics. Because maybe feelings get hurt in the process, but maybe we wouldn't be in the mess we are now if we did. But, hey! Everyone just dumb yourself down to not knowing anything about the state of affairs of the country you live in! That's a great idea! As long as you have knowledge about what to wear, and what expensive handbag you need to put on credit, you can make a logical decision on who is best for our nation's future!
DCRoamer DCRoamer 9 years
How about we leave the political commentary out of this?
Oh yea! Rudy Guliani is the NUMBER ONE PROFITEER OFF OF 9/11!
I would demand a paint job! I will refrain from attacking him for being dumb enough to still support the Republican party when they've done such damage to our country, and leave it at that.
OrangeSugar OrangeSugar 9 years
That was actually very funny. Loved the advice, E. Jean!!
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 9 years
Wtf is all this about having opposing opinions and feeling the need to constantly change someone else's? respect it that let that be the end of it. You're both going to vote for different people? Wonderfulness! Go ahead, why fight about it? You don't even have to talk about it(nor do you have to see eye to eye on it, ask for permission and consult about it, be like the Nike commercial and Just do it!. It's called freedom of choice, damn it!:D
angelbaby2 angelbaby2 9 years
who cares
princess_eab princess_eab 9 years
I could never date someone who was the opposite of me politically, because I was brought up the opposite of what I am now and I can't deal with that crap anymore. The personal is political, esp. for me. But E. Jean's answer is hilarious!
designergirl designergirl 9 years
Political differences can be a very big problem. I think your boyfriend acted really immaturely by putting stickers on your car. Luckily, my boyfriend and I feel the same politically. You could always do what my mom and stepdad do; they never talk about who they will vote for to avoid an unnecessary strain on their relationship.
Muirnea Muirnea 9 years
I think the political problem isn't something that would get in the way of your otherwise awesome relationship, so just make sure your fiance understands that you meant it when you said that. Other than that though, the stickers are a really mean thing to do, and he should pay for them and also be the one to have to go to the trouble of getting them off. I mean, come on, would it be ok if some random person did the same thing!?!? Umm, I don't think so! Would it be ok if someone you knew, but just as a friend/acquaintance did the same thing???? I don't think so again??? So its not ok for him to do it either!!!!! Especially him!!! He is supposed to respect you and your decisions (your decision to not talk about the political stuff!!!) If he was really just playing around, and used something like that window paint stuff that washes off easily, I would say, don't be mad and just pull a fairly nice prank on him, and then make sure he knows you want to really really stop that stuff and not debate ("talking or sticking bumper stickers around" kind of debate)any more. The bumper stickers were just mean and rude though.
kristyrk kristyrk 9 years
I would be totally peeved if my BF did that to my car. If you are passionate about something thats one thing, but don't deface someones property cause you are an ass. But....maybe not something to break up over.
NadiaPotter NadiaPotter 9 years
I ... kind of not see it like a joke. Stickers leave a mark, and putting stickers everywhere in a car that he share... is like she decorates all the inside of the car with Hello Kitty stickers and stuff (in pale pink). He knew she will get mad. He should have think this twice. It was inmature and kind of... insane. So, yeah, take the advice!!! :rotfl:
onesong onesong 9 years
That advice is priceless, and hysterical - do it!
lilxmissxmolly lilxmissxmolly 9 years
I love E. Jean's advice! Your boy took it too far!
laPetiteJuJu laPetiteJuJu 9 years
E. Jean, you are hillarious!
sarah-lynn sarah-lynn 9 years
Regardless of either one of them being the better candidate, I would be ticked. That is extremely immature, especially after you both agreed to disagree. It is also a terrible way to ruin a rather pricey possession (bumper stickers of any kind are awfully tacky). I would personally make him scratch them off with his own fingernails, and then pay to get it detailed. While it could be worse, I'd seriously question whether or not he is mature enough to get married after an elementary school prank like that (If anything, it could end up at least scaring him from pulling crap like this in the future!)
dwhite-1217 dwhite-1217 9 years
guilani 08:) any way, i would be pretty pissed if there were stickers on my car..period...but i mean it could be worse...
EJean EJean 9 years
I should be flogged with David Ortiz's jock strap!
EJean EJean 9 years
Gah! Gack! The "socks" was my lame-brained mistake. I CORRECTED Miss Handmaiden's spelling of Sox when I sent the letter to the Divine Alexis (Dear Sugar).
sparklestar sparklestar 9 years
I'm a liberal and my boyfriend is a conservative and I have to laugh about this! We have "heated" political discussions but they always end up with a whole ton of sex because we got all passionate about something. We agree to disagree, the healthy way!! =P
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