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Ask Two Guys About Guys: Why Do Men Who Have Partners Masturbate?

Colin Nissan and Sean Farrell of Don't Be That Guy fame have graciously agreed to answer some burning questions we women folk have about men. So check out their answer to the first question and stay tuned for more!

Today's question to Two Guys: "Why, if men get regular sex from their girlfriends or wives, do some of them still need to masturbate?"

To hear what the Two Guys have to say,


On paper, we know this one doesn’t make a whole lot of sense. But then, neither does whacking off into a perfectly good sock and we do that too.


Ever since that magical adolescent day when we discovered there was amusement park in our pants, there was no turning back. We were powerless. Our penis became the puppeteer and when it told us it was time to dance, we danced. Boy, did we dance.

Please don’t make the mistake of taking this personally. For guys, masturbating is as unsexual, unromantic and unceremonial as doing Sudoku. It’s simply our default time killer. If there’s a two-minute lull at any given moment, our brain’s job is to assess the situation to determine the viability of a tug session. It’s very similar to the “Fight or Flight” adrenaline response, which incidentally, has been formally updated in some periodicals as “Fight, Flight or Masturbate Syndrome.”

Remember, this isn’t about you. It’s about us, our penises, maybe some lotion and the biological demons that we certainly can’t be held accountable for.

Join The Conversation
Gingerninja Gingerninja 5 years
So yeh I'm 23.. Why do some people have a problem with men masturbating? Me it's just to kill time when I'm bord... Just go to my room, make sure no one can disturb me.. Whack a porn film on and a way I go.. Besides women masturbate so what's wrong with men masturbating? Rant over lol
Venus1 Venus1 7 years
As a woman I lead an active and full partner sex life but I still masturbate regularly. The needs for both are so different and I would think it is the same for men as well.
Allytta Allytta 7 years
not everyone does it. i have some friends who don't and they really wish they could. people seem to assume a lot and compare everyone to themselves and think everybody is just like them.
LouLou12 LouLou12 7 years
PirateKitty: My friend had a boyfriend who swore up and down he had never done it. Who knows if it was true, or if he thought it was what she wanted to hear, but it def. weirded her out...I mean come on, not once?
tayrose tayrose 7 years
Hahahahahha I love the answer!!
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 7 years
Hey if Dr. Oz says masturbating is good then by golly masturbating is good.
Kimpossible Kimpossible 7 years
LOL that was funny. And I'm so happy to see other women here who agree that masturbating is not a "men only" activity lol. I will never understand peoples (in particular, womens) hangups about mastubating.
reesiecup reesiecup 7 years
biarose biarose 7 years
I think it's unfair how easy it is for guys to just rub one off whenever they feel like it.. I actually can't make myself orgasm.. it's kinda like how you can't tickle yourself.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 7 years
Everyone does it. Honestly, anyone who gets offended by it needs to have their head checked. Sometimes you just wanna be quick and selfish.
oohsexypenguin oohsexypenguin 7 years
My husband says he only masturbates occasionally now (he used to do it quite often before we were together). I've asked him why the drop in frequency, and he says he doesn't feel the need to do it as often now that he's with me. I don't know if he's lying or not, but I honestly don't care if he does it. It's a healthy way to both fulfill a biological need and kill time lol.
pinkprincess1101 pinkprincess1101 7 years
I think it is funny that this cartoon is on the toilet. I'm sure my fiance does it which is fine with me, better it be his hand and not another female.
HoneyBrown1976 HoneyBrown1976 7 years
Double standard! I'm married and I use some me time in the shower. Big deal if my hubby does it. I'm not always up to couple time.
PirateKitty PirateKitty 7 years
Wouldn't people worry so much more if their boyfriends didn't do it? Are some people really that threatened by some guys right (or in some cases left) hand?
dakmo dakmo 7 years
LOL - awesome answer and I am really looking forward to more more from these 2 guys! Hope it becomes a regular column here! :)
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 7 years
I think their answer is a bit silly but the fact of the matter is every sex therapist, Dr. etc. since I've been paying attention in the 80's has said that masturbation is healthy for the individual and the relationship. Now certainly we can all agree that obsession of any sort is not healthy. But if your sex life is great except for the fact that you're hung up that your man masturbates my advise is let it go.
PontNeuf PontNeuf 7 years
WTF ? My wife and I both masturbate. This is by no means a "guy" phenomenon.
Chrstne Chrstne 7 years
Oh, I guess I wouldn't know.
AujahAcorn AujahAcorn 7 years
I caught him yesterday! What a coincidence!!!! At the same time he goes home during work to walk the dog I left work early to get some last minute studying for a mid term..... To make a long story short... ended nicely for both of us. I'm fine with whatever he does with his own private time and catching him is not half bad ether ;)
Jabbadoo Jabbadoo 7 years
Again... he still does. ;)
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