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Ask Two Guys About Guys: Why Isn't He Calling Me?!

Ask Two Guys About Guys: Why Isn't He Calling Me?!

Colin Nissan and Sean Farrell of Don't Be That Guy fame have graciously agreed to answer some burning questions we women folk have about men. Last week they told us why some men are so carefree about farting, and this week they head into dating territory.

This week's question: "I dated this guy for about three weeks. One day all the emails, texts, calls, and dates stopped. Why do men come on strong and then vanish?"

To hear what the Two Guys have to say,


I could be wrong, but it sounds like someone showed someone else their vagina a little too soon. It’s certainly not to say that waiting a year before having sex is always advisable. However, depending on who he is and how well you’ve gotten to know each other, sometimes it’s important to form more of a bond before doing the vulva waltz.


Sadly there’s a great deal of truth to the notion the guys lose steam once the chase has ended, so it stands to reason that the more you’ve connected while wearing pants, the more reason he has to be invested in the relationship.

Let him get to know that kooky laugh of yours or that adorable way you scrunch your lips when you’re concentrating on something. God, I love it when you do that. Do some activities that will let him get to know the real you: go to a movie together, have a picnic, maybe swim with some dolphins. Not coincidentally, all things that you don’t need your vagina for, missy.

popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 7 years
Just because some of us don't find it funny, it doesn't mean we're some breed of nazi feminists. I have an excellent sense of humor, which is in fact part of the reason that I didn't find this funny. Honestly, it's just not a well done piece.
mix-tape mix-tape 7 years
Sorry Two Guys, some women on here just can't take a joke apparently. I hope section remains after the feminists pick it to death. I agree with JazzyTummy!
newshine newshine 7 years
Okay, first of all? Not funny. Second, as previously stated, why do they assume the girl gave it up? Heaven forbid women not all be skanks and actually practice getting to know someone a bit better first! Lastly, while it's not easy, she is much better off without him and should move on to someone who is worth the time.
jazzytummy jazzytummy 7 years
They are answering from a guy's perspective....we might not like it, not think it's fair, etc, but the bottom line is that, yes, alot of guys lose interest after they get a girl into bed. The chase is done, and they are gone. It happens frequently, like it or not. Are these guys that do this jerks? Yes. Are we better off without them? Yes, just like we are better off without guys that dump us because we WON'T sleep with them on their timetable. That, however, isn't the issue. These dudes answered the question from a guy's perspective, for what it's worth. We just don't like the answer. Ultimately, it's up to us to realize that men that do this are douchebags, that they are not into us, and therefore are a complete waste of our time.
soulight soulight 7 years
I think PirateKitty summed it all pretty nicely. If only it was that easy though... :-/
PirateKitty PirateKitty 7 years
If a guy just stops caring, why should you still care to date him?
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 7 years
The response is not only idiotic, it's poorly written.
oohsexypenguin oohsexypenguin 7 years
I usually find these guys funny, but I'm a little offended by this particular article. To say that he must've stopped calling because she slept with with him (when she doesn't even mention if she did), and for that to be the ONLY reason given, is condescending and rude. I've had guys stop "he chase," and I certainly did not sleep with them. Some guys are just jackasses - be grateful, OP, that you found this out the easy way.
tarynitup tarynitup 7 years
Little boys, this is silliness. Regardless of whether or not they had sex already, if he wanted to call her he would have. I suggest she not worry about this guy (which I know is easier said then done). You'll never know why he disappeared.
mix-tape mix-tape 7 years
HAHAHAHA these are so humorous! Of course many of us have experienced this situation before or maybe we didn't put out soon enough. Ultimately, for the average woman there is some weird balance we all have to find that works for us and keeps a guy we're interested in. But in the end you could time the sex just right and it won't work out. Just move on, flaky dudes aren't much fun, you deserve someone who is truly interested in you.
jdots24 jdots24 7 years
If he doesn't call then it MUST be because YOU are a slut. Is this a joke?? I don't see the humor
TidalWave TidalWave 7 years
if you didn't show your vag too soon, then i'm thinking that "something better come along"
TammyO TammyO 7 years
Ok NO. Those guys are just wrong with the "shown vagina too soon" nonsense. How about some guys are just jackasses? How about that explaination. I've had guys come on all strong and lovey dovey too on dates and I certainly did not sleep with them and they were the same, no calls anymore, no acknowlegment. It's not humorous to me to say if a guy stops calling it automatically means the woman slept with him.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 7 years
THESE ARE HUMOR POSTS people.....geezus.
amelioratelj amelioratelj 7 years
These are hilarious articles, but I find this one to be a ring with a slight misogynist tone. I find it unlikely that this is the only reason men disappear, particularly because this lady never mentioned having slept with the guy.
PhillyEagles1 PhillyEagles1 7 years
Hate to be harsh but... He doesn't like you.
vmruby vmruby 7 years
He obviously got what he wanted and he's probably moving on to the next conquest already........
Vanonymous Vanonymous 7 years
Yes, immediately blame yourself. I'm sure it has nothing to do with any of his hang ups.
skigurl skigurl 7 years
there must be some other explanation though because the OP didn't say she slept with him THEN he stopped calling i love the hilarious responses from these 2 guys though but that can't always be the answer to a guy who stops responding
mamasitamalita mamasitamalita 7 years
I love that they totally jumped to the "you put out too soon." I'm half offended by it and half unsurprised. Hollywood recently made a (terrible-looking) movie about a ("no duh") book titled He's Just Not That Into You. Take his disappearance as a GIFT -- he's not for you and you haven't wasted any time figuring it out the hard way.
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