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Awkward! Sending an Email to the Object of Your Gossip

There are Freudian slips — and, as an old pal once referred to them — Freudian sends, emails whose bitchy, gossipy content accidentally gets sent to the object of your bitching.

I've never done this myself (it's only a matter of time), but I keep hearing stories about people who have. The awkwardness of having to face that person and apologize, probably only to deal with their eternal wrath, is hard to imagine. Have you ever "accidentally" sent someone a message talking stink about them, or knew someone who did? What was the fallout?


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opentypeA opentypeA 8 years
Hiding - I gave up FB for Lent, and my mom (who has facebook) happened to see his site (which he had public) and noticed that he'd been making plans with several other girls on his Facebook wall! She debated with herself whether or not she should tell me, but I'm really glad she did -- right away I logged on, wrote him a message on his wall saying I'd figured him out, and changed my relationship status! Passive-aggressive, yes, but he deserved it!
jlynn818 jlynn818 8 years
oops, I just did this today via text message. it wasn't gossip though... my friend and I were having a heated discussion via text and I was texting my bf to see if what I was telling her sounded ok. I sent it to her, but she didn't seem to notice, but I did send it twice with it slightly reworded the second time
Ac2366 Ac2366 8 years
Oh Janine!! I know what that feels like! My ex trashed me on my brother's wall on Facebook on my birthday. I was surprised that he was saying things about me at all and pissed off to say the least and I gave him a piece of my mind. The idiot thought he had his settings set so only friends could read his wall posts.
Janine22 Janine22 8 years
This exact thing has not happened to me, but I did have a bad Facebook encounter. This girl who was friends with my bf wrote some nasty stuff about me on someone's wall and I accidentally found it. It was really upsetting. So I wrote her back and basically told her off. Sometimes I really hate facebook!
nancita nancita 8 years
Thank god that has never happened to me. However, I did accidentally email a very racy story to a random student at my college named Bernard, when I was trying to email my friend Betsy. Our email addresses were first letter of first name, plus last name, but for people who had the same last name, they were number 2. Betsy was No. 2. Bernard was No. 1. Bernard got my racy story.
margokhal margokhal 8 years
*oh, and the picture of that chick is EPIC. I didn't even read the title at first...just laughed!
margokhal margokhal 8 years
If you have to bitch someone out in an have *more* issues than just whether it gets back to them!! I never talk about people over email. Just on the phone, in person, in my [locked] blog, on the street...etc.
sparklepants sparklepants 8 years
i have not but my friend at work has. our old boss was jewish and was on the phone with a german client. she sent me a highly inappropriate email about it but accidentally sent it to him. about an hour later she asked if i got her email. she was horrified to discover she mistakenly sent it to him. she apologized profusely and begged to not be fired. luckily, he had a good sense of humor and thought it was funny. a few months later she accidentally replied to the entire firm an email trail essentially making fun of everyone. luckily it was lunch and she was able to recall before most people received it. i think she's a bit more careful now.
Ac2366 Ac2366 8 years
I have never done this before, thank God. I am so careful before I hit send if it's an email with multiple recipients. I have accidentally typed embarrassing things to the wrong person using an instant messenger. Keeping too many of those open at once can be dangerous!
queenegg queenegg 8 years
I was talking to a guy at work via email and sending my good friend what he said. She'd help me get introduced to him, so it was a team effort. Anyway, I accidentally sent an email meant for her to him without realizing it. He called me out, walked to her cube and called her out, and then wrote me an email telling me to ask him out, which I was too embarrased to do, so he asked me out. We've been together for about a year, live together, and some more, but that will come.
heatherhas heatherhas 8 years
I have been on the receiving end of this as a job applicant. I had made a mistake on my cover letter, and the guy emailed me to clarify. Then he sent an e-mail to his colleague explaining the mistake and saying that I was on the bottom of the list, but he sent it to me instead. His mistake was much worse than mine on the cover letter, so I got a little bit of smug satisfaction out of that one! :)
tlsgirl tlsgirl 8 years
No, but I have had someone read a series of emails that were sent about her (left open on the other person's computer). It was awkward.
arrowstraite arrowstraite 8 years
No. I usually bitch directly to the person or at least at close as I can get. I'm not much of a gossiper. I don't type what I wouldn't say in person should the occasion present itself.
simplyfab87 simplyfab87 8 years
I've had this happen to me. But I was on the other end, I got a message about me sent to me. I was so upset mostly because it was from someone that I thought was my best friend. Needless to say we aren't friends anymore, I haven't spoken to her in two years.
mamasitamalita mamasitamalita 8 years
ugh, yes, I sent a series of emails and chats with my comments on this guy's crumminess to my girlfriend...... but I accidentally sent it to him...... big mistake. the results weren't tragic however since I didn't want him in my life anymore, but I was still embarrassed, and I felt bad that he could see my true feelings
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