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Is Bad Grammar a Turnoff?

Does Poor Grammar Turn You Off?

"Let me know what your up too." Such was a text message my friend received the other night from a guy she just started seeing. The missing e in your and the extra o in too nearly made her call the whole thing off. I had to talk her down from the deal-breaker ledge, explaining that it was most likely a typo, but I bet a couple of their/they're mix ups and the budding romance will die.

Thanks to Twitter, text messages, and quick emails sent via smart phones, the opportunity for grammatical or spelling mistakes has multiplied to the displeasure of grammar police everywhere. Sometimes this obsession goes too far, and people can't help but correct every mistake they come across. The New York Times took a look at the anal-retentive tendency, explaining: "A small but vocal subculture has emerged on Twitter of grammar and taste vigilantes who spend their time policing other people’s tweets — celebrities and nobodies alike."

Policing Twitter for grammatical errors is quite an undertaking, but what about in your love life? Do you have zero tolerance for bad grammar?

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BobPhillips BobPhillips 6 years
I've had relationships with ladies who were on both ends of the spelling/grammar spectrum, and will add that it can be a minor irritation to have to make "mental corrections" of words I'm reading, from my girlfriend. ( God knows that I have long ago learned to NOT correct them, especially in a fatherly/teacher manner.) I have found that I have gravitated from those who were consistently "guilty" of such faux pas, so it never became a long-time issue. My current sweetheart introduced me to texting about 4 years ago, ( My previous phone wasn't text-friendly.) and since then - depending upon whom I'm sharing a text with, I tend to abbreviate for space available. Only in texting, though, as I'm a regular blogger now, and I strive to make sure my posts are grammatically correct. For me it was probably never a deal-breaker, but it can be annoying.
WarEagleNurse WarEagleNurse 6 years
Yes
InTheSkySoBlue InTheSkySoBlue 6 years
I'm not exactly turned off by bad grammar if it's very minor. i think grammar nazis irritate me more than people who have terrible grammar actually.
joriss joriss 7 years
definitely no... I come from poor country that English is considered as second language and people doesn't used it always. Some are trying to say what they want to say. Express their opinion in a way they could be easily understood. I also had a poor grammar, i admit. And it is hard. But I'm trying my best. But to those people that are living in the country where English is the basic language, its totally turn off. I mean, you been using that grammar for your whole life and yet not getting it right. What i waste...
cherrypop cherrypop 7 years
I'm with reesiecup. I think it is acceptable if people with dyslexia can't spell certain words or have poor grammar, but I secretly dislike it if people who can clearly read, write and speak well commit such language mistakes blatantly.
reesiecup reesiecup 7 years
I used to be somewhat of a grammar Nazi. Nowadays, I realize that most people type/text in a hurry and care less to proofread. That being said, I am less forgiving when grammatical errors appear on published works, presentations, resumes/CVs, menus...etc.
hibiscus96818 hibiscus96818 7 years
Bad grammar is a huge turn off! Even when texting, I make sure to use correct grammar and spelling.
luna08 luna08 7 years
Spelling is a deal-breaker for me. I work with guys (chemists) who write rough as "ruff". Drives me crazy!!!
northen123 northen123 7 years
I can forgive the odd mistake, or abbreviations when pressed for space, but otherwise I can't stand poor grammar!
imLissy imLissy 7 years
What bothers me is the extra o in too. It makes it longer, which means he thought it was correct. He's not lazy, he's just stupid. I'd dump him over that.
ayuninur ayuninur 7 years
i agree with bryseana. It doesn't bother me..
girlgreen girlgreen 7 years
I am admittedly extremely judgmental of people with poor grammar, both written and spoken. I tend to think the way a person writes and speaks says more about their education and intelligence than pretty much anything else. I can't type to save my life, though, so my writings generally have typos galore. On AIM, in texts, and even here on Popsugar, I don't correct myself too strictly, but in any professional email or communication, no matter how short, you most certainly will not find any mistakes in my writing. I find it unacceptable that most people cannot write clearly, concisely, and correctly. I'm getting a masters in Journalism and do a lot of editing, and I constantly encounter people who think they can write well, but truly can't. My biggest pet peeve is actually misuse of apostrophes. Way too many people don't know the difference between plurals and possessives.
Venus1 Venus1 7 years
I hate it! Unfortunately I'm the queen of typos though (I wish Sugar had an edit button). I think with text messages there is a need to be quick and snappy but otherwise, whilst I accept times change, I think grammar is important.
juicebox07 juicebox07 7 years
Yes. I find it annoying.
inlove23 inlove23 7 years
Ugh. I found one forum online where the girl would use q's instead of g's and I was like seriously?? I also hate when they type LiKe ThIs, or with zero's as o's.
bryseana bryseana 7 years
It doesn't bother me. I know I've made grammatical mistakes in my life. Typos happen to everyone. It's 4givable. The only deal breaker for me is smoking.
kurniakasih kurniakasih 7 years
Yes, it bothers me to a degree (I had to study super hard to be accepted into a university here in US--pass all their language requirements--and I also majored in journalism so I'm naturally a stickler for good grammar and spelling). I don't mind poor grammar/spelling too much in casual setting (e-mails, texts, etc), although in business/professional setting, I expect them to know how to spell correctly. But I won't dump a guy over it if he has so many other wonderful qualities about him. I have to admit that my husband sometimes mixes up the your and you're, and since it's my husband, I let him know that it's wrong. If it's not my husband, I'll just keep quiet and move on :p
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 7 years
I totally agree with tlsgirl and SKG that we need an edit button. With that said, yes, poor grammar can annoy me. I'm not hugely stiff about it, but when my college-age peers (many of them in college) have really poor grammar skills I just... I just... I just kinda wonder.
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 7 years
Well first of all I don't fault her for having standards. It seems as though these days many of us don't have any. Her standard for perfect grammar is extreme and certainly nothing I would care about but it's hers. She is a presume well educated and intellectual and wants an equal, nothing wrong with that. She's the one that will miss out on some really good men but hey it's her choice. It doesn't mean that the the man she does eventually find that uses good grammar will be a bad guy. I on the other hand can not stand people who are lazy speakers....enunciate enunciate! LOL That is a deal breaker for me. What really turns me on is a dude who can talk street and then walk into a room and sound college educated.
lms lms 7 years
I dislike poor grammar as well. However, it doesn't bother me in a text message b/c I know it is a time saver in a lot of cases. Also, my blackberry does predictive typing, and sometimes it picks a different form of the word that I really meant to use and I will leave it. The people that I am texting know that I am capable of using the proper words. It is not such a big deal for the random word to be wrong in that case. And yes...I do use u or 2 when the mood strikes me. What I can't stand is when my daughter sends me a text that is totally gibberish and tells me it is text talk. That drives me crazy!
KadBunny KadBunny 7 years
Serious turn off for sure. I make mistakes too but sometimes you can just straight up tell when people think they're not doing it wrong (they don't correct themselves or they keep making the same mistakes). It's unforgivable past a certain age. I wouldn't dump a potential boyfriend over a your vs you're, though. What if he's amazing? What if the grammar can be fixed? (A friend of mine made a boyfriend use Pidgin over MSN for the spell check feature, and now he writes perfectly haha :P oh l'amour)
Girl-Jen Girl-Jen 7 years
It's a turn-off. I know, it seems like a petty thing. I try to look past it. But the guys (and ladies) I've known who have poor spelling and grammar, and substitute letters and numbers for complete words, are more short-sighted and reactive than people who concentrate on what they're writing and write out their words correctly. The only exceptions I've found to this rule are my dyslexic friend who is super intelligent but can't write a sentence to save his life; and possibly Prince. Then again, I've never met Prince personally, so I can't really say one way or another.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 7 years
Yes, it drives me nuts (at least those errors that can't be explained away by a simple typo). Substituting "loose" for "lose" makes me especially nuts. I don't correct people though. Also, I'm with you on the "edit" button, SKG! I hate having to come back with an "oops" comment if I've made an error.
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