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Balancing Casual Relationships With Two Guys

"I Want to Have My Cake and Eat It Too"

This week's confession comes from our anonymous Confession Booth group in the TrèsSugar Community. Weigh in with your advice below.

There are two guys in my life, one with whom I share great sexual chemistry and an equally matched sex drive. He's respectful and interesting, but I doubt I'd ever want anything beyond a friends-with-benefits situation. I'm not as physically familiar with the other man, although I have no doubt we'd be a good match, and we're also very well matched mentally and emotionally. He's the kind of guy I'd want to enter a longterm relationship with — and I do want that with him. Problem is, he's fresh out of a relationship and I think he needs a bit of time to get over that.

I disclosed to the first guy that it most likely wouldn't be a longterm thing, so I'm wondering if it would be unethical to hook up with the first guy while giving the second guy some time to heal. I suppose I want to have my cake and eat it too, but I would never overlap guys or try to do anything manipulative. I have absolutely no sort of commitment to either one, and there's no chance of them finding out about each other.

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