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Before Your Big Date, Part I

While a great date can lead to something really special, most of the excitement of going out with someone new comes from the anticipation that we build up beforehand. In fact, I’d even go so far as to say that much of a date’s magic begins building in the early stages — when you’re home getting ready. To see some of my ideas for this important dating ritual,


  • Give yourself plenty of time! I think four hours is too much, but two might be too little. Sneaking in a pep talk phone call from a friend is part of getting ready as far as I’m concerned, so make sure to count that when trying to decide how much time you need.

  • This may sound silly, but I actually think starting out your getting ready routine with a quick 30-minute workout is a great habit to get into. It’ll make you feel sexy, fit, and give your skin a perfect rosy flush.
  • Obviously a shower is in order, and when I know I have something going on, I like to enjoy a long, hot one. You can clear your mind and give your body time to relax before the mad dash of getting dressed begins.
  • While moisturizing, doing your makeup, and deciding on your attire, try blasting some of your favorite tunes. Choose something upbeat and positive. There’s nothing like good music to get you in the mood for a good night.
  • When it comes to getting dressed, don’t wear something simply because you’ve been told it’s cute. Make sure it’s a choice that you feel good in, because the more attractive you feel, the more confident you’ll appear to your date.

Stay tuned for the rest of my tips for getting dressed and out the door on your next date!


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courtneyh courtneyh 8 years
I always pick out my outfit the day before. Otherwise, in the heat of the moment of choosing-everything "makes me look fat"
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 8 years
Great advice. I would probably take the whole 4 hours and pamper myself. I love the idea of getting in a workout so you feel sexy as well as look great. Blast some music, take a long shower and spend extra time exfoliating, shaving, tweezing, moisturizing etc. It makes me feel so sexy even if it's a date with my husband or just hanging around the house.
Greentea1203 Greentea1203 8 years
Anytime I have a big night ahead of me, I spend practically all day getting ready! Hair, nails, skin...the whole bit. It's fun!
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
P.S. the last tip is the best and SO SO true. You won't look good if you have an amazing outfit that makes you feel uncomfortable, b/c your feelings will show.
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
Hahahaha, AyrtonSenna, that's funny, It's weird how different the sexes can be sometimes. :) I like your appreciation of the "artistry" though, lol. I hate when guys complain about how long I (girls in general) take to get ready but then expect you to always look like your a model...ummm...what is it supposed to be magic or something!!!???! I swear, sometimes I think all guys are about 5 years old. :-P I do like to look good for dates...but I don't always try to hard...b/c I don't normally dress up in everyday if he doesn't like the real me even on the first date, he's not a keeper anyway. For example, the only time I wear make-up is pretty much for say a wedding or prom or something of that I don't wear make-up on dates b/c that's just not me. And I'm more of the soft romantic type anyway, not the glamorous type. :) I do usually take just as much time (like 4 hrs, lol) doing other mostly standing around worrying about what's going to happen as I try to focus on getting ready...hahahha. :)
UrbanBohemian UrbanBohemian 8 years
I love all of these tips! They are so on the money!
g1amourpuss g1amourpuss 8 years
stumbler: screw having a boyfriend! do it for yourself! :) I loved being single having all that time to myself. (I had an exboyfriend that wanted me to be like a paintball bike riding tomboy though.. he haaaaaated that I loved lounging in his garden tub and bathroom for hours. I was like give it up, at least I wasn't smothering him and let him have his own time.) AyrtonSenna: my mom had me in modeling classes, but it didn't get me anywhere... I've always studied fashion, makeup, hair, and all that kind of stuff ever since I was 12. And I've dressed myself and played dress up ever since I was at least 4. (it does help I'm not butt-ug so I don't always have to wear make-up and all the girlie stuff. I rarely wear make-up at work, if any if it's slow up there.)
stumbler02 stumbler02 8 years
At first glance it seems somewhat indulgent and shallow to have a routine like this, but I confess that I love getting ready for special dates like this. It's one of the sweeter pleasures in life. Makes me miss my boyfriend :-(
AyrtonSenna AyrtonSenna 8 years
I remember my sister taking hours getting ready for dates. I always thought it was funny, but the end result was that she looked absolutely beautiful. I think my gfs did that as well. I was in awe at the complexity and artistry of it all...just wonderful. Women are just awesome. Where do you women learn all of this stuff? Are there special classes or something? My dad gave me a ten minute shaving lesson and that was it... For a guy: - shower - shave (simultaneously rehearse jokes, anecdotes, pithy observations, questions for the lady) - check nails, teeth, breath - scrutinize face (eyebrows, nose, etc..) - cologne (or maybe not..depends) - break out my best suit or blazer (breath mints in pocket) - stand around marveling at what a handsome devil I am... 40 minutes tops
seraphimm seraphimm 8 years
At first I was like 4 hours?! that's crazy!! then I realized... Yesterday I took 2 hours in the bath for just shaving and plucking. I swear GROOMING TAKES ALL OF MY GETTING READY TIME!! legs, bikini, armpits, eyebrows.. then another hour staring at my closet figuring out what to wear. another hour went by deciding on perfume, lotion and makeup choices... even if I start getting ready at 4pm for a 8pm date, I still feel rushed at the end!!
g1amourpuss g1amourpuss 8 years
Ooo I love dates and getting all dressed up... The workout before the date is a great idea. (If I know I'm getting some I like to be extra flexible..) If I don't have to touch up my roots, I like to start with -- -- a long steamy shower... -- Exfoliate -- Shave -- Oil sugarscrub (my husband loves the gleam it leaves on my breasts) -- then an at home mani/pedi if I haven't made it to the salon, or if my salon nails need a touch up... -- tweeze my brows if I haven't yet that week or had a wax. -- depending on where I'm going I love to do the fake eyelashes next... turn on my curling iron -- and after I blow dry the eyelashes [on a cool setting] I start on my hair.. after my hair is dry (if I had to wash it.. I don't wash it every day) then I curl it... (I don't curl my hair everyday either.. I like to let it rest..) -- While I curl my hair with one hand I do my makeup with the other... -- and then I lotion up last since I oil up in the shower.. that way I smell extra yummy right before I go anywhere.. -- spray down with my Body by Victoria fragrance... -- Get dressed... -- And spray the perfume again on my clothes.. ..and yeah, 4 hours is wonnnnderful to spend on yourself! I like to do 3-4 depending on where I'm going (with a few glasses of wine..) if I have that kind of time :) (If not I start the night or day before on my hair or nails or brows or anything I can get out of the way.. most of the time I split it all up since I have a Toddler at home.. I wait 'til everyone goes to bed then stay up until about midnight having time to myself.) (...and Don't get me wrong.. for Every Day: If I'm just going to work I just take an hour to straighten up my house then another 45mins-1hr to get ready for work, unless we have major clients in for the day.) I love being a girl!
brutalcupcake brutalcupcake 8 years
cute :)
Swen Swen 8 years
This is all so true. My boyfriend has seen me with no makeup, in pajamas, sick, whatever, but I still like to take the time and dress up for a date sometimes as if it was a first date. Taking the time to feel beautiful makes me so happy and confident, and sets the mood for me to have a great night.
CYL CYL 8 years
that seems like a lot of work..maybe I am just a more simple kind of gal. Unless its a very special date (liek an anniversary or b-day dinner) I don't normally put that much effort into getting ready. Lol maybe I am just too easy going :P
skigurl skigurl 8 years
i agree with the last one! i said that exact thing to my sister the other day when she was trying to talk me into a certain outfit for a first date. when you feel confident and happy with what you look like, you're way more sexy. and trust me, if worked out for the better in my case!! i also stand by the upbeat music, full de-hairing routine, moisturizer everywhere, and i also like to pick my outfit ahead of time...before my shower, sometimes the day before, so i can tell what it will look like with dry hair and makeup on, and so that i dont have to worry right before i leave the house!
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