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Best Indicator of a Good Match

What's the Best Indicator of a Good Match?

When it comes to finding someone you're compatible with, there are many factors, and it's not as simple as one plus one equals two.

But if you look at online dating sites, you see a list of categories meant to find your "match." Some sites are even built on certain compatibility measures, such as favorite books, your level of attractiveness (or unattractiveness), your political beliefs, or even your salad preferences.

Besides those, there are religious beliefs, financial situations, personalities, and a slew of likes and dislikes from movies to restaurants to take into account.

In your opinion, what do you think is the best indicator of a good match? Can it be broken down into a category? Or do these factors get tossed out the window when you meet "the one?"

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vinigrette vinigrette 6 years
Awesome, fascinating insights on this topic from behavioral economist Dan Ariely at the site Big Think. I think he's totally right that when you make an attribute searchable (such as height, eye color, religion), it becomes more important than it really is, and we ignore people we otherwise might have met and liked. He also points out that the parameters that are easily searchable aren't necessarily meaningful. We may like a taller man, but there is absolutely no guarantee that just because a man is 6' or taller, his personality or intellect is up to snuff. Link:
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 6 years
I think one indication is when two people love AND like each other.
Angelica-Marden Angelica-Marden 6 years
Well said, zeze! I feel the same.
genesisrocks genesisrocks 6 years
For me, it's life perspective. Sure a go-getter and a slacker, a homebody and someone who's always up for going out on the town and a person who wants the whole traditional life and a person who doesn't believe in marriage can all make it work as couples. But it's so much easier, when two people want the same things
zeze zeze 6 years
I think it's all about personality, and with that, there are no indicators. I've met people who were exactly what I thought I liked, and when you see it all together and it is not as it was in your head, it doesn't work - and then the very things you liked about that person become annoying (ie: if I said I only like someone with certain political beliefs) yet when I meet someone that is not my cookie-cutter type, if the personalities work, then I find myself liking all those things about him that I thought I hated in people.
le-romantique le-romantique 6 years
I think you just click with someone and you just know, as others have said. My current boyfriend and I have a passion for film, which helps, but we have many other things that are opposing (such as musical tastes). Its all about how you interact and how the chemistry is... I don't think it can be measured or created by common interests and beliefs.
jenwils jenwils 6 years
I think values, beliefs, finances, etc are predictors of how long a relationship might last, but not how you choose someone initially. Regardless of how compatibile two people are, if they don't have chemistry (physical, mental, emotional attraction) then I don't think it will work. And unfortunately for the dating sites, you can't measure chemistry.
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