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Blogging About Breakups

On Friday, The New York Times addressed the phenomenon of using the Internet and blogs to write about and process fallen relationships or take revenge on a disgraceful ex. The article notes:

For the blogger, the writing can be therapeutic . . . For some ex-spouses, revenge is not the point. Writing about divorce can be good for readership.

Of course, I can't help but think about the notion of the Internet as a tool for both revenge and therapy. Although I know that more than a few of us have taken revenge, is it OK to use the Web — where everything is easily and indefinitely accessible — to act out our personal vendettas? And though I always recommend journaling as a therapeutic method, I wonder if it's wrong to use a public venue for such a personal process. What do you think? Is the Internet really the place for breakups and divorces?


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thegiraffe thegiraffe 9 years
Hmmz..I understand your point RockAndRepublic, but I think the nice thing about the Internet is that you can allow certain levels of openness. You might not want the whole world to see certain things, but still stay in touch with the people you DO want to read about your experiences. That's what privacy settings do; regulate your privacy while still taking advantage of the net. Ontopic: I would blog in a way that would preserve anonymity for all the people involved. Like I could talk about what I felt, what I'm going through, what we did to each other, how I solved it etc. Just to share common human feelings that others can relate to and to get advice. Kinda like sugar group therapy :) but I wouldn't go saying it's tall joe with the yellow cap who lives on elm street and he's sucha jerk blah blah blah :P
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 9 years
Oh brother. If i need to put my feelings down, i just write them down. Whatever is on the internet is mainly for attention. Nothing dictates that i absolutely need to do something online. I absolutely value my pen. And lets be honest, it's the internet, the idea of anything private is not only ludicrous, it's not just possible. And if privacy were to exist online, what's the point then?
mnp mnp 9 years
I think it's therapeutic. As long as you don't name names, I think it's fine. Sometimes you just want to vent to the world and get some unbiased feedback and comments.
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
I've kept an online journal for yrs but it's private.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
Just because you're blogging about your breakup doesn't mean you're airing your dirty laundry or talking shit about your ex. Most people just talk about their feelings and their new life.
nicachica nicachica 9 years
i don't know...even if it's to a small group of people, i don't like the idea of a blog on the internet because it can ALWAYS be forwarded very easily. If you want it to be private, why not just tell it to someone's face? The internet is NOT private and i think too many times there's a false sense of security that it is. I guess i just don't want everyone knowing my business but if you want to risk putting it out there and having it exposed to a much wider audience, go for it.
millarci millarci 9 years
I'm with Shopaholichunny and WhiplashGirlchild. I blog about it and then set it to private. I just need to vent. The whole world doesn't need to know what I'm venting...
Shopaholichunny Shopaholichunny 9 years
I blog about my break-ups but I set it to private.
WhatTheFrockBlog WhatTheFrockBlog 9 years
I blog about most of my personal stuff, but only to a private group of friends.
ffemt1201 ffemt1201 9 years
i blog about everything but, depending on the subject matter and sensitivity, i just set it to private. i enjoy the benefits of getting it off my chest but it still stays "with me" if i keep it "private". wow, confusing much? i'm sorry.
brittanyk brittanyk 9 years
I think it's fine to blog about your divorce or breakup. I would do it anonymously, mainly for the other person's consideration. I think blogging can be incredibly therapeutic and if that's what is going to help you through your break up, then I don't see a problem with it.
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